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1sxychica

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One of my friends is going through some very hard times right now.
Her parents divorced several years back. Her father went to prison and he disowned her as a daughter. Her mother went through some psychological problems caused with stress and lack of support. Anyhow, she got married to a man who is younger than her (she's 41, he's 32).
My friend is 18 years old. She once told me that her step father is being waaaaaaay to friendly if not flirty with her. I just told her that maybe he's trying to be friendly and get along with everyone. Then about a week later she called me crying and said that he squeezed her behind when she was bent cleaning the oven. I told her to talk to her mother. But she said that her "blinded" mom will take his words over hers any time. She even told my friend " You're just jealous. Once in my life I have a man who's making me happy and you want to ruin it." Her parents are actually having an intercourse with doors open, without ANY consideration of her being there.
Thing is that my girl won't lie. I told her to go live with other relatives, but she doesn't have anyone here.

I want to ask you guys for an advice. Please help.
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wow, thats messed up. SORRY. But as her friend you have to be there for her especially since she has no one there for her.

My only real advice is be there for her cause she needs a friend and it sounds like you are her good friend and try to get her and her more to talk, the truth sometimes hurts but her mom should realize what kind of guy he really is and especially if he touches his step daughter.
 
Thereo, I'm there for her always. She slept over my house several times. So I think she knows she can rely on me any time.
I just don't know if she should talk to someone like a counsellor or something.
 
it may help, i mean thats what they are trained and there to do but Thats up to her to decide. If she doesn't feel comfortable talking to a stranger you can't force her to, she has to go on her own. But it never hurts to suggest it.
 
i know what u mean...
Just the whole thing is messed up.. she was always so happy, u know the bubbly kind. But now she's always secretive, always quiet... I'm sure she's not telling me everything there is to the story, but from what she told me, and what i shared with u guys, it sounds like a nightmare.
My folks are about to be separated. And who knows who they'll get involved with. 🙁
 
THANK GOD SHE'S 18!!!

Because at least she's mature and knows whats going on and at least she can defend herself also.

Personally if I was her, I would tell mom. Plain and simple. Stepdad is doing her wrong, doing wrong both ladies, then this should be brought out into the open. Forget about what she will think of it (Her mom and what she will say), tell her to speak out!!! Before it might get worse. 🙁

That sick F*** 😡

~Antonio
 
Enigma, she did tell her mom that he was acting all weird about her but like i posted above her mother blamed her about being jealous and not wanting her mother to be happy. I don't know why that woman is so blind for. This guy eats girls in skirts with his eyes!
 
yes Mr. Bouncer Sir, I know I can rely on you... thnx hun 🙂
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Originally posted by 1sxychica
Enigma, she did tell her mom that he was acting all weird about her but like i posted above her mother blamed her about being jealous and not wanting her mother to be happy. I don't know why that woman is so blind for. This guy eats girls in skirts with his eyes!

My bad. 😱

OKAY, not this is really messed up now. 🙁

I agree with Thereo be there for her...and I hope in time she will be able to move out. She should also tell ALL family relatives for them to know cause they probably will offer a helping hand.

~Antonio

P.S: Poor girl having to be around these crazy adults who act soo damn childish. Makes me sick!
 
THAT SOUNDS LIKE A REAL MESSY SITUATION....IT'S PRETTY SAD TOO...IF AT ALL POSSIBLE MAYBE SHE CAN SAVE SOME MONEY AND MOVE OUT ON HER OWN IN ORDER TO HAVE PEICE OF MIND...IF NOT THE WORST THAT CAN HAPPEN AND WHAT I WOULD DO IN THAT SITUATION IS TO PRESS CHARGES AGAINST HIM ...SHE HAS A RIGHT..SHE LIVES THERE TOO.
 
mzcrazy

yes I agree with you. i told her to, but she said her mother will be unhappy once again and God only knows what that woman is capable of doing. So she works afternoons and nights hoping she can get out of there.

thanx a lot for your replies. I let her read this. She's very thankful

one luv!
 
I dated a girl that went through a very similar situation. I don't know how to express this best in english so here goes in spanish: La mama de ella era bien PENDEJA!!! She said almost the exact same thing U quoted HER mother as saying 1sxychica!

It went even as far as he tried to force her to....give him....you know....cabeza IfyouknowhutImean! We're not together anymore, but I still talk to her on occasion and would U believe her mother is still with that low-life!?!?!? One of the reasons we broke up was because of her emotional problems caused by that trauma!

I pray it doesn't go THAT far (hopefully not), but it can lead to a very unhealthy situation for your friend in the long run! Tell her to be weary of his advances!
 
i know hun.... 🙁 i have a feeling that he will step further with this. If he dared to feel her he'll be able to do something worse than this.

I just can't believe her own mothe would be so careless about it. Are women really that blind?! Jesus, if ONLY my daugher would MENTION his looking funny at her, he'll regret it.
 
She can file for sexual harrasment. If I was her I buy myself a small hidden camera and put it in the location in which this sick freak will try and attempt to touch her. Then take it to court. The proof would be in the pudding and her mother will shut her stupid trap. 😡

I hate what is going on in her life, seeing a bright sweet girl being sexually harrassed without her consent. Not only that its her stepfather! 😡

~Antonio Martinez AKA Enigma
 
yeah, good idea... i should tell her that... or she can have my cam. thanks enigma!
 
1sxychica,

I think you should get your friend out of that house. That man has already sexually harassed her...she should be far away from him so that she is safe.

This is a lot for you to think about, 1sxychica. I truly hope that everything turns out okay for you and your friend. I'll say a prayer for you.
 
Crimson_Kandee

thanks so much for the prayer. you're very sweet. thank you. i'll consider what u said and it seems like a way out. that bastard has ruined her time at home already.
 
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