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DreamGirl

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Confused in how I feel,
you send mixed signals.
Telling me one thing,
acting another.
Holding me as we lay in bed,
playing with my hair,
massaging my back,
calling me babe, sweetheart, honey.
What's the significance?
Is it so hard to speak your mind?
Then again,
if I'm wondering,
I should just ask you.
But I hold back.
Why?
I'm not exactly sure.
Maybe I'm scared,
only I don't know of what.
I think mostly I'm afraid
to find out you really don't have feelings
for me,
and all this time you were just using me.
But if its good news,
then why won't you tell me?
Say something either way,
clue me in.
You told me over and over
not to get attched,
but as the months have gone by,
what shouldn't have happened, did.
Not saying I'm in love,
but I am catching feelings,
which grow each day
and everytime we see each other.
I'm so confused.
I don't know what to do.
How did this happen?
Were we friends first
or bed buddies?
I don't even know anymore,
do you?



~Meg~
 
DreamGirl I know how you feel and it sucks! I went through alot of moments with a friend. Feeling her warmth and the love and taking care of her and she would say things..... In the end she didn't want a relationship. I guess she was happy getting what she needed and didn't want a relationship. Me being an old fashion guy when it comes to relationships and my feelings growing more and more didn't help. It was bad for a bit! Now we are talking again. But it is not the same. I miss the warmth. I miss her. I am taking things slow. I am not forcing it. I hope one day she see's something in me that will make us get together. If it doesn't happen, then I guess it was not ment to be. I hope one day I find my soul mate! Good luck to you DreamGirl! I hope your dreams come true!
 
It was the same with me! I began catching feelings and he didn't say he was, but the way he acted led me to believe he felt something for me. But the whole time he was always saying he wasn't ready for a relationship, then all of a sudden I found out he's seeing someone. The screwed up thing was that I didn't find out from him, it was through a friend of mine who told me to go check his AOL profile.....boy was I mad!

He tries to be my friend, but its hard. The thing with the girlfriend happened in June...here it is March and I'm still not sure we can ever be friends. Cause half the time when he talks to me, all he wants is sex, and he gets pissed cause all I say is no and I guess he's not used to hearing it from me. Well I say too bad, he made the descision to be with his girl.




~Meg~
 
It sounds to me like he wants to have a girlfriend and someone on the side for sex. He definately doesn't want you to be serious. He has a girl already and doesnt want another(that is what it seems like) He is using you. He just didn't anticipate you being more serious. My situation is kind of similar. She is used to guys being a certain way and here I come along in her life and I'm different and she doesn't know how to handle a guy who is not a jerk! Things get more complicated in my story I'm not going to get into it now. All I can say is I understand and feel your pain! It sucks, what you are going through! This is something to learn from(for the both of us)I wish you lots of luck! Be strong! Good luck! Lots a love!
 
The way I look at it is you live and learn. I've learned that for me no more friends with benefits, cause sooner or later, its going to get way too complicated. It just bugged me about him that he didn't even tell me himself when he started seeing someone. At least if he told me the nmaybe there would have been a chacne to be friends, but now forget it. I can't trust him. And I know all he wants is sex...he basically comes right out and tells me he wants me "one more time" or "for old time's sake" and he just won't get it through his head that I'm not there for him like that anymore. And he keeps asking over and over cause he thinks I'm going to give in one day.(which I'm not)He just isn't used to hearing the word no from me cause for about yr, thats basically all we were. But I've moved in...I was hurt at first the nrealized he's not someone I want to be around anyway(long story I'm not getting into, but some complicsted stuff that maybe one day could have afected me directly or indirectly).

I wish lots of luck to you as well and hope all goes well! I'm sure the girl who gets you will be lucky cause you sound like such a sweet guy. 🙂






~Meg~
 
Yeah, thats very hard. I've been in those situations many times with confusions on weather to be friends or in a relationship. It's best to be friends and find a person for a relationship.
 
Yup. Exactly. Now if 2 ppl are friends, and then both start developing feelings and then start going out, then its a different story. One thing I've learned is don't expect to go out with FWB. And if you want to go out with a friend, then no benefits till after. damn, I hope that made sense! LOL




~Meg~
 
Well my story is similar.....I was friends first with someone for a longggg time and then one day he kissed me and we became more. Its been almost 3 months since I haven't been in his arms or seen him and it hurts but I'm starting to believe that NOT seeing him is for the best. All this time all I ever wanted from him was his friendship but now I am starting to think maybe I can't have that if I can't have him....does that make sense??? The hurt is still VERY much there, but it isn't has bad.....I don't cry every night anymore (maybe cuz I'm talking to someone on the phone.....LOL) like I used to. I still cry at the sound of his voice, hearing his name, or just thinking about him.


Anyways I spoke to much .....MEG Beautiful Poem
 
Thanks Guys!!! I don't know if I am recovering quick enough but hey baby steps is the key
 
Hey Guys! Time does heal all wounds but some wounds take more time. In reality I really was just friends with her. But the first time I met her I felt there was something special about her. We became instant friends! As time went by we hungout alot went to movies(even though she was dating someone). I was there for her when her idoit boyfriend would do something stupid and upset her. I would be frustrated and wondered why the Hell she was with him. Then she would flirtwithme and give me the warmest hugs. She had dinner with me and my family. She was my bet friend my best companion. She was the one person who made me feel really happy. In the end she didn't want a relationship. She told me how she's never been with aguy like me. She ended up staying with the jerk guy. I believe part of the problem is psychological. Abusive father and other stuff. I will always care for her. I will be there for her if she really needs me. despite how I feel, I will put those feelings aside for the greater good. If we were ment to be it will happen at some point if not well I wish her luck in her life. Anyway...... I wish you luck! Hope everything turns out for all of us! Lots of love!!!
 
WOW,,,I JUST GOT DONE READING THIS ENTIRE POST

GREAT POEM MEG,,,I HOPE YOU KEEP STRONG AS YOU HAVE BEEN DOING...JERKY GUYS ARE JERKSSSS!!!!

HOPE ALL IS WELL.

TO ALL THE PEEPS HERE WHO'VE WRITTEN THEIR SAD MOMENTS,,,IM SURE WE WILL ALL PREVAIL,,,KEEP THE FAITH.

THANKS,
LOU-LOU
 
Damn girl...You just keep them coming!!...LOL..I love it how you can express how you feel right now with words of poetry..Your a natural ma, and thats all because of how you feel...I know these poems werent written in the past..Maybe some ideas..But I know your poetry is based on today..I can just tell..Not only can I tell..But I think I kinda know..LOL!!! Another beautiful one!:hearton
 
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