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i have been single again since the end of june. i have been there/done that. i am older now and not into games or casual flings,per say. i am comfortable and happy as anyone can be being single.🙂

anyway i am friends with this guy i used to work with. we have been friends for 4 years. we hang out a few times a year and talk via the phone every so often, since i am in college.
2 years ago we went out to a club and shared a passionate kiss . i really wanted to see if things would progress but around the same time his mom got cancer(is recovered now), he bought a new home and needed to care for her. so we didn't hang out as much but stayed in contact over the phone.
i then got involved in a relationship. i always thought of my friend. i spoke with him, once in a while, when he called me.
since i've told him i'm single again he has been calling me more. he always invites me to his house parties,but i never felt like going. finally i agreed to see him again. he had a house party,over the weekend, and invited me. guess you can say i was his date for the night. he is peruvian and i was the only white girl there. he made an extra effort to make me feel comfortable( it felt really nice) since my spanish is limited. we talked alot about our curent interest and stuff. we had several moments where we talked in private. after the party ended, we had a passionate moment. we made out. i felt a spark,something that is missing in my life. i stopped us from going too far, as i was not ready.

i trully like him alot and want to see where fate can take us.

circumstannces b4 prevented us from seeing where that 1st kiss would lead us.

but i am scared of getting hurt . i hope that he was not just in lust for the moment( in my heart i don't think he'd play me). i don't want this to jepordize our friendship if i am wrong about his feelings.

any advice??:hearton😕hearton
 
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I feel you just take it one day at a time am right there with ya in the same stat .... So I know how it feels ... cuz am scared also and am also hurt at the same time ...
 
Take your time, be patient, don't go by the passionate moments. ask your self, is this someone I want to be with, if so then go for it just be cautious. Hope all work out for ya. 😉
 
You have every right of being scared about getting hurt. Everyone has been hurt before and it feels so terrible specially if you have a special friendship going on.

Be true to yourself first, second, third and everytime.
I have a wonderful message for you; this comes from a true Latina:

Women are like apples in a tree...
The best are at the top
Men (I personally think everyone including women and men) don’t want to grab the ones at the top because they are afraid of falling off and getting hurt...
Instead they take the apples that are rotten, the ones that have fallen off the tree
Even though they are not so good, they’re easy grabs...
So the apples at the top believe they are no good, that something is wrong with them
When in reality they are the best and wonderful. T
They just have to be patient and wait until the right man(person) comes along
The one that is courageous and valerous enough to climb to the top for that one special person.

Let’s not fall off the tree just to be reached...
That special person who will need us will always be ready to do Anything to reach for us.

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You’re doing the right thing.
Let time tell and be patient
A relationship grows and flourishes with time and care.
 
:jokerwell it went no where again,real fast. he said he is house hunting again and isnt having any other parties til he moves. "that's life."

anyway there's this dominican poppi from college who likes me. i went out on a date with him and he does things i have worked so hard to get away from. i cleaned up my act and don't need to go down that path again. only thing is he is comming on too strong, too fast. already saying i'm his girl. I'M NOT ANYONE'S GIRL, I BELONG TO ME!! lol. :splat
 
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