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I want to know what you guys think should I stay with my man or wait for him .. He asked me like 4 months ago that he need it time apart to think and is been 4 months and he still dunno nothing I ask him what we going to do and all he say to everything that he dunno .. I know that I hurt him by breakin up the last time but he dont understand that I was mad at him for not having things on point we was going to get marry and a month before everything he was acting and I told him if he had the money saved up and he say no that he had no money saved up ..While me in the mean time I was saving money thinking of my daughter and him all the long and he was not thinking about it thats how I feel ..

But the thing is that I told him for us just to break it up cuz it seems like he was not ready he said he wanna to be with me and all but still I was to mad and walked away from it the relationship .. We got back together on April 01,2003 and 2 weeks he start it acting talking about he need it time apart that he need it to think so I said it was ok but in the mean time he telling me that he love me and no matter what am going to be his wife and for me to remeber that he love me and now is like I dunno to everything ..

But I dunno what to do anymore I love him but at the same time I feel like every day that goes by is like we getting more and more apart ...

I just want to know what you guys think ......???
 
LEAVE! Honey, never put your life on hold for anyone..

Move on.. 4 months? The writing is already on the wall..

Move on, be happy and worry about #1 = YOU!


Lots of luck to you.. You will be strong :hearton
 
*Sophia* said:
LEAVE! Honey, never put your life on hold for anyone..

Move on.. 4 months? The writing is already on the wall..

Move on, be happy and worry about #1 = YOU!


Lots of luck to you.. You will be strong :hearton
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In the bottom of your original post, it even says "if ya love something... yadda yadda..

I am slow I know :crap
 
YEAH SHORTY, I GOTTA AGREE WITH MY PARTNAH ^ ^.
GO WITH YOUR SIGNATURE, ITS THE BEST THING!! 😀
 
He's bullshitting on something. He needs space he needs time? For what? He has a daughter from you right? So he is taking time off of that too?

Leave him. 🙂

-antonio
 
Nah my daughter is not his but when he start it out she was 3 months so he see her as his daughter and she see him the say way also as a father ...
 
Shorty- point blank, it's time to move on....take care of your priorities...

don't rush into another relationship....u need time to heal...this is not about u giving him his space. This about you giving You space...

God Bless
 
True I feel ya on everything ...... I have not talk to him for about a week already so is kickin in you feel me .. Me getting used to the fact that is pretty much over with ....

My mom was talking to me about it today and she said he knows that you love him if he have not done nothing about it then he must have something or his looking for something else .... She said is not like you not pretty you could find some other guy and better then him ... Is his Lose she said .....

I just hate the fact that he has not even said that is all over with you feel me is like want me to just wait into he got down pack what he going to do and that is going to go good you feel me ... Also I didn't ever did nothing wrong to him by cheatin on him or anything like that so if he is seeing someone that messed up cuz is not right I never done it to him for him to come and lie to me like that .... But then again if is doing it with out me knowing then his not a real person .....



True Liz_Torres am not going to rush into another relationship ...and yes I need time to heal this heart of mines...

thank you guys it means alot all your advice
 
Shorty3869, You know everyone has the right idea, BUT I truly think that decision has to be a COMPLETE ONE. You should get CLOSURE!(period) You contact him in what ever manner you have to and TELL him your decision. You have to CONFIRM TO YOURSELF that your relationship is over, That you have detached yourself from him and there will be no remorse later on your part. You have to, NO! You OWE it yourself and your Princess. If he is a REAL MAN, he would meet you face to face and atleast say "Bye" to your Princess! He has affected your life and your Princess's and your Princess deserves better. Let..<NO! MAKE him say GOODBYE to your Princess so that your Princess understands that he is NOT going to return. Explain that to her, she deserves that much. If she asks, just tell her the truth!(She will grow up with a better understanding and it would NOT hurt as much psychologically, in short> She will learn to have better coping skills as she grows to understand)
Never let anyone take your self WORTH and DIGNITY away. Remember the way you cope with breakup will reflect on your Princess, she watches everything her Mommy does. Set the example of an independent woman and you will raise an independent young woman.

You will meet the man of your dreams and quickly forget "WHATS HIS NAME"

To summarize: GET CLOSURE, >GET YOUR LIFE BACK!
 
He needs to decide what the hell he plannin on doing, whether it's staying or goin. Too many bullshit explanations for what I see, but you know what shorty? If you decide to deal with that or you think you can handle it, then you do you, if you have no expectations of things ever getting better between you two, or that he will never be ready (because of excuses he puts up) then I say start walkin. AS for your Daughter, if this guy truly cared about you guys(as you said earlier) he would have been made the decisiion to take you and your beautiful daughter and do what's right. You sound like you kow what oyu want girl, don't be afraid to go ahead and move on. it will sting, but like every wound it will heal. you and your babygirl come first no matter what.
 
NYPRCAN and Nyasia

Yeah is over I found out by someone else by his sister that it was over with ... So I call him on it and told him how come he had not told me about that and he didn't know what to say .. He said that I was makin his sister call me and I told him that was not true she called him cuz she wanna to know and I didn't know nothing about it until she told me what he had said ...

Anyways yea is over with for good in my point I dunno if he would change his mind ..But my mind is made up is over with and it hurts but the hell with it I need a man not a lil kid or a mama boy...

Am not going to lie is have not been easy is hard as hell getting pass this whole thing but am tryin my best to not think about it and try day by day move a step up from this ...

Thank you all for your advice.....muahhhhhhhhhhhzzz
 
Best of luck to you and your babygirl Shorty, like i was told once, "Never settle for less". it might hurt, but now your opended to new love. Hope you have better luck than some.
 
Shorty, keep your head up. Your daughter and yourself deserve better. Men come a dime a dozen. 😉 Life is too short to worry about a man that doesn't want a good family. Take care ma. Best of Luck.
 
Shorty,

I feel your pain, KEEP GOING STRONG.

I used to live by your signature, but now it goes something like this.

" IF YOU LOVE SOMETHING SET IT FREE IF IT COMES BACK IT WAS MEANT TO BE, IF IT DOESN'T HUNT IT DOWN AND KILL IT. :uzi :forkyou
 
Shorty,

I know how you feel, Im going through a similar situation. The only thing I can really say to you is: Girl use this time that he is asking for wisely. This is the time were you should be analyzing yourself. I send you a PM I hope you take the time to read it and stay strong. Trust me the grass is brighter over the hill.
 
ted said:
Shorty,

I feel your pain, KEEP GOING STRONG.

I used to live by your signature, but now it goes something like this.

" IF YOU LOVE SOMETHING SET IT FREE IF IT COMES BACK IT WAS MEANT TO BE, IF IT DOESN'T HUNT IT DOWN AND KILL IT. :uzi :forkyou
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lmao that is so true .. thank you ....
 
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