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Does anybody got a story to tell about someone you loved but loved you back with chains. Like ..........they dont want you to go out with your friends, or to go clubing, etc. etc.

Any bad experiences............? or advise you can lend. I have a friend ....out in Miami.........and she's having a really hard time with her ol' man. He's hit her and now she wants to move in with me here........in NYC.

Whats a girl to do?

What should I tell her.

I sure dont want her getting hit again!
 
um, no one deserves to be hit. she needs to get the hell out of that relationship now! the longer she waits the harder it'll be for her. good luck.
 
one of my friends has a controlling bf. she cant even go se her mom w/o him biitching . he doesnt let her see her friends and he only allows her to talk to people he knows. she left her life behind and moved in with him. several times she has called me saying she is leaving him but then i dont hear from her again. her phone gets disconnected.
 
I think u should definetly let your girl stay w/ u... At least shes smart enough to know she needs to be outta there...
I never had a man that tried to control me like that... & i dont think i could deal with it if i did.... i would be O.U.T......:dancingb
 
phuck that i dont let no man control me the way i see it is my dad already raised me
as for him putting his hands on her she should get the hell out of there its not gonna get any better...
 
you should let your friend come stay with you but they usually always go back with the guy. low self esteem. the guy knows how to push the rght buttons.
 
well its a proven fact that abused women usually go back. sad but true.
 
he is not a man if he hit a female see what happens when they hook up with the badguys who think they are all that . and the nice guys get made fun of because they are so good that some females so u are to boring .
 
she will stay im sorry if im wrong for sayin this but im just telling it like i see it alot they always go back and make up . which i dont get . why stay with somebody that like to hit a female is crazy if u ask me .
 
I appreciate the advise. I am going to ask her to stay with me. She used to be my music buddy and help me with my life. I hope that when she comes to stay with me that she is in the frame of mind that I am in. I am positive, doing my music, working, clubing, having a personal life that is just wonderful.

I dont want anyone to bring me down.

I know about the low self esteem thing.

I once went thru a bad relationship.

The guy tried to set me on fire, with my family in the house.

He put barbeque lighter fluid on me and tried to light up my dress with a match.

My family proceeded to punch the hell out of him.

The cops came .........he is doing some serious time.

But I am afraid that when he gets out in two years ...........he's gonna finish what he started.

Anyway, I am going to help my friend. I know her over 20 years.

She needs to get her life in order.

Thanks guys.
 
Okay I Gotta Put My Two Cents In, First Of All Not All Abused Women Go Back, With The Right Support System The Cycle Can Be Broken. Im Living Proof Btw Barinella God Bless You And On Behalf Of Alot Of Us I Thank You.

Now For The Misconception That We Stay Because We Want Too That Is Bullshit. If You Havent Live It Keep Your Opinions To Yourself Because You Dont Know Shit. The Fear And Low Self Esteem Felt At The Time Is Horrible And I Cant Stand To Hear People Nonsense. I Thank God That I Finally Found My Strength With The Help Of My Friend La Matrix (luv Ya Ma) And Im Finally Out. I Wish You Friend Luck And I Will Pray For Her. She Doesnt Need You To Judge Her Just Listen To Her And Talk To Her But Dont Judge And Dont Ask Why Do You Stay?
 
i lived it so i can speak. i was a teenager when i had the physical abuse and i was in my 20's when i had the mental/verbal abuse. i didnt go back but it took a few yrs for me to leave.

the first guy i ever had sex with, when i was 17, was abusive. he would choke,slap, kick, and do other things to me. he was the same age as me. he was also very verbaly abusive too. i had a low self esteem so i stayed with him for almost 3 yrs. when i was almost 20 he attacked me for the last time. i told my mom finally and she put a end to our relationship. he stalked me afterwards.

also my ex husband was mentally and verbaly abusive although he never laid a hand on me.he didnt like the fact that i would flinch when he would go near me when he was mad. when you have been abused you have automatic reactions. we divorced thank god in 99/2000.
 
Oh my gosh girl that is terrible, tell her she does not deserve that and to get the F*** out; go and read what happened to me yesterday, I need a drink today are we hanging tonight?
 
Never happened to me .....and I hate it when I KNOW someone who is in abusive relationship. Unfornately you can't tell them to leave the bastard they are the ones who need to WANT to leave. Good luck
 
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