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OK...lets see....Im 22 and my sweety's 20 and we've been together almost a year now 😀 . We are totally in love and committed n have talked about takin our relationship to another level...u know the ring and all that, which im lookin forward to takin that step.

My question is we really want to move in together, both of us have never lived on our own yet.

What do u think about livin with your significant other....yes or no? Or do you have any experiences or advice you can share?

Thanks so much!

ReaL Love 😛
 
HI MANDY WELL MY OPINION IS THAT IF YOU TWO ARE READY TO TAKE IT TO THE NEXT LEVEL THEN WHY NOT? I THINK IT WILL GIVE BOTH OF YOU THE OPPORTUNITY TO SEE WHAT'S ITS LIKE AND SEE HOW U2 DO LIVING TOGETHER BEFORE ACTUALLY GETTING MARRIED! BELIEVE ME..THINGS ARE DIFFERENT ONCE U LIVE TOGETHER AND FROM MY PERSONAL EXPERIENCE LIVING TOGETHER HELPED OUR RELATIONSHIP TO MATURE BEFORE ACTUALLY TYING THE KNOT!U LEARN TO SEE UR SIGNIFANCT OTHER.. FLAWS AND ALL AND REALIZE NOONE IS PERFECT YET YOU LUV THEM JUST THE WAY THEY ARE! WELL I SINCERELY WISH U THE BEST OF LUCK!AND HOPE MY ADVICE HELPED A BIT!🙂
 
Mandy

Do a test. Try it out for a year, see how it works. 🙂

-Antonio
 
Mandy,
living together huh? only if the love is real
and i will gurantee ya that there will be bumpy roads....
this is a big step... if it feels right go for it

if it doesn't you guys are still young
 
wow living together is a big step. you get to know the person like u have never known him and then u have to see what u can withstand....my advice try it if it's what u want but remember that communication is very important and with that u can withstand and survive any storm.
 
Hmmmmmm......

Don't take this personally, I have nothing against anyone who chooses to "live together". I have had friends who did that.

The problem can arise when someone (usually the man) decides that living together is enough and there is no need for marriage. I'm not saying that all men are like that, or that your man is, but it's something you should discuss before you move in. Is this just a stepping stone, or the final move we make.

For me personally, I don't think I would ever live with someone without an exchange of rings. It makes it more permanent, and If you are willing to live with me, you should be willing to marry me.
 
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The problem can arise when someone (usually the man) decides that living together is enough and there is no need for marriage.
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Yes, like my ex-best friend, he saw nothing in it. 🙂

For me personally, I don't think I would ever live with someone without an exchange of rings. It makes it more permanent, and If you are willing to live with me, you should be willing to marry me.
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A-M-E-N ChuckD!!! WORD!

-Antonio
 
CHUCK I IDENTIFY WITH WHAT U ARE SAYING BECAUSE I MIGHT HAVE THAT SAME DILEMMA...6 YRS AND NO RING....I DON'T PRESS THE ISSUE BUT HMMMMMMMMM?????😕
 
Sweetie, Things change once you move in together. So think about it really hard. Maybe moving in once you get married is different. But once you live together the guy suddenly forgets about the ring "it almost like we married" is something you might hear.

Everybody is different but remember he's only 20.
 
It's a BIG responsibility....

It's good to be "In Love" ... But don't forget that you're both still very young. There are a lot of responsibilities that one never thinks about when living at home. If you don't have a stable job and isn't quite ready emotionally for the change; even if you're with your "TRUE LOVE" you can get lonely.

It's a very big step. It could strain your relationship when it comes time to pay the bills. Every little thing that once wasn't an issue suddenly will. I got really depressed when I first moved out. I found myself missing home and my family. If you have the freedom at home; stay there. Make sure you save a substantial amount of money and that you're ready to handle just about any thing expected AND unexpected.


GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
good advice

Thank you all for your advice 🙂 !!!!!!!!


LIVING TOGETHER HELPED OUR RELATIONSHIP TO MATURE BEFORE ACTUALLY TYING THE KNOT!U LEARN TO SEE UR SIGNIFANCT OTHER.. FLAWS AND ALL AND REALIZE NOONE IS PERFECT YET YOU LUV THEM JUST THE WAY THEY ARE!

Yeah Brenda that makes alot of sense. It would help take our relationship to another even deeper level and we would get to see each other in every moment flaws and all.....n if we truly love each other n r meant to be then we will accept each for exactly who we are. Thanks for the best wishes. Im really excited about it! Maybe January,,,we're lookin!

I feel that enigma...we both want to "test it out" a year sounds like a great amount of time to get to know some1 even better.

Youre definitely right Rookie...it is a bigggg step n we are young n i know it will be bumpy but we handled bumpy days be4. plus it does feel soo right :0)

Thanks ninadodat for the advice! Yep thats so true......communication is key n we do really well with that 🙂 So, thats the best thing to have when we take this big step.

"Is this just a stepping stone, or the final move we make. " thanks ChuckD hey how r ya??? yep we had that discussion. That was one of my reasons not to move in. Believe me he knows how i feel about that. so that talk is covered :0) i hope we get engaged soon :-D

Awww girl Im sorry to hear that nina!!!! well common law marriage is seven years i think so tell him might as well do it the real way. id push it...ill be like fine ill be with some1 else if ur not serious enuff about me to marry me. But then i used to say marriage is just a piece of paper..love is love n if ur commited n its real love then nothing changes when ur married feelin wise its just official thats all. if it really bothers u id talk to him.

Hi Dancin Queen! "Everybody is different but remember he's only 20" I always do keep that in mind n im like r u sure ur ready to settle down, but i feel our love is mature...we'll probably get married in two or three years if all goes as planned or sooner!

good advice Pooks!! It will be so much more responsibilities that i never had. i have a part time job n him a full time. we should have enuff. i am worried about the finances, emotionally i think well be all good......I feel like im ready....and i want to put 500 percent into this because he is the love of my life.


Thanks so much *hugs* I bought soe things already...got the tv...but no bed hehe
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well mandy it was nice of you to respond to what was given to u and i know u are quite wise and will take everything into consideration....the marriage thing bothered me at first but not as much as before....good luck in your decisions.
 
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