Need Advice

[Heavenly]

I'm not sure if this is the right forum to put this in but oh well.....

Reading the Forum "I'm Confused" got me thinking about this....

My best friend is dating this guy that she met about 4months ago and well she is with him 24/7. He comes to her house EVERY DAY and now she NEVER has time for me or her other friends. She and I used to talk everyday and now I am lucky she calls me every 2 wks. The thing is she is not only neglecting her friends but her daughter too. Anyways she just called me a couple weeks ago and announced that they were moving in together.....URG!! Anyway I don't think its a hot idea, but what can one do.....so ok how do I tell her I MISS MY BEST FRIEND without sounding like a jealous chick.

FYI....I have a boyfriend too but I never neglected her like that....I still hang with other friends, for instance still have my weekly Girl nite outs.....

Sooooo what should I do???

 

[Sexyangel329]

GIRL I RECENTLY WENT THROUGH THE SAME THING WITH MY BEST FRIEND. SHE THOUGHT I WAS ACTING SHADY BECAUSE I DINT LIKE HER MAN BUT WHAT SHE DIDNT REALIZE WAS THAT TO ME SHE WAS ACTING DIFFERENT NOT CALLING HANGING I WAS GOING THROUGH SOME SHIT AND I DIDNT FEEL SHE WAS THERE FOR ME. I FELT AS IF SHE WAS PUSHING ME AWAY BECAUSE OF THE CHANGE SHE WAS MAKING BUT THANKFULLY A DEAR AND PRECIOUS FRIEND/SISTER LOL BROUGHT US TOGETHER AND WE TALKED. SHE KNEW HOW I FELT AND UNDERSTOOD AND I DID THE SAME IN THE END SHE IS WITH A GREAT GUY WHO SHE IS ENGAGED TO BE MARRIED TO. MY ADVICE IS TALK TO HER TELL HER YOU MISS HER THAT WAY SHE WONT THINK OR ASSUME YOU ARE JUST JEALOUS AND IN ALL REALITY YOU MISS YOUR BEST FRIEND WHY NOT LET HER NO JUST THAT. YOU WONT SOUND JEALOUS BELIEVE ME. GETTING EVERYTHING OUT IN THE AIR HELPED US AND WE ACTUALLY DO EVERYTHING TOGETHER. WHILE YOUR AT IT TRY TO GET HER NO MAN. GOOD LUCK CHICA 😀

 

[Angeleyes]

You need to to talk to her and let her know what the deal is!!! Communication, communication, communication. Just because she has a man doesn't mean she should forget her friends especially her best friend. Wanting to be with your man is one thing but at the expense of neglecting your friends is another. I know if I ever did that to my best friend (who's on this site too) she'd kick my ass & vice versa. Anyhow, from experience, if your friend continues to revolve her world around only him then when/if they break up she'll be left with no one & then she's got no one to blame but herself for neglecting all her friends. Also neglecting her friends is bad enough but neglecting your own child that's just downright wrong but hey I'm not in her shoes so whateva. Maybe as her best friend, you can make her see what everyone else is seeing. Communicate. You won't come across as being jealous especially since you have your own bf & her being your best freind she should know how you're feeling. Good Luck. Hope everything works out & hopefully after all is said & done you guyz will still remain tight!

BTW Congratz girly on being a moderator. Woohoo!!!! Of course to Sexyangel329 too. Way to go girlz... 😀

 

[Heavenly]

Well honestly I have spoken to her several times about it even about her neglecting her kid and all she says is that she isn't ignoring anyone, but when I suggest that her and her man and me and my man go out like a "double date" she shrugs it off and says she is busy.....what's up with that!!

And now her moving in with him.....THEY ONLY KNOWN each other for 4 months!!! THE HORROR!!!

Ok I venting....lol

 

[ITALIAN BELLA]

OUCH THATS HARSH HOW SHE JUST SHURGGED U OFF...BUT IF SHES NOT LISTENING TO U THEN MAYBE U SHOULD TRY TO GET OTHER PPLS POINT OF VIEW ON HER...MAYBE U COULD JUST BE PARANOID THAT U THINK UR LOSING UR BEST FRIEND AND U JUST WANT HER BACK THAT U START THINKING THINGS THAT AREN'T THERE??? WELL I DUNNO MAYBE U CAN TRY TALKING AGAIN...THATS MY BEST ADVICE...TELL HER U MISS HER AND U WANT TO SPEND SUM TIME WITH HER ....HOPE IT ALL WORKS OUT...SOON ENOUGH SHE'LL BE MISSING HER BESTEST BEST FRIEND AND COME BACK HEHEHE 😉

 

[NAT]

Heavenly girl, my goodness that's awful! Ok I had the same situation happen to me except, I was the one who neglected my friends including my best friend! The way I see it she is just gonna have to learn for herself. I'm sure you spoke to her several times and it goes in one ear and out the other. Its a sad situation to see your best friend like that, Eventually she will realize that she does need you as a best friend and just let her know that you will always be there for her. If she is making a mistake by being and moving with this guy, then let her make her own mistake and she will learn. Cause I know in my situation I learned that I dropped ALL my friends for my boyfriend at the time. I regret to this day! I learned from my mistake of doing that. Well..keep me posted!

 

[Heavenly]

Thanks Guys for the Advice I will try to talk to her AGAIN and try a different approach......I will keep ya posted