mixed emotions

[bklyngrl]

hey everyone...i really need some help with something that's going on in my life. here's the deal: about 3 wks ago, one of my guy friends introduced me to his friend, justin. since then, we got to know each other a lil. we would talk on the phone, text msg each other, IM, hang out, etc. after a while, i kinda started to develop feelings for him. about 2 days ago, one of my girl friends called me up and told me that justin called her up. he told her that he might ask me out but the only problem was that i was turnin him off due to the fact that i'm always resisting him [like kissing him]. when she told me this, i didn't know how to react. i mean, i was never in a serious relationship in the past and i did get hurt once before. then, justin ends up calling me. he told me that he couldn't stand it when i never tell him how i feel and stuff like that. throughout the time while we were talkin, i felt uncomfortable talkin to him and also, i don't know why but i started to cry. he kept askin what was going on but i couldn't say. even my guy friend [the one that introduced us] knows i'm beginning to like him. i honestly don't know what to do anymore..i mean i'm startin to see him more than a friend but i can't tell him how i really feel for him since i don't wanna get hurt. i never thought that i would care about him in this way but i think he might not like me the way i like him. i wish i could tell him everythin but it's causin me to have mixed feelings. what should i do?? i don't wanna lose him and i wish we could work somethin out but i'm really confused.....

also, before i did hear from my friends that he kinda had a thing for me but i think that might not be true anymore...

 

[ChuckD]

If he has said that he has feelings for you, and you have them for him, why not just tell him.

You don't have to tell him everything.....but you can say that there may be feelings on your end, and that you would like to explore them with him.....slowly.

 

[tanktruck]

YOU GOT TO TELL!!! If you're starting to like him, you need to get over this I might get hurt crap, cause you might lose the Mr. Right!! Trust me, no one wants to get hurt but don't you think meeting someone who might make you happy is worth the risk!! Hello, don't you want someone!! Especially, if he likes you!!! Take the risk!!! We all have our guards up when we get hurt but you need to get over it!!! Nothing ventured nothing gained!!! Anyways, the holidays are coming up don't you want to deck his ballz with mouthz of holly... I think that's how the carol goes!! lol😛

 

[LABELLANJ224]

I agree with tank... I think you should tell him how you feel. I have been hurt many times before but that does not hold me back from telling a guy how I feel... Don't let him go mama tell him exactly how you feel... He most likely feels the same way. Dont be scared of getting hurt again. I think it's better that you tell him because eventually he may get tired of just waiting around and you aren't saying anything to him... You don't want to be saying 'what if ' later on... Tell him!!! Im sure things will work out. Good Luck.

 

[tanktruck]

I agree with tank... I think you should tell him how you feel. I have been hurt many times before but that does not hold me back from telling a guy how I feel... Don't let him go mama tell him exactly how you feel... He most likely feels the same way. Dont be scared of getting hurt again. I think it's better that you tell him because eventually he may get tired of just waiting around and you aren't saying anything to him... You don't want to be saying 'what if ' later on... Tell him!!! Im sure things will work out. Good Luck.

:bunny

 

[ricanlips4u]

"Hablando se entiende las gentes" .. Which means..."talking is how people understand each other". If you don't speak up.. he'll never know.. Love is about taking chances..

 

[bklyngrl]

thanks for all of your advice. despite how i feel for him, there is one thing: he PLAYS THE GIRLS THAT HE DATES! i just recently found this out from one of his friends [in his past relationships, he have had multiple girlfriends at the same time] that's one of the main reasons as to why i can't tell him how i truly feel