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Well Guys ....I went to Bill's house today (actually still here) and we talked. He said he wants to slow down more or less have what we had 4 months ago.....companionship (meaning No Sex...LOL) Part of me feels like OK I can do that.....I can back off cuz I have you, but then Part of me feels like maybe I'm cheapin myself. AM I??? So what does everyone think??
 
😱 dayum girl this is like ur worst nightmare huh? lol.. u got a hot guy who's all that but he wont give u any.... shit.... 🙁
 
EXACTLY......But I think he is worth the wait and also our relationship wasn't just about sex......so I'm gonna take it day by day.
 
Well, I hope all goes well for you Heaven.

-Ant
 
but what about me? thats what u should be asking yourself. i really dont think its fair for you to put ur life on hold for this guy. not saying that u cant live without sex... but sex in a relationship is so meaningful and important... its an expression of love and for him to not want to show u that love and affection is troublesome. u have feelings too. u need affection. does he care that ur not getting that?

i dunno what to think of him. either he really loves you and wants to see if ur relationship is better than just the physical OR he has someone else on the side... i hope it's not the latter.

in any case mama, u know what's best for you... take it day by day but please.... pay close attention to him... make damm well sure that he aint got anybody else. u dont want to be strung along!! i'm only saying that cuz i cant imagine any guy not wanting sex. lol. there must be something up.. no? i dunno. u know him better than us...

good luck chacha!! hang in there. i'll be thinking of you. 🙂
 
well heavenly i hope it all works out for you the way you want........remember you can talk to me anytime you need a friend babes 🙂
 
Heavenly

Hey Girl,

take care of yourself, its easier said then done. take it one day at a time you dont need to stop seeing him or forget him just make sure that you are ok emotionaly and physically. and everything will fall into place.
 
DAYUMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM CHICA LOL J/K WELL CHICA I DONT KNOW I THINK THIS WILL MAKE WHAT YOU GUYS EVEN STRONGER AND THE FACT THAT YOU HAVE TO WAIT OR ARE PUTTING OFF FOR A MINUTE IS JUST GOING TO MAKE YOU GUYS DESIRE EACH OTHER MORE AND COME ON WHAT WOMAN DOESNT WANT TO BE WANTED BY HER MAN LIKE THAT. GIRL YOUR DOING THE RIGHT HTING ONE DAY AT A TIME BEST OF LUCK MAMA 🙂
 
I just want to say I thank you ALL for your kind words, advice, and support.....You don't know what that means to me.

Anyways I will try to answer EVERYONE'S Question and if I missed you just YELL at me .....LOL!

Martini.....I have asked myself that sooo many times and right now Bill is having a selfish moment in his life....and he knows this. I don't think there is anyone else, but who knows. All I know is that I was soooo sure about him, about us, that now I'm starting to doubt ALOT of things. I think that is the hardest part that I have to deal with. As for the sexual part......not to get too personal, but he was ALWAYS like that. He never wanted to rush into the sex part.....to him sex meant EVERYTHING......love, commitment, and much more. One of the qualities I liked about him, when we started dating I was relieve that he didn't want to rush into that because that was exactly what I felt about it. I knew if it did happen between us I would FALL deeply in love with him and I needed to be sure. I wanted to be ready as well as he did.....which was great because we were on the same page. Thought we always were.....but guess we weren't. I would fight the feelings that I had for him, but he would do something that would just make me melt and I relented. I started to feel comfortable enough that I was able to show my feeling.....and say I love You .....does any of this make sense???

So I think I could slow down if I knew that he didn't want to get caught up again, but I think its much more than that.....he said he wants to be single.....be able to have an open mind and date others if the time came (I don't think anyone is on his mind yet, but I see his point)....says that he only dated 2 girls since his divorce (and only been with one ....ME) and he feels he needs to do more before tying down to one again. Basically HE'S SCARED of his feelings for me.....he depended on his ex-wife and she screwed him and now he is afraid to depend on another before he could depend on himself. He didn't say this but I know him well. So yes I can slow down, but I don't think I could take it us "casually" seeing each other and him seeing other girls too.....that would kill me. I think I need to know what the rules are and I think I deserve more so I decided I'm gonna try to take it day by day....see where it goes.....not call as much.....once a week.....gradually move to once every two weeks....and so on.
I think subconsiously I'm testing him.....if he calls I'll be happy if he doesn't then I know where he stands.....makes any sense???

Woah....this post is long....sowwy I'll stop.....write back guys I want your input on this....am I makin the right decision???
 
I GUESS U CAN SEE HOW IT GOES NOW DAY BY DAY....EVERYTHING IS GONNA BE DIFFERENT NOW,CAUSE IT'S LIKE U HAD IT ALL, AND NOW IT'S ONLY GONNA BE A PIECE OF HIM...I GUESS U KNOW WHAT I'M TRYING TO SAY...WELL GOOD LUCK HEAVENLY!🙂
 
Yup I know EXACTLY what you mean......and not sure if a piece will be enough since I had it all.....only time will tell
 
MAMA I THINK YOU ARE DOING THE RIGHT THING THE BEST YOU CAN DO WHEN YOU HOLD ALL THAT LOVE INSIDE FOR HIM I KNOW HOW HARD IT MUST BE TO KEEP IT UNDER RAPS BUT YOU SEEM TO KNOW THAT THE ONLY WAY TO DO IT IS ONE DAY AT A TIME AALTHOUGH IT MAY SEEM AS IF YOU ARE UNSURE AS AN ONLOOKER I THINK YOU ARE TRULY DOING YOUR BEST. THE ONLY THING I CAN SAY IS TO GIVE HIM THOISE WINGS AS HARD AS IT MAY BE AND AS MUCH AS IT MAY HURT LET HIM FLY IF THATS WHAT HE WANTS. SOMETIMES I ASK MYSELF WHY MEN ARENT MORE AWARE OF WHAT THEY TRULY WANT BEFORE OUR HEARTS ARE PUT INTO AND THEN I REALIZED THAT HAVE THE TIME THEY ARE JUST AS CONFUSED AS US JUST AS MUCH IN SEARCH AS US. HE SEEMS LIKE A GREAT GUY AND IS BEING HONEST AND SINCERE WITH YOU AS HE CAN BE WITHOUT HURTING YOU, ALTHOUGH THE HURT IS THERE YOUR HEART UNDERSTANDS HIS. MAMA DO AS YOU ARE AND TAKE IT ONE DAY AT A TIME. ANY TIME YOU NEED TO TALK YOU GOT MY SN OR WE CAN DO IT HERE ON CF CUIDATE AND WHEN THINGS ARE MEANT TO BE THEY WILL ALWAYS BE MAMA 😀
 
(It's funny how she ends up being so hurt, and not him. PLEASE, you think he's hurt? Bullchit. I had a girl I known for a year or two, and we decide to be together romantically, you best believe I'll be the happiest bastard in the world. Assuming she's faithful, and a home person type of a chick, with good morals. FOREVER my heart will be hers, FOREVER AMOR' GODDAMNIT.)

😡
 
After hearing it from you Sexy......I feel a little better.....I just need to be strong

Earlier on I heard this song and Boy did it on the nail.....and maybe it helped me.....but here are the words....and I forgot who sang it Cindi somebody

It took me by surprise when I saw you
Standing there
Close enough to touch
Breathing the same air
You asked me how I’ve been
And I guess that is when I smile and said Just fine
Oh baby I was lying

What I really meant to say
Is that I’m dying here inside
And I miss you more each day
There’s not a night I haven’t cried
And Baby here’s the truth I’m still in love with you
That’s what I really meant to say

As you walked away
The echoes of my words
Cut just like a knife
Cut so deep it hurt
I’ll held back to the tears
Held on to my pride
And watched you go
I wondered if you’d ever know

What I really meant to say
Is that I’m dying here inside
And I miss you more each day
There’s not a night I haven’t cried
And Baby here’s the truth I’m still in love with you

What I really meant to say
Is that I’m really not that strong
And no matter how I try
I’ll still holding on
And Here’s the honest truth
I’m still in love with you
That’s what I really meant to say

But I think hearing that song helped....don't know why.....give me some input
 
And note, in a loving relationship, there is two kinds of sex:

1) Just sex: Quickie, straight up do it. The type some do when they meet each other for the first time, when there is no love there, just sex.

2) Loving Sex: Sex that is farther superior than "just sex" because there is a love bond there. When sex is done with love, it's two hearts as one. This sex is mostly done with couples in love who been together for a while and longer.

Now, in a relationship, being together for a while, if there is no "Loving Sex" than something is awfully wrong. The love is gone.

-Enigma
 
Enigma said:


1) Just sex: Quickie, straight up do it. The type some do when they meet each other for the first time, when there is no love there, just sex.



-Enigma
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doesnt mean it has to be a quicke!!!! LMAO it could last for hours
 
True true toni, you're right. 😱

P.S: Looking back at my previous post right now, I don't know if I made sense, akk, just ignore it. My apologies.

-Ant
 
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