Lesson I've Learned In This Life

[lachicabella]

Always depend on yourself.

Ever ask people for help, and they never help you -- but when they ask you for help, you always come through for them?

I knew that when I got older into the adult stage, that life wouldn't be fair, but I didn't know it was going to be THIS unfair. Sometimes I think that if I were left dying in the street, people would just walk by and not give a damn. Its just so firmly planted in my head, because too many unfortunate shit keeps happening you know? OH well, I guess that's the reality of life right? It hurts like a bitch.

Anyone experienced this before?

 

[ChuckD]

Honey, people let other people down all the time.

It's unfortunate, but it's true.

You need to hang in there baby! Be positive.




If you look for the silver lining.....you see past the dark clouds.

 

[mzcrazybtch]

yep...I've been, there done that...and have done it again...and have survived...lol!!

it'll be ok.

 

[Enigma]

Just becareful Erica what type of people you circulate yourself around with. 🙂 There is alot of leechers out there 😉

I personally been burned before so I toughened up my act 🙂 Now I am lonely and stress free. I do have one or two buddies out there..but I don't get close to them in terms of favors.

Actually the only good friends I have are online and CF lol

 

[yburgos7]

Girl...that is the story of my life...but you know what if I keep thinking about all the things that people owe me...Lord have mercy...These experiences only make me stronger and smarter...Makes me realize that the only person I can depend on is myself and nobody else (and my mother too lol)...don't let it get to you too much it's not worth it...jsut keep on moving and the next time someone asks for a favor...either d it without expecting anything in return or just say NO...believe me it works and after a few times makes you feel great!

 

[Poetry In Motion]

Sometimes I think that if I were left dying in the street, people would just walk by and not give a damn. Its just so firmly planted in my head

Not true. Everyone's ignorance goes to a certain point. I know that when it boils down to people dying in streets, I know you would find that help you seem to be searching for.

Never depend on anyone. When you do this, you become much stronger and before you know it, others will be looking to you for whatever a strong person has that a weak person lacks. All I can say is "watch out" from that point on.

 

[Enigma]

Sometimes I think that if I were left dying in the street, people would just walk by and not give a damn.

There are people out there that do care. 🙂

I know I would care if I was to see you dying on the street!

 

[lachicabella]

I just didn't know that it would be so hard. Its tough when you are alone you know? But I guess that's the reality of it all. And I've dealt with it for this long...I might as well just continue to deal with it. The worst part is when the selfishness comes from family members. They say that blood is always thicker than water...but that is sooooo not true.

 

[Gabbi (aka) Gabriell]

Honey it is so difficult in this world, the only person I can depend on is my mother. You don't even have to be alone, I am married , little over a year now, and my huband even let's me down. He's a good guy but doesn't think at times, it has shown me that besides my mama, I only can depend on myself.
I really feel where you are coming from though, because when I was young (I was an only child) and my daddy and grandparents were alive I was so protected and sheltered. Then one day, when the family starts to pass away, you realize how few people are left in this world to look out for you, that you can depend on.
I have made myself well up with tears, but I will keep you in my prayers.
Just know that no matter what, the lord is with you whenever you feel alone.

 

[Enigma]

The worst part is when the selfishness comes from family members. They say that blood is always thicker than water...but that is sooooo not true.

I agree.

 

[Poetry In Motion]

They say that blood is always thicker than water...but that is sooooo not true.

Try to examine your family and truly find out why they act the way they do. Basically all of the family members in my fathers side are guilty of every crime accept murder. But I bet if they could kill someone, they would. I am able to see these people from time to time. Not because I choose to. But because our paths just happen to cross one another. Do you know why it's like this?? (think) ::Scroll Down::






























Because I said "**** Em All" a long time ago. They don't influence my life in any shape or form. I don't even feel like I need them which is rare since most people seem to have some kind of bullshit attachment to ****ed up families.

 

[Freestygal]

I can really relate to what you are saying, as well. I had friends who I thought were true friends, but when their lives started to change, they forgot all about me. I was really hurt but I got past it. I have come across so many people that are so selfish. And my problem is that sometimes Im too nice and thats when people walk all over you. And if you say no about something ONE time, they treat you like garbage, and that's because they always expect you to go along with them. The truth is that it is a very selfish world, and yes, even people in your own family can disappoint you. The only thing I can say is that when you experience this a few times, you come to realize that you have to take care of yourself and be your own person, because everyone else looks out for #1. Lachicabella, I have felt the way you do so many times. All I can say is that we have to hope that there are people out there that care...they are just few and far between!

Randi (FreestyleGal)

 

[Dianita]

Oh, wow, do I ever understand you! That is the story of my life too. I've never had anyone that I could really count on, and I feel like the more I try to be nice and the more I help people, the more I get burned. Sometimes I think there'e something wrong with me and that I gotta change, maybe not have such a tender heart. But then I see the people that have become so used to the bad things that happen, that it doesn't even seem to phase them.
And being with someone doesn't guarantee you won't be lonely. I've never really lived alone, but at the same time I just about always have felt lonely. Another reason I stay the way I am...is so I can sleep at night. There is a satisfaction that comes from knowing that you yourself has done everything that you can do. Like right now, to anyone who reads my posts, it's obvious that things aren't going too great in my relationship, in my life right now, but I'm not going to fail, or give up hope as long as I know that there maybe something I may be able to do to make things better. Sometimes I get really scared too, because I have my daughter, and I know that every little decision I make wil affect her. So on top of screwing up my life, I have to worry about screwing up hers. And that's something that really sucks is knowing by trying to help someone else, that I have done something to hurt her.
And the blood is thicker that water stuff is crap. Family isn't always someone of blood relation. To me my family are those people who support you, encourage you and love you for who you are. Think of it like this, if there is someone who isn't there for you it is their loss.
Now that dying in the street stuff really saddens me. There are lots of us who care. I do know where you are coming from though. Once when I turned 9, during my little birthday party, I had 3 other kids from my class there, and it just seemed no one noticed me. So I experimented. I went and sat in the closet to see if they would notice I was gone. It took them 48 minutes. Wow, I felt like crap, but I learned, maybe I had invited the wrong people.

 

[Freestygal]

All I know is that people can really disappoint you..even the ones that you think wouldnt..so the best thing to do is not to expect much from others...and who knows, maybe they will surprise you one day. But the truth is that if you expect people to be the way you want them to, you will end up disappointed. I am also very good hearted and sometimes I think I need to be more bitchy, but why should I have to change? I try to always be like my grandmother who was such a wonderful, unselfish person. Id rather be like her than anyone else, and more than anything, I have to be the person I feel comfortable being. I feel lucky if I come across even one decent person here and there, because most people arent.

Randi (FreestyleGal)