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La Mas Grande

La Mas Grande

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Alrighty I Have A Question For My Peeps. My Honey And I Were Discussing This Morning About Whether I Should Take His Name Or Not When We Get Marry. I Came Up With A Compromise But I Dont Think He's Biting. I Said We Should Just Take Eachothers Name's And Hyphenated Them. He Doesnt Agree With That But He Not Pushing For Me To Take His Name. My Point Is That The Reason He Want To Keep His Name Is B/c It Was His Father Well So Was Mine. And Honestly Tradition Doesnt Even Matter Because Tradition Has Been Out The Door For A Long Time Now. I Mean People Live Together, Have Children Out Of Wedlock And So Forth So Why Should This Be Any Different. What Do You Guys Think?
 
Well when I get married I've decided to keep my name but hyphenate it with his...but honestly things like this are a personally preference thing...and I don't think tradition has much on this anymore...thats my opinion do wut u think it right 🙂
 
Lol well keep pushing your case...I know names are a very very touchy topic 🙂 lol good luck with that one
 
I'd take my hubby's name...IF I ever get married!

Right now...doesn't look like it but hey...I like my freedom :heee
 
I like my last name...why should I change it...plus I don't like my bfs name so that's even more of a reason to keep mine :shush lol no but really I don't wanna change my name after X amount of yrs
 
I say keep yours when I got married I took my ex husbands name I just got it changed back to mine lol. My sister kept hers and used her ex husbands as well I would say kee yours and hyphenate 🙂
 
well on the contrary i feel that tradition is something that we should all practice always and i think it is not out the door like u say grande

there are still alot of ppl that believe in it and wanna keep practicing it for the sake of those that have children to show them the good things in life and if u desire to have a happy healthy marriage then dont say its a waste of time simply bcuz u say u dont wanna have ur man's last name

now i can understand why ur man wants u to have his last name its bcuz of the custom his parents gave him since young that he wants to continue that with u, now if u cant respect that then whats the point of gettin married? if ya not gonna understand each other completely and come to a mutual agreement feel me?

now u said also that u wanted to take each other's name and hyphenated them now wtf! is this a rican thing or what? lol did ya just made this up this is bullshit i never heard such thing u either take up someone's name or u just be by urself its one or the other u cant do both

another thing u said was "u wanted to do things ur way" hmmm (real feminist right there) i say u see its bcuz ur kind of comments that in today's society the latin population has a big divorce rate and its a damn shame that the latinos of today have a big percentage in that area

look diane marriage is a serious thing, marriage is not a joke is not a game that u can just decide i wanna play it one day u know? its something thats sacred, u talk about uniting and becoming as one well ma de corazon i tell u this do things right for u and ur kids not bcuz of him being forceful or anything cuz i think it has nothin to do with being macho or whatever cuz let it be known that when a guy asks a girl for marriage and to take up his name is an honor and a privilege ok remember that

a marriage done the right way receives alot of blessings under god's eyes, as for me i have someone that took my last name but even with that shes not marriage material anyway cuz i cant be with someone that doesnt have the same values as i do and that its always gonna be arguing and disagreeing with me for that i rather be by myself y la mando pa carajo cono so diane if this is the way u wanna do things then hey more power to u ma i wish u much luck and happiness cuz i wouldnt want u to go thru another bad one u deserve a good marriage and im just here to give u my advice and opinion thats all so think about it carefully ....sorry for the long story but this is what i felt at the moment in saying
 
I'd take his name, it's tradition and if he's asking me to do that for him then I'd do it. I mean he's man enough to ask, I'd give him that for him for respect.

It's always up to you and you both should agree on one thing or the other. Marriage is about sharing.!!!
 
i tookmy ex husbands name and still kept it inthe divorce. my sister uses a hyphenated version of her maiden and married. can you do that??
 
hyphenate it 😛... that's what I would do.. it's fair, right? 😀
 
Well contary to what you think Al, I do believe in traditions, but if you choose to be traditonal it should be in all matter not just the convient ones. Let see about tradition how many here are waiting till they get marry to have sex? So what your telling me Al is that if a women wants to have sex with you you wouldnt because of tradition? Be for real.

My name is just as important as his, it was also given to me by my father why the hell should i give it up? I'm not asking him to do that just to compromise. Now a days a women doesnt marry into his family, when two people decide to get marry they start a new family with many branches. And I think this is a good way to sybolize that.

Now as for a man asking a women to to get marry being a privilege "BULL SHIT". It a beautiful thing but it's not no fuking priviledge. Two people who love eachother enough to want to get marry is a blessing not a privilege.You make it sound as he is doing her a favor by asking cono.

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