In Love/Maybe No Hope!

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Sexyangel329 said:
I have to agree with Gabbi a lot of the things she said are true. You say you still love this man seeing him is only going to further hurt you you need time if things with this man are meant to be then let time dictate when. he left you and hurt you and in return your sitting there waiting for him to leave this woman you may not say it out loud but when yuo love someone the way you seem to love this man it is what yor doing it is why you want to see him because you have that hope still alive inside of you. girl I kwo from experience things dont always come when we want them to they dont always happen the way we want them to and often there is more pain involved then anything else. I woudl say keep yuor distance and hell that is hard to do specially when you love someone shit is always easier said then done, but from what I hear of you hear and on your page on MG you seem strong and very bright and you yourself told me to watch out for people who will try and take advantage that you ahev learned that this is part of that mama. Love yourself its taken me some time to do so with myself. Dont chase after this man let him come after you if shit is real and if he trulyholds a place in his heart for you then let him find you dont put yourself out there to end up having run ins with his girl o having to be subjected to having to see him behind closed doors. I learned the hard way love is soething you should have no shame in sharing it should be yelled out as loud as possible. keep ya head up in the end only you can decide whats best for you we can only offer opinions and advice. Cuidate mama.
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Hey mama, Yeah I am going to just let it be and see what happens but the thing is I was trying to talk to him to see how he was doing and maintain a friendship so that maybe in the future if I am still single and still interested we could try to work something out if I am up to it then but he is the one that mentions seeing me and all that other stuff. I really believe that I gave him too much love and he was not use to that. I was gettin closer while he was running away. Honestly I feel although the relationship is over we are going to work something out its just this feeling I have but then again him being with her messes everything up and I am tellin myself Chica que te pasa dont you see he is with someone else not you. Then he tells me that he couldnt leave her for me right now because I still live with my family and he couldnt move in here so basically he is saying she lives on her own so therefore he has a place to stay but he says he loves her. Then he asks if I leave her now would you get with me again?? Im like I will not answer questions like that. He flirts with me so much and states he does care and is so happy to hear from me but then how could he say these things and actually want to see me and have a girl. I am going to keep it strictly at a friendship and we will see what happens in the future it hurts letting go though I put so much into this you know. thanks mama.
 
I can tell you have a good head on your shoulders, and you will do whats best for you. If it does not feel right in your gut, it is probably wrong for you. You know that, and you are thinking of your own best interests, this is your own survival instinct. One day the right guy will be there, when your not even thinking about it, and it will feel 'right'. Always remember, when someone really loves you, they would rather be in pain, than cause you any.
Esperas mija, un dia, un dia.
 
Dito to Gabbi seeing him will give you a few minutes of joy and then sadness because you would know he was going back to his woman. he tells you just enough to give you hope and keep you there in case things dont work out with his woman I mean I dont know how he can say he loves this other woman and still be trying to see you. Bottom line you deserve someone who si goign to love you just as intense as you can love them and be with you now and not later on down the line. If shit is meant to be with this dude let time take care fo that in the meantiem do you go out with friends see whats out there there are plenty of good men out there mija keep ya head up I know shit is easier said then done believe me I surely know. 🙂
 
Hey LaBella..How come I didnt hear this story? You disappeared on me when we were chatting the other night!! Well anyway, a lot of what Gabi said resonated with me because of the situation I am in with the guy that I like. After awhile, you end up hurting yourself more than the other person is hurting you..because you are allowing it to happen. LaBella..I hope you are doing ok!

Randi (FreestyleGal)
 
Freestygal said:
Hey LaBella..How come I didnt hear this story? You disappeared on me when we were chatting the other night!! Well anyway, a lot of what Gabi said resonated with me because of the situation I am in with the guy that I like. After awhile, you end up hurting yourself more than the other person is hurting you..because you are allowing it to happen. LaBella..I hope you are doing ok!

Randi (FreestyleGal)
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BINGO!

if you let it happen over and over again, you will never be free to find the one who is truly out there for you, and you deserve better than a part time lover girl...good luck.
 
Freestygal said:
Hey LaBella..How come I didnt hear this story? You disappeared on me when we were chatting the other night!! Well anyway, a lot of what Gabi said resonated with me because of the situation I am in with the guy that I like. After awhile, you end up hurting yourself more than the other person is hurting you..because you are allowing it to happen. LaBella..I hope you are doing ok!

Randi (FreestyleGal)
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Hey Randi I am sorry I didnt tell you sooner. I was going to tell you that other night that I started to tell you I was upset but then I started to cry and didnt want to talk about it. I will be online later that way you can tell me if anything happen sat.
 
Nyasia said:
BINGO!

if you let it happen over and over again, you will never be free to find the one who is truly out there for you, and you deserve better than a part time lover girl...good luck.
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thanks that is so true 🙂
 
LaBella..you know my situation and you know that I can relate to what you are going through. Hopefully we will both find someone who will love us and care about us as much as we love and care about them! Just remember..love should be a two-way street!

Randi (FreestyleGal)
 
You know what? I don't understand why peeps cry and obsess over people that don't want them. Odillio and Labellan, both of you need to remember this: THERE ARE TOO MANY PEOPLE IN THIS WORLD TO BE SWEATIN' JUST ONE PERSON. Why should Labellan "go for it?" AH YES...because she could do without out her dignity, and waste time chasing a man who will treat her like shit, oblivious to the possibility of a man that's probably right under her nose willing to love her unconditionally....and unconditional love doesn't entail "treat me like shit, play me dirty, beat me up etc."
 
Plenty of fishes in the ocean!

It's hard to move on..but when you do...and you find that special someone...you not gonna look back. 😉

You can do it. Life is about mistakes and trials. The beauty is you grow stronger and wiser.

Don't give yourself away to an evil that shows no love at all with his actions but shows it with his false words.
 
LABELLANJ224 said:
Please Tell Me What You Think I Should Do!!

I Was With This Guy For 8 Months And Knew Him Four About 3 Years Before We Got Together. We Went Through A Lot Together Those 8 Months. He Broke Up With Me Because He Stated We Didnt Have Anything In Common. I Was So In Love With Him That Broke My Heart. I Found Out He Started Dating This Girl And I Was So Angry And So Hurt I Stopped Talking To Him For About Three Nonths Then He Called Me Out Of The Blue On Day And I Told Him How I Felt About What He Did And He Said He Was Sorry Of Course. He Called Me Everyday For Three Months And Asked To See Me Every Day Mind You He Was Still With That Girl And Moved In With Her. She Found Out He Was Callin Me And We Started To Argue And I Blew His Spot Up Bc He Was Tryin To Make Me Look Bad When He Was The One Callin Me Meanwhile Yes I Was Still In Love With Him. I Have Been Thinking About Him So Much And I Wanted To Speak With Him So My Girl Called His Job And Gave Him My New Number And Said Call Her. He Called Me And He Said He Is Still With His Girl But He Was Thinking About Me And Does Miss Me But He Loves Her. He Said He Wants To See Me But Not In Public Bc He Doesnt Want To Get Caught. That Hurt Me Bc I Want To Be Friends With Him I Didnt Want To See Him Bc Yes I Still Love Him So Much And It Hurts That He Is With Her. I Dont Think He Has My Number Bc He Cant Store It In His Phone And I Can Only Call Him At Work. Should I Call Him At Work And Make Sure He Has My Number? I Want To Keep In Touch And I Still Love Him So Much But He Isnt Going To Leave Her Any Time Soon. He Says He Loves Her But If He Wouldve Stayed With Me Maybe He Wouldve Been Better Off He Said I Will Alwys Be In His Heart And He Will Never Forget Me. I Still Love Him!! I Want Him Back!!. What Should I Do.
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It seems like to me that thins idiot has you wrapped around his fingers... sorry girl but i suggest that you let go of him completely i know that it's sounds just blunt . but think about it you the one lusting over some guy that knows he can use you... **** him... your soul ain't worth that garbage. i bet you that... that guy don't even love himself or really even know who he is.... That's DANGA''' (dangerous) just in case. this guy is playing you girl... and it's up to you to be smart and put a stop to it... you know not everything in life works outs. let it go.. and move on there is somebody waiting to treat you like a queen... but now's the time.... or find yourself in a horrible depression of lust and hope. and want and dreams that won't even come true... sorry and sad but true... like is say life is a jest and all things show it i thought so once and now i know it...... god bless you honey... yo will be in my prayers...
 
Enigma said:
Plenty of fishes in the ocean!

It's hard to move on..but when you do...and you find that special someone...you not gonna look back. 😉

You can do it. Life is about mistakes and trials. The beauty is you grow stronger and wiser.

Don't give yourself away to an evil that shows no love at all with his actions but shows it with his false words.
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Thank You Papi, I feel so much better today and so much stronger. Today he called me and was beggin to see me so I said FOR WHAT??????? and he was like because I miss you and I want to see you and I said well you can have a conversation with me now via phone and he was like no I want to see you and I said I am sorry but I have better things to do than to go see you someone that doesnt care about me and just wants to take advantage and he was very mad that I said that but I know he didnt want to just SEE ME and I was not playin that. I said if you want to have a friendship ok we could work that out but anything else Im Good. He was mad and said then guess what ima talk to you wheneva and I said ok if you want it like that than so be it and I hung up on him he didnt call me back so lets see what happens. I just felt really good because I said NO and I felt very strong and he was mad because he didnt like the answer.
 
Adriana said:
It seems like to me that thins idiot has you wrapped around his fingers... sorry girl but i suggest that you let go of him completely i know that it's sounds just blunt . but think about it you the one lusting over some guy that knows he can use you... **** him... your soul ain't worth that garbage. i bet you that... that guy don't even love himself or really even know who he is.... That's DANGA''' (dangerous) just in case. this guy is playing you girl... and it's up to you to be smart and put a stop to it... you know not everything in life works outs. let it go.. and move on there is somebody waiting to treat you like a queen... but now's the time.... or find yourself in a horrible depression of lust and hope. and want and dreams that won't even come true... sorry and sad but true... like is say life is a jest and all things show it i thought so once and now i know it...... god bless you honey... yo will be in my prayers...
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Thanks mama. You are right he doesnt know who he is or his purpose in life really and the conversation he and I had today actually proved it and made me realize that this guy is really not good and he doesnt have his life together and I am doing well in college and work so I dont need him because he would only try to hold me down and I am not having that!! thanks🙂
 
It just seems to me like he wants to have his cake and eat it too. Don't put yourself through all that again it's just not worth it...good luck girl!
 
susiedeoro1 said:
It just seems to me like he wants to have his cake and eat it too. Don't put yourself through all that again it's just not worth it...good luck girl!
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Thank You🙂
 
LaBella...Didnt I tell you the same thing yesterday that Susie said? Im proud of you for not giving in to him. It's a good feeling, right? Even thought you left again in the middle of our conversation yesterday lol But seriously, Im proud of you!

Randi (FreestyleGal)
 
Freestygal said:
LaBella...Didnt I tell you the same thing yesterday that Susie said? Im proud of you for not giving in to him. It's a good feeling, right? Even thought you left again in the middle of our conversation yesterday lol But seriously, Im proud of you!

Randi (FreestyleGal)
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Sorry Randi I left because I had to go charge my phone and I ended up talking to this guy for like an hour. He was so pissed that I said no but oh well I am thinking about myself this time 🙂 Talk to ya later mama.
 
If you continue to speak to him and seeing him.....knowing he is with somone else, you will continue to hurt.

I suggest you let that go, and move on wiht your life, you cant be his friend girl....and what he is doing with you is playing games, all those little sweet talk it to keep you lingering and having you hold on. F*(&^*^ him....end that now and move on...believe you me, if you guys were meant to be, you'll be but I dont think this is the way for you to follow that love, just pull back and thing will fall into place,.....either you moving on or him ending it with her and coming to you, but dont accept being the other.
 
Thanks BabyBeTTYBooP

Yeah I know we cant be friends and to be honest with you at this point I dnt even want to be friends anymore. He and I argued the last conversation we had last week then he called me two days later and I didnt answer so today he called me blocked number and I spoke to him he seemed very sad and he apologized to be I was like oh dont worry about it its no big deal to me I moved on and you are the least of my worries and he didnt like that too much. Then he said can i please see you and i said NOOOOOO WAY and he didnt like that at all so I said listen I gotta go and he hung up. So how am I doing guys???? I am very happy I am very proud of myself! Thanks for all the advice all of you have shared it is so greatly appreciated. Muahzzzzzzz!!
 
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