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me and my ex bf were going out for almost two years. We had an awesome relationship to the point that although im young i really thought we were going to end up getting married some day. I know he loves, or should i say loved (i dont know how he feels about me now) me but after our relationship went on and off a few times i decided that things werent the same and i wanted to break it off. after having a hard time deciding this, i took him back. But during the latest break up he was the one that came to my house and decided that he didnt want to keep going on with this if we are going to "keep on hurting each other". So then after he does this he starts insisting that he wants to get back together AGAIN. and im like then why the hell did u leave me in the first place?
I mean, this is how i see it, if you walk out on me, especially after i gave u another chance, you better KNOW that that is what you want because i aint letting back into my life. Imagine if we were married and he pulled some shit like that?
Well this is where im getting at, after insisting and insisting and i kept saying no he would say " i hope you know what ur doing" and " i hope you dont regret what your doing". Those comments really hurt me because i think that if you love someone like he said he did, you wouldnt say those things. Instead you'd realize where they are comming from even though you're hurt. I mean, if you have screwed something up (and im not blaming it on him only) why keep on with it? Although i still love him in a way, its not the same kind of love i felt one day for him. But he doesnt understand that so he got pissed and kept telling me this.
SoOo what do you guys think he meant? Did he say it because he was desprate not to loose me? OR because he was being an a*****e? All of this makes me feel so bad inside. :confused :bangbang
 
hm......... first of all he shouldnt be pressuring you to get back with him, it should be ur choice. if he really loved you, he'd let u think about it and make ur own decision. he probably said it cuz he needed some type of security. he wanted to know that u were gonna be there for him...

this is just my opinion. i just got out of a 3 yr relationship with a selfish a*****e, who wasnt worth my time or energy.i went thru the same thing more or less. just do what ur heart tells you, what u feel is rite...
 
DiaMoND_GiRL said:
hm......... first of all he shouldnt be pressuring you to get back with him, it should be ur choice. if he really loved you, he'd let u think about it and make ur own decision. he probably said it cuz he needed some type of security. he wanted to know that u were gonna be there for him...

this is just my opinion. i just got out of a 3 yr relationship with a selfish a*****e, who wasnt worth my time or energy.i went thru the same thing more or less. just do what ur heart tells you, what u feel is rite...
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Yea..i guess what im doing is right. Pero duele none the less. Thanks for ur opinion!
 
lil_reeses said:
Yea..i guess what im doing is right. Pero duele none the less. Thanks for ur opinion!
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its always gonna hurt... but time will heal.. u'll find someone better... 🙂
 
DiaMoND_GiRL said:
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its always gonna hurt... but time will heal.. u'll find someone better... 🙂
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What scares me ( i think thats the word), is that he was really good with the few exceptions that i couldnt live with. And although they didnt involve cheating or anything like that, they were things that i couldnt handle living with. Its scary because what he was good at, many guys are lacking. I'm scared im not going to find that again. Maybe thats why i kept gettiing back with him.

Where are the guys with complete morals and compassion and understanding and all that stuff? i certainly havent seen one lately
 
LaBettyBoop said:
Mama, to me, he doesn't know what the hell he wants. He doesn't know if he's coming or going.
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You know what labetty, i think ur right. What did i do with all the info i got in psychology class? He used to tell me that he knew what he wanted but that i was the one that didnt. Thats projection right there.
It is so true that love makes you blind i guess. I didnt realize it until u put it in that perspective.
Gracias for ur comment!
 
lil_reeses said:
You know what labetty, i think ur right. What did i do with all the info i got in psychology class? He used to tell me that he knew what he wanted but that i was the one that didnt. Thats projection right there.
It is so true that love makes you blind i guess. I didnt realize it until u put it in that perspective.
Gracias for ur comment!
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You're very welcome mama. You do YOU! And don't let no man, put you upside down. Because when a man loves you and he's with you, there's support, there's positivity, there's togetherness, no selfishness, etc. And vice versa where the woman is the same with him. But from what you described above, what I said, is what I see. Keep your head up sweetie. The sea never runs out of fish.
 
LaBettyBoop said:
You're very welcome mama. You do YOU! And don't let no man, put you upside down. Because when a man loves you and he's with you, there's support, there's positivity, there's togetherness, no selfishness, etc. And vice versa where the woman is the same with him. But from what you described above, what I said, is what I see. Keep your head up sweetie. The sea never runs out of fish.
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I feel better now..i needed to have this talk with someone. Thank you and thank diamond grl who is now possibly getting ready to go to the beach or en el quinto sueño..lol
 
tanktruck said:
Gurl, been there done that and dont want to go back! He's be selfish just thinking about his needs and wants. Someone needs to be the adult and make a decision and stick to it!!
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ur right too tank...he was a few years older than i was and way more experienced so i thought he knew what he was doing. But i guess not.
 
lil_reeses said:
ur right too tank...he was a few years older than i was and way more experienced so i thought he knew what he was doing. But i guess not.
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Mama, men think with there we-we's not there brain. They like to leave a trail of destruction and then come back and clean it up. After you've done all the work!! ah Hell Nah!!
 
tanktruck said:
Mama, men think with there we-we's not there brain. They like to leave a trail of destruction and then come back and clean it up. After you've done all the work!! ah Hell Nah!!
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when will we learn?
 
tanktruck said:
Mama, men think with there we-we's not there brain. They like to leave a trail of destruction and then come back and clean it up. After you've done all the work!! ah Hell Nah!!
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OMG! I love your detailed, expressive statements. But you are so right! 😉
 
my opinion--I'm with you on this. If something is not working in
the relationship and you try and try and try upto the point where
you're just hurting each other then it's better off breaking up.
That's what I think you're trying to say and you did the right
thing I mean you realized that you dont love him the same way
you did, so you did the right thing here.

What I think is that he is desperate not to loose you (although a bit
psycho about it scares me a bit!!!), BUT
you have to be careful with this relationship. I mean
breaking up is hard to do you just can't cut a "lifeline" (sort of speaking) and then pretend like it never happened.

Maybe you can try being friends. But do let him know
that you're serious about the break up.

Hope everything comes alright for you and be careful he might
stalk you or something. Sometimes people think that a break up
means there was cheating involved. I'm not saying you did that, but that's the stakes sometimes with breaking up so be careful on that side. Wish you the best.
 
G_I_JOE_EMR said:
my opinion--I'm with you on this. If something is not working in
the relationship and you try and try and try upto the point where
you're just hurting each other then it's better off breaking up.
That's what I think you're trying to say and you did the right
thing I mean you realized that you dont love him the same way
you did, so you did the right thing here.

What I think is that he is desperate not to loose you (although a bit
psycho about it scares me a bit!!!), BUT
you have to be careful with this relationship. I mean
breaking up is hard to do you just can't cut a "lifeline" (sort of speaking) and then pretend like it never happened.

Maybe you can try being friends. But do let him know
that you're serious about the break up.

Hope everything comes alright for you and be careful he might
stalk you or something. Sometimes people think that a break up
means there was cheating involved. I'm not saying you did that, but that's the stakes sometimes with breaking up so be careful on that side. Wish you the best.
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Thanks G.I. Well about the being friends things, thats what was happening. He just didnt know how to be ONLY my friend. That is why i decided to ignore him and block his calls and his IMs and when he IMed me with a different s/n he got pissed off and was all like "now its ME who doesnt want anything to do with you" . So i was like thats alright with me buddy.
 
alright...this is the best advice i can give....you are 17!!!!!!!! you will be going to school soon..am i right? i know you love this guy...but i'm sure he isn't the one you are going to marry! i thought i was going to marry my high school sweetheart...but that didn't happen. i think you guys should be friends and just leave it at that. like i said you are still very young!😉
 
sweetheart said:
alright...this is the best advice i can give....you are 17!!!!!!!! you will be going to school soon..am i right? i know you love this guy...but i'm sure he isn't the one you are going to marry! i thought i was going to marry my high school sweetheart...but that didn't happen. i think you guys should be friends and just leave it at that. like i said you are still very young!😉
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thats what my whole family tells me...they're like wait til u hit the university...everything is going to be different. Sure hope so
 
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