The Other Woman!

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Ola Fernanda!

To be honest, your friend is being played. She needs to wake up and smell the expresso.

The fact that she has to be kept secret should tell her all she needs to know about him.

Tell her that as a woman, she deserves to have someone who is gonna go on the mountain and shout out his love for her, and love her in the daylight. She does not need to be someone's "dirty little secret", and only get his love on the down low, only in the shadows and cover of darkness.
 
Awwww I love Chucky!!!!!!! ~Matrix stands on mountain and yells it out~

He got the best radio show!!!!!!!
LOL
 
Damn..I used to be in a situation like that before..this guy i was seeing was living with is BM and his daughter..well he used to tell me that he had no family and has no other place to go. I left oneday in his car a pair of my panties (he wanted a pair, LoL) and she found it in the car and got crazy on him...why would she get mad if they was not together..well after that I gave him the boot and realized that it was all a lie and I vowed myself to NEVER get involved with a guy who lives with any ex or has kids with someone...there will ALWAYS be Baby Momma Drama that I dont need.
 
FreestyleGod said:
Well Fernanda I'm here for ya anytime!! As for your friend I wish her the best and I hope her decisions work for her. Fernanda darlin you have a great week and mucho nub!!!!😀

Thanks sweetie, I'm glad to have people there for me when I'm stuck or I need advice. But I must tell you guys, I started talking to her about it and she changed the conversation on me. So I have to try again.

Damn she is so hard headed.
 
My girl was in a situation just like this but he was not married to his girl. He would come and spend the weekend at our house, come over in the middle of the night, do whatever he wanted. His g/f turned a blinf eye because keeping him with her was more important that her believing the truth. They were even caught by her before! He came to my girl for sexual stuff that his girl wouldn't do. I don't know what the relationship is like, but you may be able to point out what they do together and what they don't. That way she can see what he is doing with her and why he has her around...Hoe it all works out!
 
smoothrhythm said:
I'm here to Fernanda, please don't lose any sleep over this.

Thanks smoothrhythm, I will try not too. But it's hard because she's my bestfriend and when things don't go well, I have to listen to her cry and that's unbareable to me. First, because I warned her and second because it brakes my heart to see her cry. But lets see...
 
ChuckD said:
Ola Fernanda!

To be honest, your friend is being played. She needs to wake up and smell the expresso.

The fact that she has to be kept secret should tell her all she needs to know about him.

Tell her that as a woman, she deserves to have someone who is gonna go on the mountain and shout out his love for her, and love her in the daylight. She does not need to be someone's "dirty little secret", and only get his love on the down low, only in the shadows and cover of darkness.

Hey Chuck, tell her that and more. But she's too in love, she doesn't hear what I'm telling her. She believes him and trust his words. I'm just concern that she may get hurt and I don't want to see that happen. She's had her heart broken before real bad from her ex-husband and that was alot to bear. But lets see!
 
heavenelise said:
Damn..I used to be in a situation like that before..this guy i was seeing was living with is BM and his daughter..well he used to tell me that he had no family and has no other place to go. I left oneday in his car a pair of my panties (he wanted a pair, LoL) and she found it in the car and got crazy on him...why would she get mad if they was not together..well after that I gave him the boot and realized that it was all a lie and I vowed myself to NEVER get involved with a guy who lives with any ex or has kids with someone...there will ALWAYS be Baby Momma Drama that I dont need.

I hear you girl, this is definately a hard situation. I don't know what to say anymore. I would hate to be in this situation, I wouldn't know what to do either. Damn I'm stress and this is not even my problem. I just see what's gonna happen down the road and I want to avoid the heartache she is going to go through. But I want to have faith and say things will turn out better for her. That he will get divorce and stay with her. *smack my face* - stop dreaming! Let's see!
 
shany69 said:
My girl was in a situation just like this but he was not married to his girl. He would come and spend the weekend at our house, come over in the middle of the night, do whatever he wanted. His g/f turned a blinf eye because keeping him with her was more important that her believing the truth. They were even caught by her before! He came to my girl for sexual stuff that his girl wouldn't do. I don't know what the relationship is like, but you may be able to point out what they do together and what they don't. That way she can see what he is doing with her and why he has her around...Hoe it all works out!

I hear you, I even went as far as telling her to leave him some bite marks or hicky's, but the guy wont let her do any of those things. He says he doesn't like them. I don't even think she's tried, she's not like that but I pushed her and said try it. I know you can get one in, in the heat of passion. But nada! What can I say! She is hard headed.
 
I think my man knows what the fuk he's doing. And i have no choice but to stand up and applaud the guy!! Good show!! You the motha fukin' man!
 
Putana said:
Maybe she should bite his thingy?!?!? Better yet, scratch his back up!!! Yeah!!!!

Dude... you're freakin' sick! 😕 How's that going to solve anything. And love bites on the neck and body would be just as disrespectful to him and his kids as if she went to his apartment and did it right there in front of them.

Imagin what the kids would say:

Kids: Daddy, what is that on your neck?
B/F: Oh that's just a mark that daddys' girlfriend made him to show daddy how much she loves him.
Kids: Daddy... and why does your eye look like that?
B/F: Well that's the black eye that mommy gave me to show me how much i shouldn't fuk with her.

lmao!!
 
No matter what SHE does, he's the one who is disrespecting EVERYONE in this situation. A kid will believe that it is a bruise since they don't know what they really are. Her doing that would let all involved adults get clued in!
 
shany69 said:
No matter what SHE does, he's the one who is disrespecting EVERYONE in this situation. A kid will believe that it is a bruise since they don't know what they really are. Her doing that would let all involved adults get clued in!

NOT!! The kids will continue to be clueless since they are kids and shouldn't be involved in the scuffle. And the dude isn't disrespecting no one. The girlfriend accepts him living with his wife and kids, and the wife accepts him stayin' out late and stayin' out all night at times. Hey, it looks like one big happy family. You can't put the brotha down 'cause he got game like that. Let's be real, he knows what he's doin'.
 
Okay so it is one big disrespect cesspool. If it's okay for him to disrespect, it should def be okay for her to do the same. Another thing, kids aren't as dumb as lot's of people think. It can be kept in the DL for a minute but not for long. Check out my little big scam artist thread for an example of how smart kids really are
 
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