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Sexyangel329

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Well I had some questions and wanted to hear from the almighty wise ones. I will be having my baby in December and I guess it is normal to start questioning so many things and that is what I find myself doing now. I think about my baby boy and I get scared wondering if I will be a good mom. I am going to be a single mom and I know that no matter what I am the one who will be the one for my son 24/7 of my life making sure he never goes without and has all the love in the world. My mom was and is the best she was my mom and dad I mean my dad was there but his presence was no way that of my mothers granted now my dad is one of the bestest friends I have but the reality of it all is that my mom was the super woman. I mean the ideal image is to have both mom and dad there but lets be real rarly does that happen specially these days. I know I am a strong woman God knows just how much but I start to worry if I will be a good mom I find myself thinking so far into the future and I know its part of the nurturing and protecting mothers do before there children are even born. Financially I am in no way ready but i know God would not have blessed me if he thought I couldn't do it. So i want to know how you ladies do it how do you continue to be the best mommies to your little ones is it as hard as I know and feel to be a single mama these days. 😉
 
When i was 14 i found out i was was pregnant. He wasnt my boyfriend-just seeing each other. I told him i was prego and he told me to have an abotion-he even came quick to tell me it wasnt his-and yes i was called every name in the book!Being a single mother is nothing to worry about-if you know mentally and physically you can care of a baby-that is all the baby needs.My parents were there every step of the way.When my first son was 3 months old- i started dating again and met the man i am still with today.So yes, i am techanilly a single mother cause i am not married, but if you have the love and support from family and friends,you will never feel helpless or alone.
I give alot of credit to all the single mami's out there and especially you cause you have a postive head on your shoulders- i dont know you, but from the sound of it- you will be a great mom, enjoy every minute of it!:hearton
God bless you and your baby boy......
 
Ang, there truly is no way of explaning how single moms do what they do. I for one can't put it in writing, I am just glad that I have family and friends who help along the way. and the love you have for your child helps you in ways you could never imagine. It makes you strive for more so that they will never do without. I am a single mom, although I have my fam, and friends, and my boo to help me along, give advice hear and there, I am still the primary caregiver for my boys, and I love it. When my boys grow up they will know how to treat women, because they will remember the sacrifices, the struggles and they will learn not to be that way with the women in thier lives. But Mama, like I said there really isn't a how to book, if anything, it's a blank book, and you fill it in as you go. MUAH!

I know you will not have a problem mama, you are a great person, and Tiny will know from the get, if he doesn't know already. 😉
 
All I know is that being a "mommy" is a special thing! And when you have to be a single mommy, believe me, you do what you have to do. It just all comes natural. Nothing to worry about. I understand you're a strong woman and that's one of the main ingredients it takes to be a very good, single mommy. The main ingredient is "a lot of love". You'll be fine girl! 😉
 
first off, congrats angie, i didnt know u were pregnant!!!

all you have to do is trust in GOD...once i put faith in GOD i knew things would be ok...right now i am not working, i cant even find a job...but whenever my daughter or i need something, it seems that GOD provideds it

there is a path for you and your baby to follow, and GOD will make sure u get there safe and sound

so stop worrying, worrying gets u nothing but heartburn, LMAO

if u want to worry about something, worry about going to the hospital nice and early so u can have all the drugs available for LABOR!!!!
 
Thank you ladies it really means a lot to me. I find myself doing so much thinking and worrying but I leave it in Gods hands and as I said God would not have blessed me if he thought I were not capable of doing a good job. I am ready and have realized that no matter what its me and my boy and thank God I have such a loving family who I know will always be there for moral support and my partnah in crime and of course the Cf mommies. Thank you again ladies 🙂
 
Hey ma

Am a single mommy also .. I got preg when I was 18 and had my daughter by 19...When I had my daughter I was happy but then again I didn't know how to feel ... I didn't know if I could do it or not ..
Just like you ..But as time goes on you learn so much and you know what is right when you see that baby face you just know ...I thank god my mom and dad was there and my brothers my family came together .. I think is true what they say sometime things happenes for a reason ...

My daughter is my world if am here today is cuz of her cuz some times is like you get to a point you know but I see her and is like am back to everything is good .. Thats my lil angel...

I know you do great ma ... god is wit ya ...God bless you ma and your lil angel.........
 
HEYYYYY ANGIE!! WELL YOU KNOW THAT I AM NOT A SINGLE MOM, BUT EVEN WHEN YOUR MARRIED THOSE SAME THOUGHTS CROSS YOUR MIND...YOU WONDER IF YOUR GONNA BE A GOOD MOMMY OR IF YOU CAN PROVIDE, OR HOW DO YOU KNOW WHAT TO DO...MAMA IT ALL COMES NATURALLY 🙂 WHEN JESSICA WAS BORN MY MOM STAYED A WEEK WITH ME AND TOOK CARE OF ME AND HELPED ME WITH THE BABY...I CAN STILL REMEMBER THIS DAY (GIRL I HAVE TEARS IN MY EYES AS I AM TYPING THIS) IT WAS MY MOM'S LAST DAY AND SHE WAS GONNA GO HOME I WAS LIKE NO MOM DON'T LEAVE ME..I WAS IN TEARS TELLING MY MOM "WHAT IF I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO WITH THE BABY?" WHAT IF I DON'T KNOW...I WAS TRYING TO BE STRONG BUT I BROKE DOWN...MY MOM WAS TRYING TO BE STRONG TOOO, AND SHE SAID THAT I WILL KNOW WHAT TO DO THAT IT COMES NATURALLY AS A MOMMY. SHE LEFT!! ON HER WAY HOME OF COURSE SHE SHEDDED HER TEARS FOR ME AND SHE SOOOOO MUCH WANTED TO TURN AROUND AND COME BACK TO MY HOUSE, BUT SHE WENT HOME 🙁 AND SURE ENOUGH SHE WAS RIGHT!! WE LEARN RIGHT AWAY!! IT IS A GREAT EXPERIENCE, YOU ARE THE SWEETEST PERSON AND I KNOW YOU WILL BE A GREAT MOMMY AND DADDY TO YOUR BABY!! NO DOUBT ABOUT THAT!! I KNOW YOU HAVE LOT'S OF FRIENDS AND FAMILY THAT WILL BE THERE FOR YOU, AND DON'T FORGET THE CF MOMMIES ARE HERE TO GIVE SOME ADVICE IF YA NEED IT. I KNOW I AM FAR AWAY BUT IF YA NEED ANYTHING I AM HERE FOR U ANGIE! 😉 JUST BE POSITIVE AND KEEP YOUR HEAD UP CAUSE YOU CAN DO IT!! SI SE PUEDE!!! HEHE TAKE CARE!!
 
Mamamita don't you worry I know that you will be a excellent Mommy to Tiny. Look you are already worried about it and that shows that you are a true real mommy.
 
Angie, knowing you this little from reading on CF, I can tell that you're a great dedicated responsible person.. you will make a great mommy for your baby boy.. don't you worry about anything... you're also very strong which means a lot... you will be hte best mommy anyone can be for your baby, both him and you will learn as you go!
 
WOW ANGIE....SEE U NOT ALONE....

HEY MAMA, AS YOU SEE IN HERE YOU GOT ALOT OF GOOD ADVISE.....ONE DOESNT LEARN TO BE A MOM...THERE ARE NO HANDBOOKS ON BEING A GOOD MOMMY......LIKE THEY SAY..." BEING A GOOD MOM COMES NATURALLY"...WITH MY DAUGHTER THAT IS NOW 18 YEARS OLD... I WAS A SINGLE MOM....AND MY KRISTINE NEVER WENT WITHOUT AND I PUT HER THROUGH CATHOLIC SCHOOL SINCE SENCOND GRADE...AND SHE JUST GRADUATED HIGH SCHOOL IN JUNE....I HAVE 2 SONS...FRANKIE AND JOSH, THEY ALSO GO TO CATHOLIC SCHOOL...HEY A MOM SACRIFICES WHAT SHE HAS TO GIVE THEIR CHILDREN...I'LL GO WITHOUT TO MAKE SURE MY KIDS HAVE.....AND HOW COULD ONE BE MARRIED AND BE A SINGLE PARENT... WELL BELIEVE ME IT COULD HAPPEN... I DO ALL WITH MY KIDS...JUST MAKE SURE U SHOW LOTS OF LOVE AND NO MATTER WHAT ALWAYS BE THERE FOR YOUR TINY...( YOUR LITTLE MAN).....GOD BLESS YOU AND LITTLE MAN........AND IM ALWAYS HERE FOR YOU...AND SO ARE ALOT OF OTHER PEEPS..NYASIA FIRST IN LINE... REMEMBER THAT ALWAYS!!!!!!!MUAHZZZ :1luv :1luv :1luv :1luv NOTHING BUT LOVE FOR YOU MAMITA...
 
Awww thank you Nancy it is good to hear from everyone it really helps and it is always good to know I have more friends that I thought lol. Oye where are my pastelios 🙁
 
I'm a single mom to my 5 yr. old baby boy Jose'. Yes Angie it is hard to raise a child especially if your a single mom but trust me it is also wonderful knowing that there is someone on this Earth that loves you soo much even with all your faults & to know that he relies on you for everything makes you do whatever you have to do to make your child happy.
There are days when I don't even wanna get out of bed or days I just wanna end it all because of the situation I'm in but then I look over & see my lil' boy sleeping like an angel & I know in my heart that I'll make it thru the rough times & be strong for my son. Being a mother is wonderful & I'm sure you will be a great mommy to your lil' son. As long as you have people in your life that you love & trust then they will be there to help you out...you don't have to do it alone. Plus you got all these great CF mommies as well ready to share the wisdom if raisng kids...Good luck ma
 
Hey mama it will come naturally, it's instinct. Don't worry about anything, your Son will be loved & that is #1 🙂
 
Ang.....these ladies are right!

I want to tell u it's common sense...unfortunatly not everyone uses it!
I was a teen mom...my oldest is 11 now...and when he was born I never felt like a mom and to this day- i still don't he's my buddy..my brother...and my right hand man.....

u'r lil man will be just fine..... we all have those thoughts- i know i did, all 3 pregancies..

Love him and bond with him- and he'll never let u go...
 
HEY GIRL UPS AND DOWNS,FRUSTRATION,SADNESS,STRUGGLING....ALL LEAD TO JOY AND HAPINESS BEYOND ALL MEASURE!!..IT IS NOT EASY,FAR FROM IT,BUT IT IS WORTH IT!! I DO IT ALONE 2 KIDS 11 AND 3!! BUT NOTHING IN THIS WORLD CAN EVER COMPARE TO THE FEELING U HAVE,THE FIRST TIME U HOLD UR CHILD LOOK INTO THEIR EYEZ AND SEE THE LOVE!!..GOD BLESS U AND YOUR LIL MAN MAMA!!!
 
Hey Sexy... First off... Congratulations on your blessings.

This is suppose to be the happiest time of your life and like you, I was pregnant and alone. (I already had a baby with my boyfriend, but when I was pregnant with our second son, we split up) so I was pregnant alone... except for my 1st son - who was my angel that got me through allot. My ex didn't want me to have the second baby because it didn't fit in with his new girlfriend (who is now his wife), but there was no doubt in my mind that I wanted this other baby. He was another version of my Sammy (my 1st son).

I was 26 when I had my first son and believe me, I wasn't ready to be a mom. I was so dependent on everyone that I thought I couldn't do it. Yet, when he was only 7 months old, I packed our things and moved out (their father was cheating) - but I still loved this man so much I wanted to make it work, got pregnant again, but knew me and him weren't going to make it, but I still wanted that baby.

Now with two kids.. it's all about me. I take care of them and I live for only them. No one will ever love you like your kids and you will never love anyone like you love them.

I am not one to sit here and give God all the credit, but this baby is a gift.

I wanted the husband, the house, the kids, and even the dog and I thought that my life wouldn't feel completed unless I had all of that, but I was wrong. I still look at my kids like, oh my god, you are mine.... my kids.

It's corney, but so true.

You'll do fine and never be afraid to ask for help. You can PM me at any time to ask me anything. I feel for you.

You are going through so many emotions right now and since I was kind of in your position, maybe I can help.

Gina
 
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