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Would you stay with your baby's daddy only for the sake of your child or children? Lets say he is a good father but you were not in love with him. What would you do?
 
if you're not in love with somebody there is no reason to be together. that will only teach the children to stay in a loveless relationship and be miserable. things can however be handled in a peaceful and loving way for everybody....😉
 
marilisa said:
Would you stay with your baby's daddy only for the sake of your child or children? Lets say he is a good father but you were not in love with him. What would you do?
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Mama I did that for a long time and it didnt work out. If you dont love him then let it go b/c your not doing you kids any good. In the longrun its gonna show and thats worst. Trust me, on this one I know. My oldest is scar because of this .

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I also stayed for a while for my daughter, and it was the worst thing i could of done. You will be unhappy and then your kids will feel that and also they see if u guys argue, also like lamas said i am also better friends with my daughters father then i was was i was with him. Sometimes its hard, but u have to think about your kids and staying in a relationship just for the kids is not the thing to do.
I wish u the best 🙂
 
Its hard because when I start thinking about leaving I see how happy my little girl is when she is in his arms. We have been together for 4 yrs now and my little girl is 2 yrs old now. We have been living together for 2 yrs and I am use to him , its more of a companionship between us.
 
marilisa said:
Its hard because when I start thinking about leaving I see how happy my little girl is when she is in his arms. We have been together for 4 yrs now and my little girl is 2 yrs old now. We have been living together for 2 yrs and I am use to him , its more of a companionship between us.
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After we broke up my biggest fear was that my kids will loose their dad. Especially the baby(since I left him when i was 7mths pregn with lil man) but their relationship has flourish into something better. I dont regret leaving him because you dont have to be with the mom to be a good dad and that vice versa.

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I left, someone else will come to love you and your kids. I will not stay and suffer and lose on opportunities that can make me happy, The kids will grow older and leave you and then it will be to late for you to move on, so I said end it b4 its too, late. And this is not an opinion, is a fact, I left my ex 5 years ago, and I said I would not stay there for my kids like my mami did. Today Im single enjoy life, waiting for Mr right. Is not that bad, right grande?? Good Luck on your decisions, only you can make em.
 
Staying in a relationship with someone just because of the children is a unfair to the children. I am pretty sure that children do not want to see their parents upset or unhappy. Plus, it will only confuse them, especcialy if you wait a long time to break it off, the children will wonder What Happened? What Went Wrong? Its better to be upfront with yourself, your baby's parent, and the kids.
 
I dont think its a good idea to stay in a loveless relationship b/c kids are not dumb they see that the parents are unhappy i know i used to see it in my mothers eyes all the time....
 
If you can't be happy in your relationship, you can't make your children happy because all the negativity will reflect on you. The kids will notice in the long run.
 
As all the ladies pointed out, in the end no one will be happy. About a year after my ex and i broke up my daughter who adores her father told me she likes it better this way. She likes that me and her daddy are friend again. as babybettyboop said "its not that bad"
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I think I would just for my daughter but seen her father was a big azz back in the days I lefted him he treat it me really bad and I could not take it so I went back with my mom but my daughter was not born yet so it made it easy for me just to walk away ...
 
Shorty3869 said:
I think I would just for my daughter but seen her father was a big azz back in the days I lefted him he treat it me really bad and I could not take it so I went back with my mom but my daughter was not born yet so it made it easy for me just to walk away ...
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I feel you on that my child is not born yet so i wont have that problem either THANK GOD :dancingb
 
Hey my parents stayed together for us (me & my brothers & sisters) but they were not happy now my mom is gone & she never got to truly be happy. I wish she got to live her life instead of always worrying about us kids if she left my father....
 
Baby1010 said:
Hey my parents stayed together for us (me & my brothers & sisters) but they were not happy now my mom is gone & she never got to truly be happy. I wish she got to live her life instead of always worrying about us kids if she left my father....
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ben dito that is sad to hear
 
i think that if u dont love him then u should let him know and try to think of your needs as well, the kids sense when there is something wrong and it will end up hurting them in the long run, they will think that they are responsible for your unhappiness, so the kids will always have their father wheather you guys r together or not, so think real hard about what u really want to do, here for u always
 
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