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I was talking to a guy earlier today at work and I've known him for a little while.....and while we were talking I was somehow drawn to him....thinking that he was nice (reminded me of Bill) and what it would be like to date him.

SOooooo my question is .....Is it ok to like a guy because he reminds you of someone you love but know you can't have. Also to add to this sick twisted life of mine....this guy has a girl. So again is it ok to have a crush on someone who YOU know nothing will ever come of it.

Ok sooo another question....Do I like this guy cuz he has shown me some interest, Do I like this guy cuz he reminds me soooo much of Bill.....attitude and appearance, or Do I like this guy cuz I know I would never hook up with him cuz he has someone and I just feel its safe to have a crush on someone whom is UNAVAILABLE!!!

Gimmie some feed back! And Thanks in advance
 
Heaven

Its not wrong at all whatsoever. 😀

As long as you dont try and take him away from his girl lol j/k

But seriously its cool. You like the fact that he reminds you of Bill. Very understandable. Of course we all know you love Bill, so anything in association you like.

Ive felt like this many times when I was younger.

Just a crush nothing wrong with that. I think its sweet though if a girl has a crush on me, even if i have a girlfriend.

~Antonio :hearton
 
well heavenly,
i would advise you to stay away from him! trying to get to know him will destroy you inside. especially if you know nothing will come out of your persuits. after the infatuation has subsided then maybe you can become friends.

what do you think?

i really dont handle rejection too well... but people are different! 😕
 
Yes I agree with you both Enigma and Gimmie....

And NO I don't plan on pursuing him AT ALL just a thought and like enigma said a lil CRUSH!!! I would never try to steal him from his girl....cuz I know I wouldn't want it done to me. But I do like him .....ohhh wells


SUCKS TO BE ME!!! :0
 
GimmieSumMo72

I dont think there is any need for her to get away from him. How can it destroy her inside? It can't...why? Read on. lol

No two individuals are really alike. Sure there is similarities but nothing more. They're ways, can never be remade/done. Its magical for one person to be another person in their ways, it just cannot be done.

Everyone is unique. Its a different world.

But anyways, [GENERALLY SPEAKING NOW]loving a guy and more importantly DOING a guy (lol) because he reminds you of a past lover, truly is kinda...funny and well, funny. lol Ive heard stories and have seen many guys being hurt by their girlfriends because their girlfriends were there with them cause they were reminded of thier past ex-lovers. So this occurs more than you think. lol

~Antonio
 
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Enigma....I agree that EVERYONE is unique in their own way I didn't say they were EXACTLY alike I just said he reminded me a little of Bill....appearance (Not too much) and attitude. I know if I start talkin to him more and more I will see many differences and most likely flauds in my head so I won't become attached.....I guess right now I'm just admiring him. Also I wasn't planning on DOING him....LOL!!! I don't want a relationship nor do I want an FWB.....I've been there and done that....I just want to be alone. Accomplish being sweet nubbable ME!!! 😎 Not that I wasn't me with Bill....I just know he doesn't want us anymore and I can't sit here forever waiting for him, so in order to let him spread his wings and fly freely I have to think of whats BEST FOR ME!!!! Maybe this guy isn't the one but atleast he is distracting me for the time being....and NO I don't plan on pursuing him.
 
Very well said. 🙂 I hear you Heavenly. 😎

~Antonio
 
Well good someone hears me cuz sometimes I wonder if I can hear myself .....LOL!
 
Ok here are my thoughts. I haven't read anyone's responses, so maybe this was said already. lollll

.....Is it ok to like a guy because he reminds you of someone you love but know you can't have.
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Absof**kinlutely NOT!!!!!!!! Don't ever ever ever go out with someone because they remind you of your ex. You'll be forever comparing them (unfairly!!!) to ur ex... who you'll never be able to replace. And that's not a bad thing.. it's just that everyone is different. You'll never find another. Don't hold anyone to standards that they may not be able to fill; whether they were good or not. It's unfair.. you need to start fresh and give that new guy a chance to show you something different.

So again is it ok to have a crush on someone who YOU know nothing will ever come of it.
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Never say never. You can like him... but don't act on it. I guess it's better to admire from afar.. but be careful not to let yourself fall for him. Trouble...

Do I like this guy cuz he has shown me some interest, Do I like this guy cuz he reminds me soooo much of Bill.....attitude and appearance, or Do I like this guy cuz I know I would never hook up with him cuz he has someone and I just feel its safe to have a crush on someone whom is UNAVAILABLE!!!
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yes, yes and yes. lolll


Stay strong mama... 😉
 
AWWWWWWWWWWWWW THANKS FOR YOUR WORDS OF WISDOM MARTINI!!!! I wasn't planning on pursuing this guy ....I just wanted to share my thoughts with mi CF Familia. Like I said its just a crush....It'll go away soon.

🙂

Anymore feedback Anyone?
 
Originally posted by Heavenly
Anymore feedback Anyone?
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Yes yes! Ummm when you gonna post your thong pix?

Thanks. :texican

~Antonio
 
😱 ENIGMA!!! YOU KNOW THAT PIC IS ONLY FOR YOUR EYES ONLY.....ONLY FOR YOU!!!! 😉
 
I know Heavenly butt where is it? 😕

~Antonio
 
Heavenly,
JOD: Usher "U remind Me"

U know what girl.. he may be different all together, but the first thing you said was that he reminds u of Bill. Its a NO-NO girl! It will make u miserable and him feeling used.

U two are better off as friends!
 
He girl... all I can tell u is ...BE CAREFUL...when u play with fire, u get burnt..the dating scene is not easy. I know you're just a bit interested but if you continue it will grow and grow...then it will hit u right in ur face, when its her, he really wants..and what can u do....just check urself out...it hurts, even when it begins as a game...so dont blind fold urself, love is not planned, it grows....

yes, it's ok to have a crush on someone who similarities are like an ex,,,hey that what u liked in ur ex in the first place...but no individual is alike, need to give him a chance...

Its not a matter of u taking him away from his girl, if he pulls from her, he was not happy..and if he loves her he would not be talking to u in any ways showing interest, just a frienship...but dont let him play with ur head..cause all men can play it good....(sorry guys).

Good Luck

:crap
 
Thanks Sexychica and BBoop I appreciate your Advice and Believe me I am not pursuing it. But you are right if he comes to me then he wasn't happy .....but it has to be HIS choice.

THANKS GUYS!
 
There is nothing wrong with a crush, but still sometimes a crush can lead to other things whether planned or not. Like someone else said, you play with fire and you get burned. I know you said you're not planning on pursuing him, but you even said yourself that you may like him cause he pays attention to you, and right now at this point, you need that. (which is understandable, I've been through it myself.) But anyways, just watch out, ma. I don't want to see you get hurt. It's tricky with guys, and when they have someone, one thing that goes through my head is what if they have a fight, aren't speaking...etc etc and he comes to you to talk and things get a little, umm, what's the word I'm looking for? (I have no idea..LOL..I should know better than to give advice at 3 in the morning...LOL) It's a tough call. There's nothing wrong with being friends, but defiantely think you should distance yourself for a little bit first and then work on being friends.

I hope I made some sense and not just rambling. I'll prolly re-read this in the morning and come back and edit it...LOL



~Meg~
 
Nah Meg you made perfect sense......and glad to see that you didn't edit this post. 😉

Well we are just friends.....only thru work he doesn't have my number nor do I have his. We just talk about how we are doing nothing personal, but then he did bring me roses on V-day to cheer me up......but I think he was just being sweet. Anyways I get what you are saying and like I said I plan to keep our friendship in the workplace not out of it.
 
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