Darn it....I wanna CHEAT!

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Hey Putana!!! How are you doing? Im not doing good at all....and you want to know why, because i was stupid enough to take my man (now ex man) back more than once....then me n him ended up breaking up on easter cuz he wants everything in life to be free, so hes moving to NY......
Thennnnn I finally get him to admit what i knew in my heart, but tried to not think about...... Last week I found out that my old baby, who i thought "loved" me more than anything and swore up and down he would never be untrue......what a LIAR....he CHEATED on me!!!
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Well i guess words are just words cuz he fell into "temptation" three times throughout our almost 14 month relationship :crap Doesnt that make me feel like absolute ish?? He let me move in with him and never told me he cheated on me on New Years eve in NY, while i was in pa and on top of that it was our 11 month anniversary and he spent it with his ex,the one i worried about the most......sure i bet his grammother was really sick. i bet he knew she was gonna be there!!! he never told me what he did and he told me that he didnt see her.

We moved in feb 16 only a lil while after he cheated.....how cold and heartless...he never told me. How is that love if you can just trun your feelings on and off??

If you truly loooooooove someone "REAL LOVE can not be replaced by one night stands!"( devious witch)....by material items, superficial girls, all the money in the world, NOTHING AT ALL can replace LOVE, someone who loves you and you love them, what could be more important, how could you be willing to risk something so rare for some temporary selfish sexual satisfaction?

Putana-
"I'm back with my 'baby's mama' & we're trying to make amends....I truly feel like I love her & love to be around her"

If you trulllllllllly love her, than thats great I wish you both the best...its always nice to see two people who are willing to work on love...and enjoy each others company.

"Can I love someone, yet wanna bang someone else?!?! " But Putana if you questioned your love.......than right their to me that shows me that you dont really love her in the faithful committed forever way. Cuz if you wanna bang someone else just thinkin of that to me is disrespectful to her cuz thoughts can definitely qucikly turn onto actions if the perfect cheating sitation would present itself on a platter right in front of you....youd take it, wouldnt you??? Than to me thats not love......

"And I don't wanna "cheat" in the sense that I want another serious relationship! I'm just talking f*ck buddies!"

To me if thats what you want is F*^$ buddies than follow your instincts and set her free so she doesnt get hurt.

"I'm only speaking my heart here!" i dont think youre speakin from youre heart ....i think youre speakin from somewhere down there u know where.

To me it doesnt sound like youre ready to settle down.....thats not fair if you have your cake and eat it too. you should talk to your girl about your feelings before you do act on them......if you love her dont hurt her!!!!!!!!!!

If you really love her dont let your animal instincts kick in...dont have a wandering eye, cherish what you have and think youre the luckiest man on earth....watch all the guys check out ur girl rather then u check out other girls....i dunno Putana, but your post hit my heart.....mines still mending.....i will never forgive him so think about that CHEATING isnt forgivable.
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Well said Mandy!!!

and Putana....it was ENIGMA who responded not ELEAR!!! LMFAO
 
JEN JEN.....UR ABOSULUTELY RIGHT..WE ALL DO, ITS NORMAL..WE ARE NOT UNDERESTIMATING HIM..I RESPECT HIM TOO AND I KNOW THE OTHERS DO TOO...HE HAD THE GUTS TO EXPRESS HIMSELF WITH NO SHAME...WE ARE JUST EXPRESSING AS WOMEN WHO HAVE BEEN HURT IN SITUATIONS LIKE THIS..AND I DO BELIEVE THAT HE'S DOING WHAT HE THINK IS BEST.😉

MANDY EXPRESS IT..U WILL BE OK MA..NICELY WRITTEN...

IN MY OPINION CHEATING CAN BE FORGIVEABLE BUT NEVER FORGOTTEN😕

THE GUYS HERE ARE NOT AS BRAVE AS PUTANA TO POST THEIR OPINIONS....EVEN IF ITS THE SAME THOUGHTS OR WORST..POST UR OPINION GUYS.....:blah 😉
 
Mandy,

I'm sorry if I hit home with my thread! I know that I kinda sounded like a real jerk on this thread which is why i put the P.S. at the end! Perhaps your right...maybe it IS my pee pee doing the thinking rather than my corazon! I wish some guys would post if they agree with me....again, I was in my college Speech class several months ago and there was a debate in that class that lasted almost an hour. Most guys saw my view! they feel strongly about loving their wife/girlfriend, but feel like they can "freak" someone else & still love their woman! Is that the most heartless sentence in this post or what?

Anyway, like I said, I've been feeling good lately & haven't had a desire to cheat! Deep down, I know its wrong which is why i posted here in the 1st place. I really don't know what else to say!

Again, sorry Mandy if my words upset U or reminded U of something U didn't want 2 be reminded of!

by the way, I meant Enigma on my previous post, not Elear, sorry Enigma!!!
 
I understand you Putana. Sometimes I have that same desire. But I have never reacted to it! It's hard to say what's right and wrong anymore. I guess we're intitled to have our thoughts and dreams. But we just can't act them out!
 
quite a dilema you got there dude... can't really tell ya what to do, but keep this in mind. you wouldn't want her doing the same to you now would you?

be true to yourself. and think about this... is it worth losing someone as close/special to you as your woman over a piece of a$$? It's like playing russian roulette with your love life... are you willing to take a chance on something that will change your life for the worse? sounds to me like you got everything you need right at home bud...

i for one admire the fact that you came right out and said what you did... when I was engaged, I went thru the same thing. I had a wonderful (atleast I thought so back then) woman at home... I used to look at other women and be like dayum... I want some of that... but then when I came home at night, and I saw here laying in the bed. Asleep... looking only the way she would... I used to say to myself "and lose this? no way".

Putana, IMHO ALL MEN have thoughts like you do... each and every single one does... And women have too...

be real to yourself... and like this old spanish saying
"nunca dejes paloma en mano, por cien volando"
 
I used to be the one laying in bed waiting for my man to come home, and I only wish he had the comman sense that 8th Had, but alas he didn't and we're no longer together, do to his penis doing his thinking for him. Mind you we also have a son, Be more of a man than he was Jorge, I know you are.
 
Whoa!

When I saw you posted in this thread Nyasia, I thought I was in for it! 🙂 Glad it wasn't a "chew out"! I really am trying!

My next statement isn't conceded in any way, but since I've lost 40 pounds over the last year, I guess I look a little more attractive & just wonder..."what exactly can I do with my new found powers?" LOL! At least the weight loss thing hasn't gone unnoticed to members of the opposite sex...that's ALWAYS a good thing! But 8th-Sin, U pinpointed something I do on occasion...I sometimes look at my chickie while she sleeps, she really is one-in-a-googooplex! Silly me, Trix are for kids....
 
Well I know what it was to be cheated on. I had my baby's mama cheat on me. I took her back just to have her do it again. So don't do it man. Don't, cause if she loves you and cares for you, it will destroy her world. Just like it did mine.
 
Its all about "Will Power" baby. 🙂

Your girl treats you right? Your girl got a great ___ between those legs? What more do you want? Thats so wrong to feel lust from another when you should feel lust on what is beside you. 🙂

You got a kid, a girl, a home...damn...there is nothing out there for you. From the heart! Thats the way I see things.

~Antonio
 
PUTANA OBVIOUSLY SHE MUST BE A GOOD WOMEN FOR ONE BECAUSE YOU CHOSE ON TRYING TO MEND THINGS. I THINK IT IS HUMAN NATURE TO BROWSE FOR BOTH WOMEN AND MEN IT SEEMS THAT EVNE WHEN YOU ARE INA RELATIONSHIP YOU TEND TO WONDER ABOUT WHATS OUT THERE OR MORE SO GLANCE ABOUT. I PERSONALLY WHEN I AM KICKEN IT OR INVOLVED WITH SOMEONE THATS IT FOR ME I MAY LOOK AT ANOTHER MAN AND BE LIKE DAYUM PAPI IS FINE BUT IT WILL NEVER CROSS MY MIND TO WANT TO SLEEP WITH SOMEONE OTHER THEN THE ONE I AM SHARING MY BED WITH. I WILL APPRECIATE THE BEAUTY BUT I AM MORE THEN CONTENT THEN WHAT I HAVE TO THINK ABOUT CROSSING THAT LINE WITH SOMEONE ELSE. PA SHE SOUNDS LIKE A GOOD WOMEN AND SHE IS FOR ANOTHER THE MOTHER OF YOUR KIDS IF YOU TRULY LOVE HER DONT TAKE THE CHANCE ON LOOSING HER. SO OFTEN MEN IN PARTICULAR TALK ABOUT HOW HARD IT IS TO FIND A GOOD WOMAN AND WHEN THEY HAVE THEM RIGHT BEFORE THEM THEY ARE TOO BLIND TO SEE IT IM NOT SAYING WOMEN DONT DO THE SAME THING BUT A OMAN IS USUALLY QUICKER TO HOLD ONTO A GOOD MAN THEN A MAN IS A WOMAN. I WAS INVOLVED WITH SOMEONE WHO SAID I WAS EVERYTHING A MAN COULD WANT BUT BECAUSE HE WAS STILL STUCK ON HIS EX WOMAN HE DIDNT GIVE US A REAL SHOT SO NOW HE IS FACED WITH THE FACT THAT HE COULD HAVE HAD IT ALL IN ME BUT NOW ITS TO LATE. HOLD ONTO WHAT YOU GOT IN THIS DAY AND AGE REAL WOMEN GOOD WOMEN ARE A RARE THING THERE ARE A LOT OF SCANDOLOUS CHICKS OUT THERE AND A LOT ABSENT MINDED MEN. SO IF YOU IF YOU HAVE EYES BE WISE ENOUGH TO OPEN THEM WHEN YOU HAVE A GOOD THING STANDING BEFORE YOU DONT TAKE THE RISK OF WAITING ANOTHER LIFE TIME TO FIND SOMEONE WHO WILL STEAL YOUR HEART AWAY PUTANA SHE HAS YOUR HEART LET HER LIVE IN IT AND BE THE ONE AND ONLY ONE FOR YOU AND IF SHE IS AS PRETTY AS YOU SAY THEN YOU HAVE HIT THE LOTTO LOL. I CLOSED MY HEART OFF FOR A WHILE THINKING LOVE WASNT FOR ME THAT OCULD NEVER BE FOR ME BUT I REALIZED I WAS DEPRIVING MYSELF OF THE CHANCE OF HAVING SOMETHING REAL AND NOW MY HEART IS OPEN AGAIN NOT LOOKING BUT IF HE COMES ALONG AND STEALS IT I HOPE HE IS AS GOOD A MAN AS YOUR WOMAN IS TO YOU MUCH LUV 😀
 
Originally posted by Nyasia
very well said mama.
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Wow thats what Im saying! 😀

Very beautiful and straight from the heart Sexyangel!

Nyasia...I like your "gatita" quote and icon lol

~Antonio
 
SORRY IF I SOUND BITCHY IN ANY WAY I JUST WANT TO CLEARLY SPEAK MY MIND AND POST HOW I FEEL!!

PUTANA UR A MAN WITH A KID AND A GREAT G/F! YOUR LIFE SHOULD REVOLVE AND FOCUS ON HOW YOU ARE GOIN TO BE A GOOD FATHER TO YOUR SON, AND SUPPORT HIM. YOU STATED THAT YOU HAVE A WONDERFUL BEAUTIFUL G/F. WHY WOULD YOU EVER WANT TO LOSE THAT? YOU SHOULDNT BE THINKING ABOUT HOW YOUR GOIN TO GET A NEW PEICE OF ASS! BUT THINK ABOUT HOW OR WHAT YOU CAN DO THAT WOULD BE SPEACIAL TO YOUR G/F AND YOUR SON.
YOU SAID THAT U LOST 40LBS AND NOTICED THAT THE GIRLS WERE EYEING YOU, YOUR GIRLFREIND OVER LOOKED THOSE 40LBS AND FELL IN LOVE WITH THE REAL YOU.
YOU TWO OBVIOUSLY SHARE SOMETHING GREAT AND GET ALONG WELL BECAUSE AFTER ALL THAT TIME THAT YOU GUYS SEPERATED, YOU ARE NOW BACK TOGETHER!
SO I LEAVE YOU WITH THIS IS A ONE NIGHT STAND "A !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! BUDDY" WORTH LOOSING TWO PEOPLE YOU LOVE?
IS IT REALLY WORTH LOOSING YOUR SONS TRUST AND PUTING SUCH HATE AND MISSORY IN HIS LIFE FOR THAT ONE NIGHT?
THINK THIS WHEN YOUR SON THINKS OF HIS FATHER HE WANTS TO THINK OF A STRONG MAN WHO LOVED HIS MOTHER AND WAS MAN ENOUGH TO KEEP A STRONG RELATIONSHIP BY SACRAFICING HIS LITTLE URGES. A RESPONSIBLE RESPECTFUL FATHER! SOME ONE HE LOOKS UP TO,
OR DO YOU WANT TO HAVE A SON WHO HATES HIS FATHER FOR CHEATING ON HIS MOTHER AND CAUSIN HER SO MUCH PAIN? A SON WHO CANT EVEN STAND TO LOOK AT YOUR FACE..
DONT JUST THINK ABOUT YOUR FEELINGS THINK ABOUT YOUR G/F, AND WHAT SHE GAVE UP TO BE WITH YOU... WHY DONT YOU TRY YOUR NEW THINGS WITH HER INSTEAD OF SOME HOE WHO WONT BE THERE FOR YOU WHEN YOU NEED HER OR FEEL LONELY.. DONT BRING STRESS UPON YOURSELF IN ONLY CAUSES HEARTACHE AND HEADACHE...LIVE IN A STRESS FREE ENVIORMENT!!
GOOD LUCK


COME ON BEBE HAVE MORE COMMON SENSE
 
Well I've sat back and read all the post and decided to post a respond.

Life is such a difficult thing to live through. And everyone in the world is different and feels different. The outside picture may look beautiful to some, but we all don't know what the other is feeling within their hearts. It's hard to post what I feel because I too feel like Putana does. We as friends cannot really tell someone what he/she has to do because we are not in their heart and mind and are not in control of their feelings. They may not be either. Advice is good to give, but unless you're the one with the stirred feelings, you cannot fully understand what the other is going through. Feelings are very powerful and can be hard to control. It has to be something that he/she has to figure out on his/her own. I wish you luck Putana!!
 
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... YOU SAID THAT U LOST 40LBS AND NOTICED THAT THE GIRLS WERE EYEING YOU, YOUR GIRLFREIND OVER LOOKED THOSE 40LBS AND FELL IN LOVE WITH THE REAL YOU....
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Just to clarify that, when we met I was 140lbs at 5'10" (that's right...I was UNDERWEIGHT). So she knew a slimmer ME! Going on dinner dates to T.G.I.Fridays, Bennigans, Chili's and Applebee's with her caused me to blimp up! Surprisingly, she only put on a few lbs, even after having the baby!

Freakin' 'fast metabolism' people! 😡
 
I Know A Lot Of Males And Female That Feel The Same Way Putana Feels. And When I Ask Why They Say"it's "the Change Of Weather" Hot Breezy Days Gurls Come Out In Sexy Clothes ,guys Ome Out In Tank Tops. Or What Ever Have You..i Worked In A Club As A Bar Tender And I Seen Many Wives And Husbands ,boy Friends And Girfriends ,cheeting On There Spouse Or What Ever Have You..or Either Getting Cheeted On. It Has Taught Me A Lesson A Good Lesson .just To Watch For Certain Signes And .just To Keep Your Mate Happy So They Don't Go Astray .even When We Don't Want To Compromise In The Bedroom ,at Time They Still Go Astray .like ? I Don't Know. [so I Tell My Man If He Feels Like He Ever Wants To Do That To Warn Me.lol Yeah Right If That Ever Happens. But Yeah We Got The Home Wreckers And For Men And Women The Good Committers And Then .so Much Drama . Just Keep That Gurl Happy And Stay With Her. Cause I' M Sure That If It Was Her Posting This On This Foum And You Read Her Thoughts You'd Be Like Oh Really Himmmmmmmmmmmmm.i Don't Like This At All. You FeEll Me . But I Can Understand Your Point Of View As Well. I Had A Lot Of Uncle Who Taught Me Well And I've Watched Them How They Are With Women. They Say Oh But We Are Young. And Wifey Is Supposed T Stay Home And Do This And That.oh Please. Lol But A Good Women Is Always Worth Wating For And Staying Faithful Too Hey Man She Gonna Have Ya Back For Life ..if You Got Hers.ya Feel Me. And There Is Only One Good Women Like That .the One On Your Side. But .thank God For People And There Advice...it Always Make S Ya Think.i Know It Makes Meee.good Luck In You Love Life Putana.nice Having Honest Men Around.P.SSS. ONE MORE THING ..THERE IS ONE THING NOONE LIKES TO FEEL IS LONELY. AND WHEN YOU LOOSE SOME ONE YOU LOVE THAT IS WHEN YOU KNOW HOW DEEPLY AND TRULY YOU DO MISS THEM AND LOVE THEM . AND YOU DO NOT WANT TO WAKE UP TO A DIFFERENT FACE EVERY DAY OR WHEN EVER YOU GET THE URGE,IT'S DEAD. YOU GONNA JUST WANT THAT ONE PERSON TO SHARE THINGS WITH, TO SHARE YOUR LOVE WITH. NOT AN EVERY DAY QUICK ASS GET AWAY CHICAKEN HEAD. WHO GOD KNOWS GAVE IT TO MANY OTHERS BEFORE YOU....WHEN YA SINGLE IT'S OK TO PLAY BUT COMMITTED IS CALLED AND DEFINES COMMITTED CAUSE THERE'S NO PLAY. LOOKING I SAY IT'S OK TO LOOK EVERY ONE LIKE EYE CANDY. LOL HEHEHEHE SORRY I TOOK UP ALL THIS SPACE. BUT GOOD LUCK AGAIN. LOVE HER . GOOD LUCK PUTANA. AMEN. AND I DID NOT MEAN TO OFFEND ANY ONE AT ALL BY MY OPINION. ONE LOVE TO ALL YALL CF.S HEAD. AND WE DO NEED MORE MENS OPINIONS.
 
All I gotta say is.. You DONT actually LOVE This woman if this is what you are thinking of doing! How would you FEEL if SHE was feeling the same way.. Wanting OTHER men - but stated she loved you..When you LOVE someone.. thats the ONLY person YOU desire! I say.. move on.. if you dont love this woman.. dont play her!
 
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