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SEDUCTIVE NENA

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That's a big :nono I punished my son this morning for 1 week and I think it;s hurting me more than him. I usually call his Dad and let him deal with it but this time I'm taking matters into my own hand and feel like this :bangbang for being the bad parent this time. Usually when I punish him I let him slide but this time I'm sticking to it.
 
Girl who you telling I would let Tavis daddy handle it cause he is the only one who puts fear into that childs heart anyone else and he is basically like wateva so now when I have to do it he looks at me with those eyes and he trys to get out of it by kissing me or pointing to his nose and eyes so we can play eyes ears and nose . My mom was like no Ang when you say sonething stick with it dont baby him after you just scolded him but he tugs at my heart with those beautiful eyes and that lil mouth and those pudgy little hands my sorry I was going in antoher direction lol. I think we need to deff stick to it specially mommys raising boys its harder for us cause we are suppose to be the softies so we play to hats no matter how much it hurts stick with it although Potatoe is such a sweeet kid dito but dont bend mama.
 
Sexy I'm not bending this time. It is hard raising a boy. I used to be the same with my Potato lol babying him and stuff. Even with his Dad involved all the pressure is still on me. But with this I'm sure he will learn not to raise his voice at me.
 
seee that's what I go thru all the time! i have 2 different genders to raise and believe me they both difficult!!!! but u go girl stick to ur guns!!!
 
Seductive:
The only thing I can recommend being that I have been a single mom and am the only one that handles things because I feel that my son needs to know that I am the one in charge and not his dad per say, it that make sure that you don't do overboard on the punishment that way you will not be likely to bend on it. Because I've been there before and on a whim have said something stupid like "you're grounded for 2 weeks with no tv"....and its never lasted....so depending on what he has done, like for example he didn't turn the tv off when he was told his time is off, then after 1 warning, I will explain to him that since he did not follow "our" agreement, the following day he will not be allowed to watch tv. Just always make sure the punishment is in accordance to the "crime" lol...its easier to stick to it...another quick is example, Jason is supposed to be home by 8:30pm on a school nite from his friends house, if he is not then he might not get dessert, or he might not get to go to his friends house the following day....yadda yadda yadda....just a few suggestions of what works for me....and big props for handling it yourself girl!!!!!
 
I agree that we as mothers have to take matters into our own hands....It's not ok for discipline to be one sided. I've come to realize that my daughter will fear certain members of the family (and even respect Javi) yet when she's alone with me I have to establish my own methods of discipline and respect so she learns how to conduct herself when we're alone or in public if not, then she'll think it's ok for her to get away with any type of misconduct.


I commend you Seductive for sticking to your guns...and even though it hurts you (emotionally cause I know) in the end it'll benefit both you and your son. you go girl!
 
oh another quick suggestion.....i try to involve my son sometimes in what the punishment will be.....sometimes it becomes a bargaining thing.....like i'll say no computer the following day or 2, and he'll say, i would rather have no tv.....and this way he's likely to follow it easier.... :losmile
 
Ladies for the record us Dads have it bad too, especially when we don't have our kids day to day...its hard to say NO.

I mean Iwant my kids to desire being with me, but I want whats best for them...so I gotz to be firm....y como duele decirle que no a eso Gordo mio 🙁
 
I think deep down inside every parent feels the pain when they say no....it's normal. But we can't raise our kids to be ungreatful spoiled brats...there has to be limitations and they need to learn that they have earn what the things they get. As well as to respect people.

and the choice of punishment might seem like a good idea but how's that punishment when they are still getting something they want? (I could not think of bargaining - it still gives them too much control)

(nothing worse to me than a disrespectful child)
 
Thank you all. Boy I thought it got easier once he became a teen pero it's harder than when he was 4 & 5.

imfromqueenz thx. i will definately follow that 🙂 but he still is going to be punished for the week. I guess he thought since his friend's do it with their Mom's that he could do it to me. Wrong Mommie lol.
 
Henny I understand your point cuz his Dad is like that also but when he has to be firm he does it. And you know Gordo always win lol.

mzcrazybtch there is nothing worse than a disrespectful child por eso he's being punished. cuz if he tried it this once with me he'll go and do it to someone else.
 
anytime Nena.....with teens its even harder....My niece is in my care....and its been hard....they are soooo stubborn its like :bangbang:bangbang:bangbang and they just dont get it lol....but then again, i didnt either at that age.....we just have to be patient and remember what it was like growing up.....there are a lot of things the kids try with me because they see their friends do it......but in respect with that, I have always explained that "I am not your friends mother, don't bother" heeeheee......the door is always open, if you want I will help you pack your bags and move into their house, and at that point they realize it might not be as fun.....lol
 
Henny...I hear ya 110%....being that the time is limited and therefore all the more precious, its very hard to say no. I get that with his grandparents all the time. My son will call his grandma (my mom) and tell her "mom is being mean, she's not listening to me" or "she wont let me go to my friends house, or have a 2nd dessert" lol......and grandma will of course say yes "tell your mom I said you can".....then he will come to me and say "grandma said I could, and since she is YOUR MOM you have to listen to her".....he's such a smart a**.......a little to much so for his own good.....
 
SEDUCTIVE NENA said:
Henny I understand your point cuz his Dad is like that also but when he has to be firm he does it. And you know Gordo always win lol
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You know !!! Oh yes he does, the lil bastid !!!! LOL
 
Due to our situationright now I feel guilty so a lot of the times he gets away with shit pero he is growing fast and is too too rough so I got to put a stop to that now lol
 
Sexyangel329 said:
Due to our situationright now I feel guilty so a lot of the times he gets away with shit pero he is growing fast and is too too rough so I got to put a stop to that now lol
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we are all guilty of that. as long as you stop it in time you'll be fine.
 
nena

you cant imagine how much you have my support on this. i was gonna give you tactical air support on this issue. but now im really giving you complete tactical air support llloll.

today i saw three kids get into the dollar van. and then beat the driver for the fare. and snatch some of his money from his little counter there. unreal. again lack of discipline and lack of respect. and over all the way children behave themselves on the bus or on the street these days. is off the charts.

so i agree with your decision. and i wish every parent would be like that. in 5 years we wipe out disrecpect for adults in this country.

its amazing. if you rem when we were growing up. 70's god help us? i mean god help us.

if we ever mouthed off at our teachers. or adults on the street. or our parents.

today. its like adults are these childrens best freinds?? thats not the way it use to be?

and you know thats not the way it can be. adults have to be respected and honored really.

and adults Are not !!! these kids best freinds period. and they dont need time out. or partipatory punishments.

they need old fashioned condesending your the kid im the parent discipline period.


nena i wish more parents would take your lead. would make it a much easier world for adults.

no question.
 
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