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La Mas Grande

La Mas Grande

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Well I Feel For One That Regardless How Long You With Someone You Need Your Personal Space/property. I Dont Believe In Looking Through My Sign Other Property And I Would Be Highly Upset If Its Done To Me. There Are Things About Me That I Want To Keep To Myself At Least Until I'm Comfortable Sharing It. Just Curious To See What Every One Elses Opinion Is.

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I can see both sides of this discussion.

I think that everyone needs personal space or property. However, if I am in a committed relationship, and that person wants to ask me about that personals stuff, or want to see it, I would have no problem sharing that with them.
 
Thats Cool Chuck But I Wouldnt Go Through My Sign Others Wallet Or Journals. I Take That As A Personal Violation And Would Have A Fit If Its Done To Me. I Personally Like To Write And I Share Only What I Want To Share. Some Of It Is Just So I Can Reflect On My Life And Try To Figure Things Out. When I'm Ready To Talk I Will But Until I Hate Be Pushed To Do It.
 
Ok LMG, I see what you are saying. I have two very close friends, Tina, and Corrine. There have been times where they have said to me, "Hey Chuck, can you get this for me from my purse?" and I will bring the purse to them before I go into it.

I know if they are telling me to look through it, it's ok, but I still feel like that is their personal stuff, and I have no business being in it.
 
yes I agree.
I'm not nosey or insecure like that- but then again...if they're doin that to you , because they suspect something goin on- then maybe (NOT U LMG) are being a lil sloppy w/ your xtra curicular activities.....

its also flat out disrespectful- we all have our skeletons..and even if there are those rare one who DON"T...we all need out "mee" time.
 
Yep, I Mean My Man Leaves His Shit All Over The Place And It Stays Where He Left It. His Cell Is Always There And I Never Go Into. It Just Wrong.
 
Well this all depends now, like for example. If I'm with someone right and he cheated on me but we are working things out but his ex keeps calling him or sending him little private text messages. Well I have every right to be checking up on him. Sh*t if he did it onces who's to say that while we are working out our situation this biotch don't try to come between us again. But if he's never given me the reason to be suspious then there is no need on my end to be going through his things in the first place. Anyways,,,,, being noisy is how you always find out that your significant other is playing you. Better to catch him yourself then to have other people telling you these things anyways. But this is my opinion!
 
Well Candy Your Right To A Point Like Yes If He Is Did It Once Chances Are He Will Do It Again But To Me It Still Doesnt Give You The Right To Go Into His/her Personal. What Is The Sense Of Being In A Relationship If Your So Insecure That Cant Enjoy Being In The Relationship. I Personally Would Be Furious If My Man Go Through My Stuff. It's A Violation...........
 
La Mas Grande said:
Well Candy Your Right To A Point Like Yes If He Is Did It Once Chances Are He Will Do It Again But To Me It Still Doesnt Give You The Right To Go Into His/her Personal. What Is The Sense Of Being In A Relationship If Your So Insecure That Cant Enjoy Being In The Relationship. I Personally Would Be Furious If My Man Go Through My Stuff. It's A Violation...........
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Exactly but isn't cheating a violation as well. I mean if we are trying to work things out and the ex is still hanging around waiting for a crack in the relationship and I know he is volnerable (sp) shouldn't I be keeping my eyes out. What if he gives me a disease or something. What if all this time I think we are doing fine and he is still messing with her. I have the right to know since I've been with him from the start. I have the right to make a choice from that moment on and if he is not telling me about this other relationship then being noisy is the only way I'm going to find out. I don't know if this make sense but I don't trust anything with a penis! Eventually sooner or later he will fall again!
 
Anyways, if you have nothing to hide then what can they really find. Plus if your in a relationship with this person for a long time there shouldn't be any secrets. Yeah we all need our space but hey I'm not doing anything wrong so go through my stuff all you want. If there is a trust set between two people and the confidence to talk about anything then it really wouldn't bother you. But if your doing things your not suppose too, well thats means to be noisy!
 
First Of All If He Cheated Then You Should Be Using Condoms Before You Go Back To Bed With Him . Two If You Feel That He Is Vulnerable And Confused Then You Need To Take A Step Back And Figure Whether He Wants To Be With You Or Is Just With You Because Of Other Obligations. I Refused To Be In A Relationship Where I Am So Unsure Myself And Him And What He Feels For Me That I Have Stoop As Low As Snooping Through His Stuff.
 
IT NOT THE POINT OF HAVING ANYTHING TO HIDE, I FOR ONE DON'T BUT I DO HAVE THINGS THAT I PREFER TO SHARE ON MY OWN TIME. MY WRITING FOR EXAMPLE IS SOMETHING THAT I KEEP TO MYSELF UNTIL I FEEL ITS READY.IT WOULD BE A VIOLATION TO ME IF SOMEONE JUST WENT IN AND READ THEM WITH OUT MY PERMISSION.

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Anyways, if you have nothing to hide then what can they really find. Plus if your in a relationship with this person for a long time there shouldn't be any secrets. Yeah we all need our space but hey I'm not doing anything wrong so go through my stuff all you want. If there is a trust set between two people and the confidence to talk about anything then it really wouldn't bother you. But if your doing things your not suppose too, well thats means to be noisy!
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Hey, guys use many excuses for cheating. Some of those excuses don't make sense. Plus if you have someone constanting throwing themselves at the person, hey he is bound to fall sooner or later. Another thing, who weres condom after their man has cheated if he didn't wear them with the her either? If he checked himself and he is clean, what's the condom for? If I asked my man to wear a condom everytime we made love, he's gonna think I'm the one cheating! Plus if he came back to me and we don't have any obligations, it must be because he wants to be with me and not her! All I'm saying is if there is trust within a relationship you happen to be going through your partners stuff just out of curiousity and you don't find anything what can you say but what if you do?
 
La Mas Grande said:
IT NOT THE POINT OF HAVING ANYTHING TO HIDE, I FOR ONE DON'T BUT I DO HAVE THINGS THAT I PREFER TO SHARE ON MY OWN TIME. MY WRITING FOR EXAMPLE IS SOMETHING THAT I KEEP TO MYSELF UNTIL I FEEL ITS READY.IT WOULD BE A VIOLATION TO ME IF SOMEONE JUST WENT IN AND READ THEM WITH OUT MY PERMISSION.
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Good point, in that case I would make it very clear to them. This is very personal to me and when I'm ready to share it with you I will but for now I would appreciate it if you respected my stuff and not go through it please! If they respect you they will but if they don't trust you then your gonna have to find a good hiding place for it so it wont be disrespected!
 
Candy If He Cheated On You And Your Not Using Condoms When You Make Love I'm Sorry But Thats Stupid On Your Part. Only Because You Have To Protect Yourselve And Fuk His Feeling. If He Askes You Why Your Using Condoms Tell Him It His Own Fault, Not Yours.

Now Back To What This Thread Is About, I Feel That Everyone Has The Right To Their Own Personal Space And It Shouldnt Be Violated. I Dont Do It Because I Wouldnt Want It Done To Me And Im Also Quite Secure In Myself That Having To Stoop That Low.

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