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🙁 Ok fam I need some help here.... What do you do when you are in a relationship with a man who is 5yrs older than you.. been together for 3yrs but your sex drive is higher than his (me being a female age 31yrs and him 36yrs old..) it is starting to cause strain on our relationship.. personally I think its another woman but I am not sure... he says its me and he is tired What if it is not another woman and I am just to much for him..:freak What should I do then?? just trying to cover all my bases...
 
Hmm...in millions of relationships that happens. Couples no longer have spice in the bedroom. Men get tired from a certain years...women too. Try looking for ways to capture his attention like wearing something sexy...getting a hot sexy outfit...some high heels...etc.

If it's another woman...in a relationship one has to be honest about everything...if he is not honest with you...dump him to the curb. Because if thats the case PLEASE tell him to use a condom.

Also it cannot be the years cause im 32 and last. One Vagina is sufficent for me. I used to be married and boy did i hit that almost everyday till we departed lol

-antonio
 
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I have gone through phases like that and usually I'm the one that loses the drive. I attributed it to the stresses of life and all the day to day crap that I go through. That would include work, finances, deadlines and just over all exhaustion from not being healthy.



One of the things that has kept me and mine interested is staying in shape or getting back in to shape. Through the years I was usually in good shape. I stayed physically active which kept me in good shape but after 33 and a couple of bad injuries I allowed my self to go, but getting back in shape kind of livened things up for me.



My wife also would go through physical changes (kids) where, sad to say the love for one another just wasn't enough to keep it hot, but once we focused on getting back into shape and looking good, not just for ourselves but for one another made all the difference.
 
Kxrider375 that is very cool! Great way to work out those problems.

-antonio
 
Thanks ANT,

Yeah, after 4 kids a womans body really takes a beating, but she's very pretty and she cares about what she looks like, both in and out of clothes.

I also take a beating with all those 40oz. You know what I'm saying?????
 
hahaha

im 34 male real good looking...,, know alot about sex etc,.,. and ya know my sex drive is dead,..lllolll,.,.,. lot what enigma says is true.,.,. men can get tired of women,.,.,after a while,.,.dosnt mean guy is gay,,.,. or an insult to women?,.

means,.,.guy has been there done that,.,. time for new hobby,..,lloll,..,maybe,.., haha,.,.Dont know but my sex drive is leaving me big time..,llol,..

Dont care cuase if ya line up all the chicks i got busy with from 80's till today,.,. you could walk to france and back,.,.,.and not tuch the ocean,.,.loll,.

so guess if its gonna go.,.,knows good time as any,.,.But what i can tell is or what defanitely sure about.

is that its usually the partner that cuases it. or partners over the years?

Ray
 
Oh


Didn’t understand your question. Well at 31 you should know your coming into your prime as a woman. 31 to 35,.,. that’s prime time sexually for women that’s there “”raw””
Peek. Dosnt mean there comfortable yet. With it,. But means the need it lol.

When they hit 40 plus that’s when they need it and comfortable with it. Don’t know what to tell you. What I’d do in your boat. Is more self love. Llllollll,.,.,.

Cuase ya really cant cheat unless ya want that’s your thing. But there’s really no choice. I use to do a lot of self love when my x and I weren’t jiving to well.

We didn’t get along sexually to well. Best solution for that is self appreciation llllllllollll,.,.,.

Unlike most people I believe tackling sexual problems between you and your mate. Is something you should stay away from. Till it blows over.

Telling some one they suck in bed. Is a mine field at best.

So id just like my self a little bit more till it blew over.,,.,.,.llllolll,..,
,,.

Hahahah

Ray
 
rbonuc29 said:
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Didn’t understand your question. Well at 31 you should know your coming into your prime as a woman. 31 to 35,.,. that’s prime time sexually for women that’s there “”raw””
Peek. Dosnt mean there comfortable yet. With it,. But means the need it lol.

When they hit 40 plus that’s when they need it and comfortable with it. Don’t know what to tell you. What I’d do in your boat. Is more self love. Llllollll,.,.,.

Cuase ya really cant cheat unless ya want that’s your thing. But there’s really no choice. I use to do a lot of self love when my x and I weren’t jiving to well.

We didn’t get along sexually to well. Best solution for that is self appreciation llllllllollll,.,.,.

Unlike most people I believe tackling sexual problems between you and your mate. Is something you should stay away from. Till it blows over.

Telling some one they suck in bed. Is a mine field at best.

So id just like my self a little bit more till it blew over.,,.,.,.llllolll,..,
,,.

Hahahah

Ray
I AGREE WITH RBONUC....
I'M NOT A VERY SEXUAL PERSON...
WHEN I WAS LIKE 18...19...I WAS...BUT THAN IT JUST KINDA GOT OLD?
I'M 22 AND I WONDER IF THERE'S SOMETHING WRONG ME! BUT I KNOW THERE'S NOT...JUST A PHASE GIRLS GO THROUGH...:bangbang
 
sweetheart said:
I AGREE WITH RBONUC....
I'M NOT A VERY SEXUAL PERSON...
WHEN I WAS LIKE 18...19...I WAS...BUT THAN IT JUST KINDA GOT OLD?
I'M 22 AND I WONDER IF THERE'S SOMETHING WRONG ME! BUT I KNOW THERE'S NOT...JUST A PHASE GIRLS GO THROUGH...:bangbang

I doubt it got kinda old. Wait until you hit your peak at 30...OMG :dgrin That PUS is gonna be leaking volcanic juices th...lets take this to the adult forum LMAOO :lol

If you feel you are not sexually...that's because you never met a bad guy like me.

-Montana
 
getting back to normal

:hearton Well since I first posted this.. things have gotten a little better... and he has been looking for me... I took everything that was posted into consideration.. I do believe our body goes through changes as well as relationships and its all about adapting or working with those changes... I have learned that self love (rbonuc) is a great idea.. lollll I thank you all for all your input you really helped me out especially the men getting it straight from you helped me understand my partner a little better too....

thank you and don't be afraid to keep giving me more input but to those who have allready posted there reply much love I learned alot thank you!!!!!:heartbeat
 
hey self appreciation or self love,.,. on top of toilet bowl,.,llloll,.,.,.kept me from cheating many many of a time,.,.lllolll,.,.and really help kept me from being angry at my mate? in any way.

and kept my relationship together prob alot longer,.,.than it went,,.. if i didnt do self appreciation,.,.,.,.,.lllllllllollllll,.,.,.,.,.,.,. i'd be cheating left and right,.,.,.,.and have to find more women,.,.llol,.,. which is really something i detest doing,.,.lol,.

and thats not what id like to do,.,.,. most women stink in bed,.,.

so,.,.,., just something gotta live with llllllolll,.,.,.

And since i don't teach anybody anything nor ever will,.,. lloll,.,. prob be doing lots of self,.., appreciation,,.,. for a while,.,.,.llloll,.,.

but im not gonna teach anybody anything nor show anybody anything llloll,.,,.if your over 30 belive you should know that stuff by now lol? anyway like a typical 30 something male,.,.sexually i completed all my conquests by age 27 lllol,.,.

so,.,. this is a topic,.,. is one that the sun has set on for me,.,.,.,but when my engine is going,.,.,.,.,.i just do self appreciation,.,.,.llloll,.,.

lot better,.,. than going to my chick,.,. and getting her in the moood,.and hearing all her crap,.,..,llloll,..,

haha..

i find self appreciation is a winner,,..,.,llloll,., i didnt do it,.,.,.,till age 26,.,know ya wont belive that,.,.but since i did,.,.., i found,.,.i hardly gotta talk to women about anything,.,.,.anymore,.,.
,.llol,.

mine is prob an extreme case,.,.but you get the idea,.,.., self appreciation.,,. goes a long way,.., for some one who dosnt like dealing with oppisitte sex,.,.to much,..

even in marriages,.,.,and relationships,.?,.,

ray
 
see i told you it blow over,.,.,.

im big on ignoring problems,.,.,in relationships,.,..,they usually blow over,.,.you know id gotta tell ya if i were you id concentrate on other stuff in life,.,.cuase its get more boooring from here,.,.. with the opposite sex,.,.llol,.

thats why i come here,.. and have other hobbies,,.. of course if that dont work,.,.

you can always take up enigmas offer,.,..,.,,.,.lllllllllllolllllllllll.,,.,.,.,.

hahahahahahahahahahahhaah

,..,but tell you when it comes to relationships,..,,..,im so hands off,.,.,.,.,.,.,.

that you cant believe,.,.,.,.so hands off,..,,.,.,.,.that if i could and could afford it???

i'd hire a guy,..,.,,.to go out with my girlfreind,,.,.,.,. so long as he agree not to touch her,.,.,. ,.,.lloll,., and she'd agree not to tuch,..,him,.,.,.llol,.,.,

and i'd pay him 40 bucks an hour,.,.sort like a secatary,.,.,. and i just say thank you,.,.and step in when it were time for sex,.,.,.,.llloll.,.

thats how hands off i am,.,..,,..,,.lllllolll.,.,.,.

now that i think about it back in the days,.,.,.real studs in high school,.,.,.,,. use to if you guys remember,.,.,.,.lllloll,.,.,.

use to have a gay guys,.or looooser freinds,.,.,.,. that would sort of keep their girlfreinds busy,,..while they were out meeting other girls,..,or doing other stuff,.,.

i wish i had,,..,a gooofy gooof ball guy.,.,,. that i could put on payroll,.,.,lllllollll,,.,.,. and keep my ,.,.women company.,,.,.

talk about annoying dealing with ladies sometimes,.,.lol,

sorry just goooofing around,.,

,.lol,.

ray
 
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,.so what happ with you and your dood,.,. he finally started chasing you again,.,.

im telling you seriously for a second,... these days,.., i think couples spend way to much time with each other,.,.,.and thats why theres so many problems,.,.,.

if you look for ex at our grandparents,.,. or how things have changed,.,. or grandparents,.,.

they had other things going on. like the male would be belong to like 3 clubs,.Elks Lions club,.,.Veterans,.,bowling,.,., the female would belong to the Pta,.,. baking coookies,.,.

point is 60 yrs ago couples had hobbies.,.,. they had other things going on,.,. that was'nt around each other,.,.every dam second of the day,.,.llol,.,.

or that sperated them.

these days.,., everything,.,. they do.,,.includes them,.,.,.

everything,.,.

so it's like they get sick of each other,.,.

back in the old days..,., there was things women could do that men could'nt and things men could do that women could'nt.

and so it created a ""forced"" ,.,.,scoial,.,. seperation,..,

im not saying thats good nor condoning it in any way,.,.

but the idea is good,.,.,., and that is that it seperated couples a lot,.,.,. in a bad way,.,.

but it seperated them alot..,

giving them a chance to breathe.,,.,.

by being part of other actitivities,...,that didnt include,.,.their relationship,.,.!!!,.,.

im a big believer in that,.,.,.,..,

that couples just spend in unbelievable amount of time with each other these days,.,.,.,.,

and it's not healthy i dont think,.,..,

like if they walk away for 5 minutes,.,.,.., the relationship,.,.,. that toook 5 years to build will fall to pieces in 5 seconds,.,..

it's part of the whole fortress mentality our generation has..,,.

which is,.,. build a castle,,..,and your not allowed out of it.,.,,. and everything is my way,.,.

im a big beliver in that that the relationship is the last thing you should be thinking about all,.,.day long all month long,.,..,in fact all year long id take it that far,.,.


it should be there,.,..,

like a mailbox,.., lol,., or parking spot,.,..,or a firehydrant,.,.,.

,.,.,.,.lllllllllllolllllllllll.,,.,.

i just dont belive in glorifying it like you guys,.,.do,.,.

sorry,.,.,.

,..,llol,,.

i belive it should be there,.,.,.,.,.but i dont belive in gloryfying it,.,.,.,.,..,


i think you people spend an unhealthy amount of time with each other,.,.,..,

i mean i really dont care cuase im 34

so really the opposite sex,.,..,is not as important to me as it was in my twenties,.,.,.

but one thing i do notice about you guys.,..,my peeers,.,.,. 30 to 40 i've noticed the way you go about these relationships,..,

ya ski together,.,.live together,.., you call each other at work 5 times,.,..,llllolll,.,.etc,.etc,.

is that you spend,..,.,.,an unhealthy amount of time with your mates,.,.,.

and i think thats part of the problem,..,


and even the few times yr not around each other,..,,.., your talking or doing something.,.,., that leads back to the relationship..,,.

and i think you can rip,.,..,alot of pages out of grandparents booook,,.,..,

who really spent,..,most of there youth away from each other,.,..,

,..,.,lloll,.,.

and there stuff,.,.,. no one needs to ask how long it lasted?
 
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