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I was asked a very strange question today. I really didn't know how to respond to it maybe YOU guys can share your opinions and comments. A co-worker of mine asked me today. Why are black women so offended by white women dating black men? I really didn't know what to tell her cause I've never was faced with such a question or situation. NOW, I HOPE THIS THREAD DOESN'T TURN INTO SOME KIND OF RACIST BULL SHIAT!
 
I've actually seen this discussed on Oprah........she interviewed some black women, who were upset at white women for dating black men, or angry at black men for dating white women.

According to the women, black men look at white women as "a prize" so white women are taking all the "good" black men. Meanwhile, white men are not as interested in black women, so they are coming up short.

Interestingly, they had no problem with Latina women dating black men, because they considered Latina women "women of color".
 
I think it's ridiculous to think that "white" women are stealing "black" men...Imma just have to laugh my ass off right about now...anyway, I agree with you Tank there are bigger & better subjects to be arguing over
 
Well, Phillygurl, I'm for a lost of words on this one. BELIEVE IT OR NOT!! But my co-worker told me she had went out to eat with her b/f who is black. Some black lady came and told her that she needs to stick to her own kind of men. Some people are so Bold. I would be like biatch please find your own mandingo if that was me! LOL
 
I think that there's alot of issues of why someone would date another , but when someone looks at it as white women steeling black men, it becomes an insecurity issue for that person. NOT THE RACE! Tell that person to move on with their life.
 
Dave G> said:
I think that there's alot of issues of why someone would date another , but when someone looks at it as white women steeling black men, it becomes an insecurity issue for that person. NOT THE RACE! Tell that person to move on with their life.
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I totally agree with you Dave!
 
because they steal their men and most of them try to act like they are black girls i'd be pissed too
 
lilshygyrl said:
because they steal their men and most of them try to act like they are black girls i'd be pissed too
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Well, what does it mean to act black (being sarcastic)? I got off the phone with her earlier and she just said that it make her feel bad. But she's willing to fight for the man she loves.
 
when they talk like their black and do their hair like their black, and wont have anything to do with people that are their true race.most of them even try to say that they are black, when they got pale white skin blonde hair and blue eyes
 
lilshygyrl said:
because they steal their men and most of them try to act like they are black girls i'd be pissed too
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WTF...how can someone "steal" a human being? LMAOOO they just mad cuz their race is likin or loving another race & thats what namakes them mad :splat Oh & Tank you sure you at a loss of words on this babe...hahahaha
 
I think they dont understand that we in 2000 we dont run are heart .. Are heart have is own mind you know ... You never know who you going to fall inlove with you know ..
I think is all about love cuz no one is going to be with somone just for the hell of it ... People like that have to learn that everyone is different not every one thinks alike and just cuz they dont like it dont me we have to listen to there azz come on get real ... I tell you something I hate people like that ... am not down with that I always told me dad when I fall inlove with someone am lookin into there heart not there color or where they came from if I like how they treat me and how we work together thats all that matter that we care for each other ...
 
ok i know i am waaaaay late on this post...but i thought i'd share a black female perspective.

personally i dont care who a black guy dates...you like who you like. i have seen people who are in bad relationships with people of the same race, but when they date another person of a different race, people get all upset. so the person is supposed to just stay with someone who treats them like crap, but not date someone who happens to be a different race but who treats them with love and respect? that is just bull as far as i'm concerned.

now there are some black men who date white women because they feel that white women are better, more attractive, or a symbol of having "moved up" in the world. now i would get upset over something like that because that is obviously not a fair assumption, and it implies that just because i am not white i am not a worthy partner. once again, let me clarify that if the black guy is dating the white girl because they are truly compatible or right for each other, then fine. after all, isnt that what a relationship is supposed to be about? but i will get rather angry if i hear a white chick with a black man saying "he's with me because black women are too loud, vulgar, mean, fat, etc...." and believe me i have heard and read about white women and black men who say crap like that.

another aspect is that lots of black people just do not trust white people for historical reasons, and for social reasons that still exist. many black people feel that white people are not to be trusted, and that black people should stick together. now i can understand why they might feel that way, because there are a lot of black people who really have not grown up interacting much with white people, so they dont have any positive, personal experiences with whites. i'm really not trying to make generalizations, but that element of mistrust is definitely still there.

and its not just mistrust; black people and white people often have completely different outlooks on various issues, just because of how they were raised or their life experiences (hence terms like "boojie" and such). so if a black person dates outside their race, usually there are other blacks who assume he/she wants to be something theyre not or is betraying the race. i wont lie; i often talk about how white people do so and so, and its probably wrong, but i have to stop myself when i think about the white people i know and ask myself if i am making a valid generalization. but having spent my life around black and white people, i definitely notice the differences, but i dont think its something that cant be worked out by two people who want to be in a relationship.

throw into the mix the shortage of "good" black men. for instance, there are a lot more black women in college than men (the number is very disproportional; unfortunately i dont have the stats right with me at the moment), so many black women have trouble finding black men that have similar priorities, goals, and that can hold their own as strong partners financially and mentally. when some black women see black men dating white women, they see the pickings grow even slimmer, and many black women are unwilling to look at the white race for partners because they feel that they dont have any common experiences or backgrounds with white men.

overall i think this issue is indicative of social differences, inequalities, and scars that need to be addressed. yes, self-esteem can be an issue (for instance, lil kim, who through extensive plastic surgery and even skin lightening is starting to look more european everyday, has acknowledged that several of her black boyfriends dumped her for white women that looked more "glamorous" and desirable to them; i think that her extensive surgery is a reflection of her low esteem over this issue), but i think you'll find that a lot of black women who may seem jealous actually have good self-esteem and therefore cant understand why they are not considered good enough for black men to date.

sorry for the long post, but i hope i just wanted to offer another perspective on this topic.
 
WOW....IM SPEECHLESS!!!!!! I AGREE DATE WHO IS IN YOUR BEST INTEREST...DOESN'T MATTER THE COLOR OF YOUR SKIN....I HAVE NEVER PERSONALY DATED A BLACK GUY....I FIGURE BECAUSE THAT AM NOT THEIR TYPE??? WHO KNOWS!! I AM HALF WHITE AND HISPANIC...BUT GO WITH WHAT YOUR HEART WANTS.
 
Im white puerto rican and my girlfriend is very very dark color. When I go out with her many stare at us. I grin. I take it as we look so cute together lol. She is dominican/puertorican and many are shocked when they find out she is latina lol She is the darkest prettiest thing man has ever seen...and what an incredible beautiful black ass she has jezus!!!! 😱

-ant
 
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