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oh god!!! here is another page in the book of tonis bad relationships!!!! LMAO

ok at my job, OFCOURSE, i have fallen for a married guy!!! he feels the same for me!!! and whats killing me is that he isnt even just looking for a quickie!!!! he is taking things SLOW, as to enjoy eachother!!! i am like HUH??? we are together ALL THE TIME!!! and when we arent together at work, he takes me out, so i dont know what to do!!!

any suggestions??? :crap
 
Toni, not trying to start a fight, so I don't mean this as an insult.

There are a lot of names for women who go after married men. You don't deserve to be called those names.

The truth of the matter is, you as a person, deserve to have someone who will love you out in the light of day, for everyone to see. Not make you wait around in the shadows, hoping that "someone" doesn't see you.

You have to ask yourself, "How many times has he done this before he met me?" And "How many times will he do this TO me?"

I know you can't just change jobs, so be honest and tell him that you've decided that you can't be with him, that the situation is no good. If he doesn't listen, threaten him with a sexual harassment suit.
 
ChuckD said:
You have to ask yourself, "How many times has he done this before he met me?" And "How many times will he do this TO me?"
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Hate to say this Ma but what comes around goes around. GET OUT NOW! Before he hurts you bad. IF he is truly sincere then he will leave his wife for good and put you thru all the secrecy.
 
there is really no secrecy about it...when we are at work we are together, and when work is over we go out together...its plain to see!!! everyone at work is NOW asking questions...i get what u are saying guys, i am going to have let him go 🙁
 
OK FINE Its no secret atleast around work but OK the MOST important question.....DOES HE STILL GO BACK HOME TO HIS WIFE????
 
I usto be in that situation like this before Question #1 to you will be if he has any children. #2 If he still living with her #3 What problems he's having at home. #4 did he told you his situation before you got in to the relation ship. Always remember that a cheater will always be a cheater. The same thing he is doing to his wife he will do it to you. My situation was very diffrent, cause i was not married to the girl, and she live in another state.
 
It's a tough situation to be in. I have a similar situation I'm in now, but we don't work together. But the circumstances are a little different. Ok, actually I'm no help in this.....nevamind. I'm gonna actually get some work done. Sowwy.

~Meg~
 
TONI MAMITA....A SINGLE MAN WOULD BE ALOT BETTER...THAT'S A STICKY SITUATION THAT YOU ARE IN AND IT'S CONVENIENT FOR HIM BUT NOT HEALTHY FOR YOU...PEOPLE HERE HAVE ALREADY BROUGHT UP SOME VALID POINTS..AND STATISTICS SHOW THAT MOST MARRIED MEN NEVER LEAVE THEIR WIVES. IT'S BETTER TO BE WITH ONE THAT YOU CAN SHARE THINGS WITH 100% INSTEAD OF FEELING LIKE A LEFT OVER. I TRUST YOUR JUDGEMENT IN DOING THE RIGHT THING.
 
I might take some heat for this, but people say that if the wife were keeping him happy at home, then there should be no reason for the husband to search elsewhere. That said toni, how do you know that you are what makes him COMPLETELY happy? Obviously, he sees qualities in you that his wife doesn't possess, but at the same time, you may not possess the qualities he likes in his wife.....you don't want him bouncing back and forth between you ladies, now do you? Besides...until he gets that divorce, there's really nothing that you can do except wait around....and NO man is worth that. Good Luck with that, though.
 
UH oh i see a cat fight coming up! Just becareful of his wife!!! :biggrin good luck
 
Toni Sweety, it's the same all around. He will never leave her. He probably says he will but in the long run he won't. Especially if there are children. I've seen guys string girls along for the ride and then when it came time for him to leave the wife he didn't. Please get away fast. If you were the wife would you like it that he played you with someone else while you were home taking care the kids? You are better than that. Get yourself someone who will be with you and only you and you don't have to come second to no one.
 
Toni Girl...

Let me enlighten you.
Everyone, and everything has it's own space in time. Your relationship with every person is different. I nor anyone else on this board, has the right to tell you what is right or wrong for Toni.(Regardless of what many think or say anyway, you will come to your own decisions) While some may offer you an opinion based on their own current situation, I will offer you words of encouragement.
You have to know what you want and expect from this individual. You have to understand that nothing is forever, and if you guys are passing time, and that time is happy time for you. Do your thing. If this time is making you feel empty.. leave. As long as you are smiling. Have your relationship. Understand though that karma exist.
If you are hopeful to someday have a long lasting and fruitful and fatihful relationship (which to me, almost never happens) then you are jeapordizing that by jeapordizing it for someone else.
Still and all. It's between you and him. No one else really matters, right now.
Live everyday like it's the last and take care of Toni.
 
Well girl what I can say is that it is fo sho a difficult situation to be in. First off did you know he was married when you got involved if so did you think things out clearly as to where this would lead. It is hard maintaning a relationship with someone who has no ties so being involved with someone who is married is even tougher. Emotionally it does a lot but what I can say is enjoy the time you do have it seems you share a lot of time together, but also be aware that not everything will remain the same the time together may become lesser and you might find yourself far gone in emotions and him at home with his wife. All in all do you what makes you happy don't over thing things to much I can tell you from expierience the minute you begin to take thought to every little thing your f***ed go with what you got and avoid looking ahead but above everything don't let your emotions get the best of you. Hope everything worlks out for you mama 🙂
 
i like the way u put it ty...the passing time thing...thats exactly what it is...this thing we have helps get me through the day at work...i mean if we were to stop working together i doubt i would bother to keep the "FLAME" alive...i am just going to ride things out, not get to involved!!! but what sucks is he is complicating it...like calling me a lot, and talkin the love cheese...i have been around enough guys not to fall for that...but its just UGH!!!!

and u guys are right, HE WONT LEAVE THE WIFEY, no matter what he tells me, i dont even think i would want him to leave her...oh well

dont even get me started on karma!!! LOL i know i am already destined to really get screwed big time later in life, LOL

:blah
 
Toni....not only do we share a love for George Lamond, but I can also totally relate to the situation you are in. I have been in love with a married man for a few years now. I didnt know he was married when I first met him, but even after I found out, I still couldnt stay away from him....and he never made me want to. He has also told me he loved me and all that, but I dont think he will ever leave his wife for me. I dont know why he ever bothered with me in the first place, but I fell for everything he said and did, and now I dont know how to get out of it....nor do I completely want to at this point. All I can say is that I hope we both have happiness somewhere along the line...if not with these guys, then with someone else who can love us and be with us in every sense of the word.

Randi (FreestyleGal)

PS...Toni...feel free to e-mail me about this!
 
THIS IS AN INTERESTING TOPIC....AND TONI I KNOW YOU WILL DO WHAT'S RIGHT FOR YOU....AS FAR AS A WOMAN TAKING CARE OF HER HUSBAND, MOST WOMEN DO AND IT'S THE MAN THAT'S A DOG HE FEELS THAT HE'S MISSING SOMETHING AFTER A COUPLE OF YEARS, OR EVEN JEALOUS BECAUSE HIS FRIENDS DO IT AND HE DOESN'T ECT ECT ECT. I BELEIVE WHEN A MAN APPRECIATES WHAT HE HAS HE WON'T ACT OUT....AND IF HE'S NOT HAPPY AT HOME THAN HE SHOULD SPARE HIS WIFE HEARTACHE AND GO ABOUT HIS BUSINESS SOLO!
 
well thats not true in every case...i have seen woman treat thier husbands very badly!!!
from what i know about his wife, they are leading seperate lives as of now...she stays else where during the week, then comes on weekends...they have a son, which doesnt live with them, he lives in philly with his grandfather...so there is a problem there, who is to say what though...but truely thats not my concern
 
YES IT'S TRUE THAT THERE IS A FLIPSIDE TO EVERYTHING BUT WHEN YOU MARRY YOU DO IT FOR BETTER OR WORSE AND THAT'S A DECISION THAT THEY MADE...WHAT TICKS ME OFF SOMETIMES IS THAT PEOPLE DON'T TAKE IT SERIOUSLY ANYMORE...TRUST ME TONI I'M NOT MAD AT YOU BECAUSE IF IT WERE MY MAN IT WOULD BE HIM I WOULD COME AFTER....(I THANK GOD I DON'T HAVE THAT PROBLEM)SO NOW HE HAS A PARTIME WIFE AND YOU ON THE SIDE (HOW CONVENIENT FOR HIM) DON'T YOU WANT SOMETHING YOU CAN CALL YOURS? (JUST ASKING, GIRLFRIEND)
 
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