Your ONE YEAR ANNIVERSARY, girls what would you want,guys what would you get her?

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🙁 OK lol, I'm a Mom who's in a mad pissy mood (and I'm sick with a cold on top of that) because I feel like my baby girl has been MAD DISRESPECTED.....
This weekend was her ONE YEAR ANNIVERSARY with her bf. He hasn't been the "best" bf by any standards, hers or mine. First of all, she lives with me, we get along real well except for our disagreeing about her choice in men (LOSER BF's, pretty boys, thugs etc), she's beautiful inside & out (hey, I'm a MOM lol, I think so!), and I feel she deserves the BEST (Mom syndrome again). And well, I have tests in the back of my mind that the guy has to pass (well at least pass SOME of them!). Guess what, it's a year later & he has yet to pass any of them (I'll spare you the gruesome details!),including the..........
ONE YEAR ANNIVERSARY TEST!!

Soooooooo, if you're reading this and you're a GIRL, and you've been with a guy for a year through LOTS of trials & tribulations, you've forgiven him (but not forgotten) for ALL the hurt he's caused you in the past (some of it as recent as Xmas & New Years), he still needs ALOT of work, but you LOVE HIM & you're sticking it out (hey you've invested a whole YEAR of HARD WORK into this dumbo, you don't want some other girl to reap the benefits), what do you think you should get (or what would you want)for your ONE YEAR ANNIVERSARY?? Like what kind of present (token of his appreciation), or HOW would you like to be treated (like a romantic escape because you both still live at home, she's 22, he's almost 21)?? PLEASE let me know, and I'll share with you what she got! (Grrrrrrrrrrr!!)

GUYS.......I know that you're ALL not clueless, and unromantic. Soooo, it's YOUR TURN!! This gf has stood the test of time!
She loves you with ALL her heart, and then some lol, she's put up with ALL your immaturity, and inexperience in relationships (him, not you lol, just pretend you're him), your past indiscretions, some which were as recent as New Years,
(you spent your 11 month anniversary which fell on New Years in NY leaving her at a club alone in another state, but at least she was watching a freestyle show & she got to complain to even Angel of The Cover Girls, who if I remember correctly advised her to kick him to the curb lol)

Soooooo, what are you going to do to make it up to her for your FIRST YEAR ANNIVERSARY as a couple? Keep in mind that you've screwed up BIG TIME in the past, and you didn't get dumped cuz she loved you enough to stay with you and she's given you more chances then she can count on BOTH hands. So you're on "romance probation" lol.
WHAT are you going to plan for your ONE YEAR ANNIVERSARY? Are you going to take your time & plan it well, and search for the PERFECT GIFT for her, AND plan something romantic for the 2 of you to do (you both live at home & rarely get to spend any quality alone time)?
Or, be HONEST with me, is your main focus going to be, where's the HOTEL lol, and you rush the gift, and pick it out without any thought or clue as to what she'd really like? (you have a habit of buying cheap jewelry, stuffed animals, and cheap candy in the past lol)
PLEASE let me know how you'd make it special for the girl, and then I'll tell you what she got.....(Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!!)

Thanks, my heart is broken seeing her with this guy, and I need some HELP bigtime (she will be reading your answers)!

Love, Peace, and FREESTYLE for Valentine's Day!!
FreestyleMom:hearton
 
What I would get her if I was in his shoes? Hmmm first I would take mom and daughter out on a date and then at the end of the night apologize.

The next morning you can expect flowers for both of yous to show my appreciation on how you guys put up with me.

Then I will admit my faults and work on them to benefit the girl that I love and gonna spend all my time with.

I think thats what I would do for our one year anniversary. Not huge, nothing expensive, because its only the minor things that outbeat the big things that hardly have any impact.

~Antonio AKA Enigma
 
Thanks Antonio/Enigma!!

🙁 ::sigh:: He not only didn't get anything HUGE, there were NO flowers for either of us!

He was pressured to apologize to her, it didn't seem like it came from his heart. For me putting up with him too, nothing.

To me its the thought & effort that counts, and like I said he put NO THOUGHT or EFFORT whatsoever into their anniversary! On top of that he cashed a tax check & spent $150 on himself and then he rushed and got her a CHEAP looking, nothing special pair of $25 earrings, and when he told me what he got her I was shocked! He let me see them and he said what do you think, and I was honest & I said they're NOT SPECIAL or romantic, or anything, let me try to help you find something else (on such short notice, it was the SAME DAY as their anniversary). All I could find in that price range lol was a cheap heart bracelet that ended up NOT fitting her......

This guy is NOT poor, he has a full-time job, and he lives at home rent-free with well-off parents!

Now she's going to disregard this and all the other negatives he has brought into the relationship if he makes up for this neglect on Valentines Day. You can treat a girl like a QUEEN without spending alot!! And he was such a BAD BOY all year that he had some major making up to do!!

Thanks again for responding, you sound sweet!!

Love, Peace, and FREESTYLE for Valentine's Day!
FreestyleMom:hearton

PS. She got him VERY nice things, some which came straight from her heart that cost practically nothing, AND she bought him a beautiful figaro bracelet that she KNEW he wanted.
 
Re: Thanks Antonio/Enigma!!

Originally posted by FreestyleMom
PS. She got him VERY nice things, some which came straight from her heart that cost practically nothing, AND she bought him a beautiful figaro bracelet that she KNEW he wanted.
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Oh I could tell shes sweet. 🙂 Did you see the thread she made of the Cards? With their pictures on it? And she told me she draws for him and etc. Thats adorable.

But you know what sweety? But Im afraid and I dont mean to sound mean, the one to blame here is both. Mostly the girl not the guy. The girl for accepting how things are, and for allowing him to cross lines in which many girls would not allow a guy to cross.

To me, love signifys alot of things. Friendship, caring and most importantly DEVOTION. Be devoted. Be there, show. Not many guys know what girls go through in everyday life, they go through alot of shit.

But I tell you this much, if you're looking at bad boys thugs, you're looking for sexual pleasure and nothing more. Thats what I feel. How the hell you gonna find a bad boy that will last for eternity with you? Its only when they hit their 40's 50's when these jabronies soften down and realize the mistakes they've done. You cant be bad boy forever. This is just human nature bullshit. The menatility these days is ridiculous.

You like bad boys girl? Then you like bad times. 😉

~Antonio
 
Everything your daughter is going through...I've been there myself with a *Bleep* of a boyfriend. I stood by his side because I thought I loved him I was 16, he was 21 & I had to be the adult of the relationship. I was with him for almost 2 yrs thinking that maybe someday he would finaly wake up & appreciate everything I did for him. I was there for him emotionaly & in every way possible. But when it came to me he couldn't give 2 *bleeps* all he cared about was himself & having everything. People always told him he was blessed because he had a good job, nice family, & bc he had me, a pretty girl who stood by him. His boys wanted his life they even tried to steal me from him...He was a gang member until I came into his life that's when he got out for me. My mom hated him & so did my sister but they knew that I was going to do what I wanted regardless of what they would say or even do. What did we do for our one yr anniversary?? absolutly nothing he stood me up to be with his friends & a few days later he just wanted to take me to the hotel. Well after a while I got tired of crying every night & I got to the point where I couldn't take his *BLEEP* anymore It was getting close to my 18th b-day (he forgot me when I turned 17 that day) when I finaly broke it off. Enough was enough I prefered to be alone & cry than to cry over him.
My point is that I'm hoping that she will realize all that' she's doing is not worth it. I was so much younger than your daughter is (I'm 19 now) & I hope that she too realizes what she's realy worth. I know she loves him and love is blind. But she has to realize what she is worth...she should be treated like she was a queen. I'm not saying to buy anything but to have a man SHOW her how much he cares. I care for your daughter like she's my sister. I've tried to be there for her like she was there for me. I'm hoping that he's going to realize what he has & start to treating her better. I know she loves HIM so I want HIM to be the one to change & recognize what she is really about. But she should bluntly say how she wants to be treated. I had one guy treat me like a Queen & it's the best feeling in the world. But mom remember we are all fools at one time no matter what they do. :crap
 
i agree with enigma she's mostly the one to blame for putting up with it
 
Yeah the girl's to blame mostly, (for not waking up and smelling the cofee LOL!) cause he's in it too. 😀 (A mom always takes her son/daughters side no matter what, the majority)

But I wanted to give a shoutout to Freestylemom

I mean how many caring daughters wished they had a great mom there for them. 🙁

How a mother can be there and never give up. Offering love and tender care.

Take for instance my mom. Todate my sister is living with us. She has a bachelor degree in Criminal Police Science. Not married, smokes weed, and can't have kids. (She had an abortion and I guess something went wrong. Bad procedure? I guess) The guy she is dating is a piece of shit. But she doesnt realize it. My sister has always gone for the guys who are of the bad type. She doesnt like caring nice guys I guess. My mom always there on her 24/7 with the great advise but she doesnt take it!!! Why???

Its phucked up how in the future when shes 50 she will realize her wrong doing but it sucks that things in life must go that way. Why cant she open up her mind NOW and take my mothers advise? She doesnt take mine, nobodys.

I cant believe how concrete she has to be and yet keeps enduring more months as they come by with torture and stupidity from this man? I just dont get it. And he has a kid, which is even worse because he still has contact with his ex, and he stays over her house. LOL My sis is a freaking dinosaur and my mother is a God.

But I must give credit to all the parents out there that support thier child no matter what. There for them and giving them love and advise. So with this said, I give a strong shoutout to Freestylemom for being so adorable and caring!!

~Antonio Martinez
 
Thanks for responding!!

:crap I am calming down guys lol, I have to! I have to be strong even though its hard. And it sounds like you both know what I'm going through.

Welcome to the board Miss Peru, gee, don't I know you from somewhere lol?? Thanks for your heartfelt reply. I know that you've been down that rocky road and that you're a strong woman and made the best of a bad situation. I respect you for your strength and compassion. I appreciate your efforts to help both me and my daughter. I guess love is truly blind, huh? Well, he's got what she wants right now. She's physically attracted to him BIG TIME, and he says he loves her and is devoted to her. Soooo, we'll just have to see if he stands the test of time, know what I mean?? And thanks for being like a sis to her!

Enigma/Antonio, what can I say? You feel my pain, and you're in a similar situation. I see what you're saying. They ARE devoted to each other, many have tried to separate them with NO SUCCESS might I add.
I'm sorry to hear about your sister. Maybe she'll come to her senses. My sis eventually did, but now shes raising her 12 year old son by herself, and she doesnt have a man in her life, and he hasnt had a father since he was really young. Thats what karma came back to her for picking bad boys, and pretty boys. She also has to live with my SAINT of a Mom. She's struggling, but she's learned from her mistakes.

As for my daughter she is ALSO a criminal justice grad/major, and she's got her sh*t together except for this flaw! Well, she's young, I'm patiently hoping that she'll change. Thank you for the kind words, I really try to be a good Mom. I even mother her friends and bfs lol. I'll let you know how things turn out, presently things got worse over the weekend, thats why I haven't been online, and he's like uhhhhhh homeless after a blow-up with HIS Mom (she isn't nice like me lol). Take care, thanks for your heartfelt reply too!

Love, Peace, and Freestyle,
FreestyleMom:hearton
 
WOW THATS SOME SHIT

WELL IF I HAD TO STEP INTO HIS SHOES
TO BE STRAIGHT UP IM A TYPE OF PERSON THAT IS NOT MATERIALISTIC PERSON
AND IF YOUR DAUGHTER GAVE ME A FLOWER FROM THE FLOOR I WOULD ACCEPT IT AND CHERISH IT
I WOULD TAKE HER OUT TO DINNER AND B4 ALL THAT I WOULD HAD HER ROOM FULLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL OF BALLOONS AND ROSES AND HAVE ROSE PETALS ON HER BED AND ALL

AND FOR MOM DUKES I WOULD GIVE HER A BOUTQUE OF ROSES AND A CARD AS TO SAY I APOLOGIZE AND THANKIN YOU FOR ACCEPTING ME IN YOUR WORLD
AND FROM THERE JUST LET THE DAY TAKE ITS COURSE
 
AS A WOMAN THAT HAS BEEN BY HER MAN'S SIDE FOR 6 YRS (unmarried)..I'M ONE NOT TO EXPECT MUCH AROUND ANNIVERSARIES...I CAN TELL YOU THAT IN THOSE YEARS HE MIGHT'VE GOTTEN ME A CARD BUT NOT MUCH THAT I CAN REMEMBER...LOL...

THE FACT THAT WE ARE STILL TOGETHER AFTER ALL THIS TIME PROVES ALOT..MATERIALS ARE UNIMPORTANT..THE TIME WE HAVE TOGETHER ON THIS EARTH IS THE MOST IMPORTANT THING OF ALL TO ME. THERE IS PLENTY OF TIME FOR EXPENSIVE AND LAVISH GIFTS AND YOU DON'T NEED A SPECIFIC OCCASSION TO GIVE THESE THINGS TO ONE ANOTHER..

MY WISE MAN ALWAYS SAID TO ME " YOU HAVE TO TEACH PEOPLE HOW TO TREAT YOU"...AND THAT GOES FOR HIM TOO...SO FREESTYLE MOM THE FACT THAT YOUR DAUGHTER HAS THIS BF THAT TREATS HER THE WAY HE DOES IS ONLY DONE WITH HER PERMISSION...SHE WILL WAKE UP ONE DAY (LIKEWISE FOR YOUR SIS, ANT) AND ALL WE CAN PRAY FOR IS THAT SHE FINDS THE HAPPINESS THAT SHE DESERVES.
 
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