when is it alright to say " I DO"

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how long should a person wait be 4 getting married?
i have know ppl that know each other for a while b4 they got married and there marrisge was a waste.
i also know some one who married his wfe after knowing her a few monther and they are the happiest ppl i know..
so is there really a long enought time of knowing some on b4 you get married.. or should you just go with what your heart tells you?
 
that's a hard question.

I'm not sure on that one. you'd need to know them well enough to know how they feel about kids, raising them, disciplining them, religion, are they happy where they live, or do they want to move across the country.....

a lot must be considered.
 
Why is marriage so important in a relationship?
 
marriage is important to some ppl.. and to other it's not..
to me is is important. and i have always dreamed of finding the right person to spend my life with and grow old with..
 
ChuckD said:
that's a hard question.

I'm not sure on that one. you'd need to know them well enough to know how they feel about kids, raising them, disciplining them, religion, are they happy where they live, or do they want to move across the country.....

a lot must be considered.
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i feel what you are saying.. and i also think it's a hard question..
but if you feel it's right.. should you just go 4 it?
 
Maciel my love...that I deeply respect. I am one of those individuals that was married before...and ended up divorced. I always dreamed of asking her to marry me in surprise format. I even thought about taking it to national television on one of those shows and surprise her. But here she was beforehand pressuring me. I asked myself eventually we gonna get married, but jesus let it be by flow and not pressure and short amount of time. Marriage should be done when one knows that person is the right one...and more importantly...know each other very well. Really well. Marriage should be based on how strong the relationship is...not based on sudden emotions. Times change. Feelings in some change. If you truly love that person...then your feelings for that person will never change...this is where marriage comes in and should not be a problem.
 
after he puts the rock on your finger




as for me there is no way a female will ever put a ball and chain on me . im not getting whipped like my so called friend . his wife says jump he says how far. he is pu$$y whipped
 
JOEDOCPA said:
after he puts the rock on your finger




as for me there is no way a female will ever put a ball and chain on me . im not getting whipped like my so called friend . his wife says jump he says how far. he is pu$$y whipped
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Thats not marriage. Thats S&M. Two totally different things there bub. lmao
 
Only the 2 involved in the relationship knows when it's time to unify in marriage. Believe me, it should all flow smoothly and fall into place by itself.
 
You both have to be on the same page...
You both have to be Open about everything..
You need to know eachother very well..as well as their
family and eachothers aquaintances... You should be able
to share all the good and all the bad personal matters of
eachother's lives...it's also in going thru difficult times..
that you know who's who in your life..if they are there for
you or not..if all your reassuring happens in a short matter
of time..or it happens in a long matter of time..its just meant to
be that way.. but i do think that you have to get thru things
to truly believe it's a matter of love..
 
Enigma said:
Why is marriage so important in a relationship?
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Because it's the ultimate commitment that two people can make.

I was talking to one of my friends. He was saying you can't put a time frame on being comfortable with getting married to someone, and that it is only a piece of paper.

I told him that in my mind, "living together" gives you all the responsibilites and obligations that come with marriage. If someone is able to live with me, they should be willing to make that commitment and marry me.

I'm not saying I wouldn't live with someone. I would. It will make the decision to get married easier. However, if the other guy can't make that commitment or decision, then he can pack his bags, and go, because there are other guys out there who are willing to make it.

It's what I want, and what I am looking for. If he can't make that move with me, then he can move on, and let me find the one who will.
 
crazygirl said:
how long should a person wait be 4 getting married?
i have know ppl that know each other for a while b4 they got married and there marrisge was a waste.
i also know some one who married his wfe after knowing her a few monther and they are the happiest ppl i know..
so is there really a long enought time of knowing some on b4 you get married.. or should you just go with what your heart tells you?
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I don't know for real but I said I do last November in Lima Peru and now after the paperowrk was bogus I wish I never said nothing!!! :sperm
 
crazygirl said:
how long should a person wait be 4 getting married?
i have know ppl that know each other for a while b4 they got married and there marrisge was a waste.
i also know some one who married his wfe after knowing her a few monther and they are the happiest ppl i know..
so is there really a long enought time of knowing some on b4 you get married.. or should you just go with what your heart tells you?
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mamita everyone has strong points about this.....and the truth of the matter THERE IS NO TIME LIMIT! I was w/ my ex husband for 6 yrs. 4 of them just living together b4 we said I DO. and here I am alone again. u can be w/ someone for 4 mos and KNOW that he is the one that is ur destiny. its all about how YOU feel about the situation. marriage is very sacred and ppl tend to do it just to "accommodate" their partner....it should not be that way. go w/ ur heart....altho it can be juggled and mixed at times it never steers u wrong (MY OPINION)
 
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