What Do You Do When Something Is Always In Your Way Of Something Good?

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WELL I BASICALLY NEED HELP HERE.....I BASICALLY STARTED IN THE REALESTATED FIELD AND IN THIS FIELD SOMETIMES YOU MAKE GREAT MONEY AND SOMETIMES YOU DON'T.....SO ABOUT 5MOS. AGO THEY GAVE ME A SIDE JOB OF DOING A HOUSE OVER SINCE I'M GOOD IN CARPENTRY, SHEET ROCKING AND ETC...WELL THEY LIKED MY JOB SO MUCH THAT A LOT OF PEOPLE STARTED GIVING ME ALL THESE SIDE JOBS....AND NOW I FIND MYSELF WORKING ANYWHERE FROM 14 TO 16 HOUR DAYS INCLUDING WEEKENDS.....I MEAN THE MONEY IS UNBELIEVABLE THAT I'M MAKING ......BUT NOW I FIND MYSELF ALWAYS TIRED, GROGGY AND FATIGUED....SO HERE'S MY DILEMA.....I FIND THIS GREAT GIRL....AND I KEEP GIVING HER EMPTY PROMISES OF SEEING HER AND BEING WITH HER....BUT IT NEVER ENDS UP THAT WAY....WHEN I GET HOME I ALWAYS PASS OUT AND WHEN I WAKE UP, I'M ON THE RUN.....MY BRAIN IS FRIED AND NOT FOCUSED.....I BARELY GO OUT.....I'M NOT MYSELF ANYMORE......AND NOW SHE'S UPSET WITH ME...I GOT TO SEE HER THIS WEEKEND AT A CLUB AND I SENSED HER BEING UPSET WITH ME...I FELT SICK AND MY ALERGIES WAS KILLING ME...MY FRIENDS WANT TO LEAVE.......I MEAN SHE WAS MAD AT ME OUR CONVERSATIONS WERE SHORT AND SHE WOULDN'T EVEN LOOK AT ME.....SO I LEFT....I KNOW IT WAS THE WRONG THING TO DO.....BUT I FEEL LIKE I CAN'T TAKE IT ANYMORE WITH ANYTHING.......WHAT CAN I DO TO MAKE HER ATLEAST SPEAK TO ME AGAIN????? I BASICALLY FOUND OUT THAT I DON'T HAVE TIME FOR MYSELF AND I KNOW THAT IF I DON'T HAVE TIME FOR MYSELF I CAN'T GIVE HER THE TIME THAT I WANT TO GIVE HER...HOW CAN I MAKE THIS WORK?????


ANTHONY AKA FREESTYLE LOVER
 
Keep going with this side job stuff and let her know it will all be worth it in the future... then turn it over into your own business (if its what you want) and hire a co-worker to help you... You can still make good dough and get jobs done quicker and have more time for her...

If you dont like the side jobs that much...

Whats more important... your losing the most important thing here... This question led me to one conclusion... LOVE or MONEY?

So...? I am just trying to be real.. not mean... okie..? Good luck...

wurd
~Desejo
 
DJ DESEJO.....THAT'S EXACTLY WHAT I'M TRYING TO FIGURE OUT!!!!! I ALREADY HIRED 3 GUYS OF MY OWN TO WORK FOR ME.....I JUST GOT ANOTHER 4 JOBS IN ONE DAY....I MEAN I CAN OPEN MY OWN BUSINESS AND BE SET FOR LIFE AND BE MY OWN BOSS EVEN THOUGH I FEEL LIKE THAT NOW.....THIS COULD BE THE BIG BREAK THAT I'M LOOKING FOR...AND I LOVE DOING THESE JOBS.....BUT IT'S BASICALLY EATING UP ALL MY TIME AND I KNOW ONCE I BASICALLY GET SITUATED IT WILL BE EASY FOR ME...RIGHT NOW I DON'T TRUST MY WORKERS (SINCE THEY ARE NEW) SO I HAVE TO BE THERE FROM THE START UNTIL THE ENDING....UNTIL I BUILD MY CONFIDENCE WITH THEM THEN I CAN RELAX A BIT.....BUT I FEEL BAD BECAUSE I REALLY LIKE THIS GIRL AND I FEEL LIKE IM PLAYING WITH HER EMOTIONS WHEN IN REALITY I'M NOT....I'M JUST NOT MYSELF RIGHT NOW...I HOPE SHE CAN UNDERSTAND THAT.....BUT THESE ARE ONE OF THE HARDEST THINGS THAT ONE HAS TO THINK ABOUT..

ANTHONY AKA FREESTYLE LOVER
 
Wow DjDesejo explained it very well...Brett, remind me to come to you for any questions or dilemas I might have.

Sounds to me though that your very unhappy and stressed with your workload and that part of the problem is effecting this special girl and what it's doing to you mentally and physically. Step aside and see if you really want to continue doing these side jobs or like DjDesejo said get someone to help you. If not you might lose this girl and your mind....eventually it will burn you out which sounds like it already did. Goodluck!😀
 
my advice would be to take a vacation since u have other workers there just for a week or weekend and take the girl with u and surprise her with it and then you can tell her that you wanted to surprise her with a vacation for the two of you!and if she cares about you the same as you do for her she will try to be more understanding of whats more important for right now and she will stick through this with you and instead of going to a club that causes more physical stress why dont you guys try renting some movies ordering out and spend a quiet night at home and let her rub your back and feet and show that she is more concerned with your health instead of your time?!I dont know i sound crazy maybe lol😉
 
LMAO Freestylelover...I remember that commercial. 😛
 
I know its hard man... reality vs. your heart. Thats what life is all about... making decisions like this... I mean your heart is telling you to go for the girl and drop everything but your head is saying this is a money making oppurtunity here and dont mess it up.

I think that you should stick to the job(s) and IF she really likes you as muchas you like her... She should b understanding.... PATIENCE is the key.

I never was too good at patience but i just got a new tat of japanese letters sayin"Strive for Patience" it reminds me that I need to be patient with these kind of things in life.

I hope I have been helpful man. Good Luck, but remember that all good things come to those who wait. And if shes important to you... it'll all work out. As long as you let her know... remind her every day of what she means to you... Much Luv

~Desejo
 
FreestyleLover

What's more important to you....your relationship....
or money??? Just take some time off and relax to think about your priorities...because I was in a simular situation and I ended up quitting my job cause I love my man too much to lose him over some stupid job!....
just a thought😀
 
if things are going REALLY WELL @ work... don't listen to these people... you need to stay goal orientated... if you lose that then she might lose the reason why she liked you in the first place... If she likes you... then SHE SHOULD UNDERSTAND... you are helping your future AND POSSIBLY HERS... much luck
~Desejo
 
I agree with DJ !!!! But Im sure you have at least 1 day during the week to spend time with this person.


....AND I KEEP GIVING HER EMPTY PROMISES OF SEEING HER AND BEING WITH HER

That really sucks 🙁 !! As a person having to gone through that we tend to get tired of that and walk away no matter how much you want things to be. Unexpectically sometimes someone else walks in our lives and tend to fill the emptynes that is missing from that other person (meaning you)

Whatever your outcome is I wish you the best, follow your heart, Your a sweetheart and Im sure she is too 😉
 
May I??????

Hi Anthony!!

I would like you to know that you aren't alone with this issue. Pedro works alot of hours just like you do. When we firs started out we went through the same shit and it was hard. I found myself wanting to run away from him because he was always working or if he wasn't he was constantly tired and falling asleep. I think that if this girl cares for you as much as you seem to care for her, you can come to a compromise. It might be hard at first, but in time everything will smooth itself out. Don't be so hard on yourself!!! You are young and you are very bright. She needs to be understanding as well. Love doesn't pay the bills. Try to come up with a solution that both of you will be happy with until you can trust the people who work for you.
Love is unconditional and has no boundaries. It is a gift to be loved, not a right. If this is meant to be, then you will be able to work it out......Pedro and I did and 11 years later all that suffering I went through paid off.
Just wanted to let ya know what I thought......hope to see you soon!!

Lisa
 
don't worry be happy!!!

everyone gave you great advice already!! i think that this women knows you are busy working. maybe you can take some time out from your busy life and have a talk w/her over dinner. if you and her are meant to be then nothing is going to interfere. you need to be straight forward and say to her what you wrote here. i think she'll understand. maybe something else is bothering her,you won't know unless you ask. whatever it is it will work it self out. just communicate and see what happens. if she is still angry and doesn't want to talk give her space. just reasure her that you care. well good luck !!! 😉

actions speak louder then words!!!
 
HMMMM LEMME SEE IF I CAN HELP 😉

SOUNDS TO ME LIKE YOU ARE OVERWORKED AND YOU ARE REALIZING THAT IT IS AFFECTING MORE THEN JUST YOUR PERSONAL LIFE BUT YOUR PHSICAL TO. YOU HAVE TO WORK HARD TO GET AHEAD IN LIFE THERE IS NO DOUBT ABOUT THAT SO EVERY NOW AND THEN YOU HAVE TO BUST YOUR ASS TO BUILD FOR THE FUTURE. SWEETY YOU NEED TO TAKE TIME OUT FOR YOURSELF, YOU NEED TO PUT YOURSELF AND HEALTH FIRST I SAY HEALTH BECAUSE YOU ARE NOT GETTING THE REST YOU NEED. YOU GOTTA DO WHAT YOU HAVE TO DO TO MAKE YOUR MONEY SO DO THAT BUT DONT KILL YOURSELF IN THE PROCESS.

.....I FIND THIS GREAT GIRL....

AS FOR THIS GREAT GIRL, IF SHE IS THAT GREAT THEN SHE UNDERSTANDS IF NOT WOULDNT THE EMPTY PROMISES GIVEN MADE HER LEAVE HMMMMM, IF YOU LIKE THIS GIRL THEN YOU OWE IT TO YURSELF TO GET TO KNOW HER BETTER BUT MOST IMPORTANTLY YOU OWE YOURSELF TIME TO ADJUST TO THE CRAZINESS IN YOUR LIFE IF YOUR JOB ISNT SOMETHING YOU CAN SLOW DOWN ON AT THIS MOMENT. THE LITTLEST THINGS IN LIFE ARE THE MOST SATISFYEING DONT YOU THINK HMMMMM. I HOPE I HAVE HELPED IN SOME WAY ALL I HAVE SAID LETS SAY IS SOME WHAT OF SOMETHING I AM GOING THROUGH 😉
 
good point ladies...and Desejo. Hope things work out for ya, Ant. ur too young to let stressget to ya. latersss.

peace,
M...
 
I Basically found out that I dont have time for myself and if I dont have time for myself I can't give her the time that I want to give her:

Since you have already realized what it is that keeps you to apart
it makes it that much easier to deal with. Your doing what you have to do business wise, but, like angel said you need to take care of you too. Secondly when you have learned to seperate business from personal you may be able to find a few moments in the day or week for you to gather your thoughts and rest.I think that if your schedule is that hectic you may have a small struggle juggling a relationship, your life and your work. Don't be so hard on yourself everything that is meant to be will be.From the looks of it the person has hung around right? So she must really be great like you say. Most likely she understands.but, don't let that be confused either, a relationship is like a garden and needs to be cared for and nutured. I am with you and Lilitaliana because my husband works long hours, he owns a store and sometimes he gets home and i'm already knocked out. In the morning it's my turn to go. So although I don't get to spend quality time with him, we talk on the phone at least twice a day. That in the least is a comfort to me.to both of us. So don't deprive this relationship and even if you find a small moment in thoughts with her, call she'll understand. I'm sure everything will work out for you both.🙂
 
Anthony........

Everything happens for a reason, Papi!!! Take care of you first. Build for your future. If this girl is as great as you say she is, then she will be there right by your side......through all your struggles......through all your happiness......you feeling me?????? It's not easy.....Pedro works at night.......i work in the morning.....it sucks, but in the end the time I do get to spend with him is so precious.......it'll work out!!

Don't give up!!!!!!!
 
What's up??????

I'm gonna have to go with the ladies on this one.......take some time for yourself and get healthy......your future is important, but your health is most important. Been there man......sometimes I regret being a cop, but there are times when I don't. The hours i work differ each month and it's hard. The little bit of time you spend with this lady should not be taken forgranted. If you can't spend alot of time with her......the card store has lots of pretty cards.....send her one a day or send her little presents to let her know you're thinking of her!!!!!

It'll work out bro.......trust me!!!!!!
 
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