Opinions on Divorce

[kxrider375]

It is said that the only thing worse than death is Divorce. I would imagine that's true, but most divorces are that bad I think because kids are involved.

My question is "Is the end of a marriage with no children involved easier?"

It would seem to me that it is and I have a friend who ended his marriage after 7 years and they never had kids. I haven't asked him about it but I probably will soon.

I hope we can get opinions from both sides here along with opinions from people who have never been married.

 

[ChuckD]

I don't think it is any easier for a couple who doesn't have any children.

When a couple decides to divorce, it's very difficult. They believed they were gonna be together forever, and it didn't work that way.

 

[lachicabella]

I've never been married before, hence I am a single woman.

I come from a broken home, yet my father was always and still is in my and my younger sister's life.

My parents separated and then divorced after 5 years of marriage in 1983; I was 2 years old when they separated in 1981, and my sister was just a baby (not even a year yet). My mom got custody of the both of us. The divorce was not finalized until 1983. I remember my father telling me that even though I was just a 2 year old toddler, I was aware that a separation was going on, and that I cried soooo much that I threw up. So yeah, divorce is a bad thing when there are kids involved and the kids are aware of what's going on. But I wouldn't say its worse than death, if anything, death is worse than divorce. With death, there's no coming back to life. With divorce you accept things for what they are and move on - at least you are still alive.

As far as couples without children, I don't know about that, but I can say that at least they don't have to go through the heartache of seeing the kids suffer from it. So maybe its good they didn't have kids. Imagine the shit that they would go through if they did have kids.

 

[Itala]

I think its harder when children are involved. Harder on kids more than anything. I am divorced and it was the best deceison I made, but of course for the little one its tough. He is better now than in the beginning but divorce is divorce. Its a huge relief on one hand but a huge disappointment on the other. I certainly would never want to go through with it again.

 

[Enigma]

Divorce is harder if you have children...of course children get the short end of the stick so to speak cause no kid wants to see their parents seperate.

I divorced at age 26...no loss...heck I still can't believe I married and divorce. :lol To me it meant nothing...but if I had kids I would feel different about it. 🙂

 

[yburgos7]

Divorce is harder if you have children...of course children get the short end of the stick so to speak cause no kid wants to see their parents seperate.

Well in my case I was glad when my parents got divorced. My life as well as that of my mother's was a living hell while my father was around...all the fighting, all the crying, all the anger was not healthy for any of us...You see my father was cheating on my mom since before I was born...When I was 4 years old he even used to take me to see his girlfriend (now his wife) on Sundays after he taught his karate class...so the fact that he couldn't go out and party and do his thing (as freely as he wanted to) made living with him unbearable...all the anger and resentment he had was incredible...so in the winter '86 my mother threw him out the house and they later finalized their divorce in '87 and I tell you it was like a huge, huge weight was lifted off our shoulders...it was a new beggining for me and my mother and it made us very close...as for my father I saw him more after the divorce than when they were married...he came around all the time (was even trying to get back with my mom while he was married to his current wife:rolleyes )...He started a new family in Florida and I go down there with my mother (yes...with my mother) to stay with them and they come here and stay with us...so it's all good...but I do have to say that seeing him with his new family was very painful because the way he acts with his other kids and wife isn't the way he was with me and my moms...it is something I still have to address...I am just happy my mother is doing good with her life...I am doing good...we are happy the way things turned out in the end....