need of advice from both views...BADLY...

[bklyngrl]

hey everyone, i'm in need of advice! sorry about it being really LONG but it sums up what happens. here's some info about the ppl involved:
me: 18, senior, bad love life, stressed out with school,social and personal life
justin: same age, senior, dating jen, ends up hurting me
jen: justin's g/f. had stood him up in the past,was never really there for justin
annmarie: a friend that screwed my life up

here's what happens..

one day, justin asked me if i would give us a try. at this point, he was already in a relationship. i replied by sayin i only saw him as a friend, nothing more..thing was that i had the same feelings he had towards me. we hung out many times and he had asked if we could ever go out and i still said i only see him as a friend. later, i find out that he & jen were over from a friend. a few days later, justin tells me that he had tried his best to see if i would give us a try & wrote "i don't wanna date you, friends is fine" & tells me that he had broken up w/ jen for a month. i didn't expect this to happen so i kinda told him how i felt & that i would have given him a chance if he told me that he had broken up with her. we ended up talkin, next thing i knew, we were kinda going out. sounds like my wish came true & nothing could go wrong? wrong

this past sunday, justin invited me to a basketball game in manhattan. everything was fine at first but soon hell came about. i get a call sayin that justin was using & cheatin on me. my reaction:why? after the game, justin had to put something away. i go outside & wait. since i'm going through stress, i didn't know what to think. annmarie calls, tells me b.s. when he came back, 1st thing i did was SMACK HIM across the face in public! he got pissed. i end up losing it & walked away. justin did not know what happened so he started following me. i yelled at him to get away from me,he wouldn't. fyi, cops were around us. i walk away again & he stops me & pushes me against a building,asks what happened. there was a cop who saw this. i screamed "get off me" justin didn't. we argue & the cop comes closer. i told him what i heard & he was like "why do you keep listenin to annmarie. she lied about everything". we end up makin up & going to times square from there. justin had mention about meeting up with his father but i kept stormin off. we ended up watching a movie there & he never met up with his father. we then left the city. i get a call from my dad asking me to call up justin's dad &i did. his dad asks me if i knew where justin was b/c he never met up with him after the game. i completely forgot about this so i explained everything to his dad. next thing, justin gets in trouble b/c of me. we end up talkin online & told him that i would take the blame for everything that happened. he was too pissed off at me.

next day, we broke up after a week. i didn't sleep knowing that i screwed him up so bad. i really felt really bad. i end up telling him that i never considered it a relationship b/c i knew that her was gonna regret dating me & that's why i forced him to break up with me!we end up not talkin for a week. i think this past saturday we spoke online. he ends up apologizing & wondered if we could start again. i said no b/c i didn't think i deserved him. we end up arguing. he tells me that since we broke up, he went back to jen b/c he couldn't stand being single! i end up tellin him that i took the blame for everythin & he did that to me. justin tells me that he went back to her a day after we were done & he did this to get back at me for getting him in trouble that day. i felt like committing suicide. we argue more. i told him "how could you go back to her within a second after we break up? all the things i've done didn't matter did it? you used me.." justin tells me that i've hurted him in more ways he's hurted me. one excuse was "i needed someone to talk to. jen called & i told her what happened". i completely felt that while we were going out, he never cared about me & had used me all along. he had told me that he loved me but sayin those 3 words did damage. results: i wrote an email about how i truly felt about him & that i want to give it another try but he doesn't want to. justin also said that no matter what i do, he won't give us a try since i've screwed him over so many times..

what should i do now? stay away?

 

[sad-principessa19]

Sounds like Justin is blaming you for everything and it isnt all your fault just think everything happens for a reason maybe you should try to forget bout him I know it will be hard but I think you can do it if you put up with him thru all this then you can do it:angel

hey everyone, i'm in need of advice! sorry about it being really LONG but it sums up what happens. here's some info about the ppl involved:
me: 18, senior, bad love life, stressed out with school,social and personal life
justin: same age, senior, dating jen, ends up hurting me
jen: justin's g/f. had stood him up in the past,was never really there for justin
annmarie: a friend that screwed my life up

here's what happens..

one day, justin asked me if i would give us a try. at this point, he was already in a relationship. i replied by sayin i only saw him as a friend, nothing more..thing was that i had the same feelings he had towards me. we hung out many times and he had asked if we could ever go out and i still said i only see him as a friend. later, i find out that he & jen were over from a friend. a few days later, justin tells me that he had tried his best to see if i would give us a try & wrote "i don't wanna date you, friends is fine" & tells me that he had broken up w/ jen for a month. i didn't expect this to happen so i kinda told him how i felt & that i would have given him a chance if he told me that he had broken up with her. we ended up talkin, next thing i knew, we were kinda going out. sounds like my wish came true & nothing could go wrong? wrong

this past sunday, justin invited me to a basketball game in manhattan. everything was fine at first but soon hell came about. i get a call sayin that justin was using & cheatin on me. my reaction:why? after the game, justin had to put something away. i go outside & wait. since i'm going through stress, i didn't know what to think. annmarie calls, tells me b.s. when he came back, 1st thing i did was SMACK HIM across the face in public! he got pissed. i end up losing it & walked away. justin did not know what happened so he started following me. i yelled at him to get away from me,he wouldn't. fyi, cops were around us. i walk away again & he stops me & pushes me against a building,asks what happened. there was a cop who saw this. i screamed "get off me" justin didn't. we argue & the cop comes closer. i told him what i heard & he was like "why do you keep listenin to annmarie. she lied about everything". we end up makin up & going to times square from there. justin had mention about meeting up with his father but i kept stormin off. we ended up watching a movie there & he never met up with his father. we then left the city. i get a call from my dad asking me to call up justin's dad &i did. his dad asks me if i knew where justin was b/c he never met up with him after the game. i completely forgot about this so i explained everything to his dad. next thing, justin gets in trouble b/c of me. we end up talkin online & told him that i would take the blame for everything that happened. he was too pissed off at me.

next day, we broke up after a week. i didn't sleep knowing that i screwed him up so bad. i really felt really bad. i end up telling him that i never considered it a relationship b/c i knew that her was gonna regret dating me & that's why i forced him to break up with me!we end up not talkin for a week. i think this past saturday we spoke online. he ends up apologizing & wondered if we could start again. i said no b/c i didn't think i deserved him. we end up arguing. he tells me that since we broke up, he went back to jen b/c he couldn't stand being single! i end up tellin him that i took the blame for everythin & he did that to me. justin tells me that he went back to her a day after we were done & he did this to get back at me for getting him in trouble that day. i felt like committing suicide. we argue more. i told him "how could you go back to her within a second after we break up? all the things i've done didn't matter did it? you used me.." justin tells me that i've hurted him in more ways he's hurted me. one excuse was "i needed someone to talk to. jen called & i told her what happened". i completely felt that while we were going out, he never cared about me & had used me all along. he had told me that he loved me but sayin those 3 words did damage. results: i wrote an email about how i truly felt about him & that i want to give it another try but he doesn't want to. justin also said that no matter what i do, he won't give us a try since i've screwed him over so many times..

what should i do now? stay away?

 

[dbzdb2000]

if u look at it from a differnt point of view its kinda both of ya fault that ya broke up. i mean that annmarie girl call u and told u b.s and u believe her adn smack justin cuz of it. he even say she lie a lot and i dont know if she really do but ya. nesx time that happen dont let ur emotion get in the way. ask about it first or somethin dont go hittin someone lol. and on the other hand. him blamin u for everthin like he didnt go see his dad. that was wrong of him cuz he choich not to go and spend time with u but on the other hand if he did went it would made thing wroster cuz u was mad and stuff and he wanted to work it out. but i dunno i was gettin cross eye readin it lol. but i say stay away from him and get over him u really dont need a guy like that. he gonna go out with his ex rite afer u but then he say he got feelin for u that wrong rite there. and dont think about killin urself. live ur life to the fullest u know. and if u need someone to tlak to about this stuff IM me on aim my sn is azndreamerboi279. hope i help. best of luck

 

[NYPRCAN]

This guy is playing a game and he's TRYING to play it on you. You don't need him, i'm positive that if you go and socialize you will realize that this is just a bump in the road, you are MEANT to experience this NOW to help enrich your future. LUckily for you, you are too smart not to research the answer.. I understand too well about the depressive thoughts you've had. Imagine HOW many MORE of HAPPINess you will have that will make the bad ONE just disappear. LEt this strengthen you and help you FOCUS on YOU and Your GOALS. I'm glad that you admit you have this issue and you posed it to us here in CF. (BTW,,WElcome)We're here to support you during your ups and downs. We are here to enjoy and enrich our lives and the lives of other fellow CF'ers like yourself. So don't worry, by the way you write, you are definitely intelligent and you should use that intelligence to focus on YOU and the HAPPINESS will fall into place. Move past this SPEED BUMP and you will see the highways open up for you.