In Love/Maybe No Hope! Part 2

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Hey Everyone!! I am in need of advice again. My first thread about this guy was called In love/maybe no hope and I know the last thing I stated on that thread was we werent speaking because we were in an argument but here we are a few months later and he is back in the picture.

I spoke to him yesterday and we were basically catching up on eachothers lives. Then he asked if he could see me and I told him NO. (The reason why is because yes I do still love him and if I see him all the feelings will be back and I will prob be hurt again) He continued asking and stated he is dying to see me he thinks about me all the time. Supposedly him and that chick are through and have been. He always told me how he missed me and cared for me even when we werent together. OMG the feeling that I get when I hear his voice or see him is so strong and I just cant describe it.

So he asked me if I had a man and I said NO. He said yes you do and Im like NO I dont. He said you are too wonderful to be single he was like you have to have a man. I said I dont have a man so he says yes you do and your man is me. I Was like WHAT??????????? OKKKKKK!!

Then he said just act as though I was always your man and act like I went away to the marines or something but now I am back. I was like yes but how do I know you are here to stay and he said because I am not going anywhere this time. Im so confused because I am still in love with him and I dont know what to do. I told him I cant get hurt again and he said mama I wouldnt say these things to you if I didnt mean them because I know how emotional you are. I was thinking and to be honest he would never say that he was my man if he didnt want to pursue anything but I am so confused. I dont know what to do or what to say,

Then when we were hanging up he said please come see your man. And I said Im sorry baby I cant see you right now. Then he stated he understood. He didnt call me today. AYYYY I dont know what to do I love him. Any advice guys????
 
This sounds like a charming guy with bad intentions. From the way you describe him and what you write, he has you wrapped around his fingers.

Just becareful!

P.S: I hope you took our advise in Part I thread!
 
not a guys advice..but a womens, its easy to sit here and say "leave him alone he did it once and hell do it again"..only thing is is whenu care its not that 'black and white'..Ma i have been through hell and back in 2 realtionships..both the same outcome.But listen noone can decide but u,more than likley hes feeding u with what u need to hear,yet every once in a while u run across that one man that actually realized what he had when it was gone....so its up in the air can go either way. Point is no matter how right it would be for u to just leave him alone,u cant..so my advice is take it slow watch out for all the signs and try ur damn hardest not to fall right back in too deep...like i said we can all tell u leave him alone(wich might be best)..but u have feelings and its hard..just dont let him use those feelings to his advantage!!!...BEST OF LUCK TO YA...ITS EASY TO FALL IN LOVE..HARD AS HELL TO FALL OUT!!!!
 
Enigma said:
This sounds like a charming guy with bad intentions. From the way you describe him and what you write, he has you wrapped around his fingers.

Just becareful!

P.S: I hope you took our advise in Part I thread!
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Hey papi,

My ex has always been good with game but for some reason I feel he changed! I may just be blind but he never led me on or anything like that. If he said something regarding the way he felt he always followed through with it. Like this is the first time since we have been broken up that he said those things to me and talk to me the way he did yesterday. Thats why its strange to me bc I was so SHOCKED that those words came out of his mouth but yet again there is that part of me thats saying is it real this time or will I end up hurt again. He said he wants to start out slow just seeing eachother and stuf like that but he didnt call today so I am like ok maybe he was just saying it. IDK.
 
Hey mama thank you for understanding where I am coming from. It is very very hard to let him go and just move on. I love him and I think about him every day. At times I think its real because like I stated earlier he never said these things to me unless he meant them. He did tell me he wished he appreciated all the little things I always did for him faithfully on a daily basis because now that he didnt have those things done since we were broken up he appreciates it now. And he wants that back. He said now he realizes those things are important and I really cared. He says he hates how things went down bc I sacrificed so much just to make him happy and he didnt acknowledge it until now. Its very hard because I dont know if I should believe him and he knows I dont because he told me I know you dont believe me but I wish you would bc im telling you the truth.. 🙁
 
I left something out....... I dont have his cell phone number yet. He has my number of course but I am waiting to see if I get a call from a private number or to see if his number shows then I can see if he is serious as well by that outcome.?
 
Jaz, just be careful with this guy. Take it from me, it's easy for guys to tell you want you want to hear, but it's another thing entirely for them to mean what they say and act upon their words. I told you about Leo and all the things he has said to me. I want to believe they were true but then when he acts the way he has been acting lately, I dont know if any of it was true. All Im saying is take it slow, and dont get all caught up in what he says to you...I know it's easy but I dont want you to get hurt!

Randi (FreestyleGal)
 
He wants to see me today. Wow He basically said he told me he is still my man bc I think of him as my man. Thats it. He says he cares but he is still with her. I cant stop crying. I have to leave work.
 
All I can say, is be careful. It appears I'm in the middle of a break-up now and he always wanted me most when it appeared I was doing fine without him. Some men are like that. Then as soon as they got you, they change again, and they always seem to know what to say, and they always seem to have changed. I mean maybe he has, but just be careful. I don't want to see you hurt the way I've been. To some it's just a game. They don't realize the person they are playing with is a real person with real emotions, or they just don't care. And get his cel number and call him at different times, but not like stalkerish or if you know he's at work. See if he talks to you the same then. I hope it works out for you.
 
Jaz, Im sorry but he seems like some character! He told you all these things the other day but yet he is still with his girlfriend?? You dont need someone who is gonna play games with you like that! Thats why I told you not to get caught up in what he said to you so quickly. You were doing fine before he said that to you..now pick yourself up and forget he ever said it!

Randi (FreestyleGal)
 
Thanks Randi. You are such a great friend and you are always there for me. I love you. Thanks for everything 🙂

Jazmyne
 
I Know How U R Feeling

GIRL I'VE BEEN THROUGH IT MANY TIMES AND LET ME TELL U IF U CHOOSE TO GO BACK TO HIM HE IS GONNA THINK THAT HE CAN DO WHATEVER WITH U. MAN I WAS WITH ONE FOR 4 YEARS AND HE HAD ME AROUND HIS FINGERS BIG TIME. ITS ONLY GONNA END UP TO BE HEARTBREAK. MINE WAS VERY POSSESIVE WITH ME DIDN'T WANT ME GOING AROUND HIS FRIENDS CUZ HE THOUGHT THEY WOULD STEAL ME AWAY FROM HIM, BUT WHEN IT CAME UP TO THE SUBJECT OF MARRIAGE FORGET IT HE WANTED ME TO MOVE IN WITH HIM AND HIS MAMA!!!! DO U THINK THAT WAS RIGHT? NO IT WASN'T. HE DIDN'T LIKE ANY OF MY FAMILY MEMBERS ONLY WANTED ME TO GO TO HIM AND THAT'S NOT RIGHT EITHER. I DECIDED TO BREAK IT OFF CUZ I WAS SICK N TIRED OF ALL THE BULL. IN MY LIFE I WENT THROUGH A LOT AND HE WAS HARDLY THERE FOR ME. JUST BE CAREFUL IF U CHOOSE TO GO BACK TO HIM....I KNOW MOST OF US GIRLS LIKE THE GUYS THAT TREAT US LIKE SH-- BUT SOMETIMES U NEED TO CHANGE A LITTLE. LET THEM COME TO U AND LET THEM SPOIL U WITH GIFTS, DON'T GO AFTER THEM.

URS TRUELY LVHRTZ2 AKA MARIA


FREESTYLE WILL NEVER DIE IN MY EYEZ :flowery
 
Jaz, I love ya too! And I appreciate you being such a great friend to me, as well. I had a bad night tonight because of you-know-who, so noone knows how you feel better than I do! Hugsss

Randi (FreestyleGal)
 
lvhrtz2 said:
GIRL I'VE BEEN THROUGH IT MANY TIMES AND LET ME TELL U IF U CHOOSE TO GO BACK TO HIM HE IS GONNA THINK THAT HE CAN DO WHATEVER WITH U. MAN I WAS WITH ONE FOR 4 YEARS AND HE HAD ME AROUND HIS FINGERS BIG TIME. ITS ONLY GONNA END UP TO BE HEARTBREAK. MINE WAS VERY POSSESIVE WITH ME DIDN'T WANT ME GOING AROUND HIS FRIENDS CUZ HE THOUGHT THEY WOULD STEAL ME AWAY FROM HIM, BUT WHEN IT CAME UP TO THE SUBJECT OF MARRIAGE FORGET IT HE WANTED ME TO MOVE IN WITH HIM AND HIS MAMA!!!! DO U THINK THAT WAS RIGHT? NO IT WASN'T. HE DIDN'T LIKE ANY OF MY FAMILY MEMBERS ONLY WANTED ME TO GO TO HIM AND THAT'S NOT RIGHT EITHER. I DECIDED TO BREAK IT OFF CUZ I WAS SICK N TIRED OF ALL THE BULL. IN MY LIFE I WENT THROUGH A LOT AND HE WAS HARDLY THERE FOR ME. JUST BE CAREFUL IF U CHOOSE TO GO BACK TO HIM....I KNOW MOST OF US GIRLS LIKE THE GUYS THAT TREAT US LIKE SH-- BUT SOMETIMES U NEED TO CHANGE A LITTLE. LET THEM COME TO U AND LET THEM SPOIL U WITH GIFTS, DON'T GO AFTER THEM.

URS TRUELY LVHRTZ2 AKA MARIA


Thanks for the advice! Girl it seems like all I dated was guys that treat me like crap and I know I deserve so much better. Well when I had a few conversations that were more in depth with this guy over the weekend it seemed as though he didnt want to hear how I felt and he didnt care about it either. He said he isnt leaving his girlfriend but he does love me and care about me and that I am great. He also said he regrets breaking up with me because I have so much more to offer and he said that I was great to him and that Im beautiful but it just didnt feel right at the time and he didnt want to try to make it work. He then said to me listen if it doesnt work out with the girl that I am dating now Im going to marry my best friend. He said I am not going to be with you or any other girl ima give up on love im just going to marry my best friend. When he told me that I felt an instant chest pain. I started to cry I was like he totally contradicts himself. I was so upset. I started to have a conversation with him and tell him how I felt about the previous conversation and instead of listening and commenting on things I said he cut me off and just said he had to go and he would call me back. I said no I am talking to you and thats rude he said you cant tell me NO. and he said he would call me in ten minutes so I hung up on him and he never called me back. That made me so angry. I dont know what to do now.
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lvhrtz2 said:
GIRL I'VE BEEN THROUGH IT MANY TIMES AND LET ME TELL U IF U CHOOSE TO GO BACK TO HIM HE IS GONNA THINK THAT HE CAN DO WHATEVER WITH U. MAN I WAS WITH ONE FOR 4 YEARS AND HE HAD ME AROUND HIS FINGERS BIG TIME. ITS ONLY GONNA END UP TO BE HEARTBREAK. MINE WAS VERY POSSESIVE WITH ME DIDN'T WANT ME GOING AROUND HIS FRIENDS CUZ HE THOUGHT THEY WOULD STEAL ME AWAY FROM HIM, BUT WHEN IT CAME UP TO THE SUBJECT OF MARRIAGE FORGET IT HE WANTED ME TO MOVE IN WITH HIM AND HIS MAMA!!!! DO U THINK THAT WAS RIGHT? NO IT WASN'T. HE DIDN'T LIKE ANY OF MY FAMILY MEMBERS ONLY WANTED ME TO GO TO HIM AND THAT'S NOT RIGHT EITHER. I DECIDED TO BREAK IT OFF CUZ I WAS SICK N TIRED OF ALL THE BULL. IN MY LIFE I WENT THROUGH A LOT AND HE WAS HARDLY THERE FOR ME. JUST BE CAREFUL IF U CHOOSE TO GO BACK TO HIM....I KNOW MOST OF US GIRLS LIKE THE GUYS THAT TREAT US LIKE SH-- BUT SOMETIMES U NEED TO CHANGE A LITTLE. LET THEM COME TO U AND LET THEM SPOIL U WITH GIFTS, DON'T GO AFTER THEM.



Thanks for the advice! Girl it seems like all I dated was guys that treat me like crap and I know I deserve so much better. Well when I had a few conversations that were more in depth with this guy over the weekend it seemed as though he didnt want to hear how I felt and he didnt care about it either. He said he isnt leaving his girlfriend but he does love me and care about me and that I am great. He also said he regrets breaking up with me because I have so much more to offer and he said that I was great to him and that Im beautiful but it just didnt feel right at the time and he didnt want to try to make it work. He then said to me listen if it doesnt work out with the girl that I am dating now Im going to marry my best friend. He said I am not going to be with you or any other girl ima give up on love im just going to marry my best friend. When he told me that I felt an instant chest pain. I started to cry I was like he totally contradicts himself. I was so upset. I started to have a conversation with him and tell him how I felt about the previous conversation and instead of listening and commenting on things I said he cut me off and just said he had to go and he would call me back. I said no I am talking to you and thats rude he said you cant tell me NO. and he said he would call me in ten minutes so I hung up on him and he never called me back. That made me so angry. I dont know what to do now.
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LABELLANJ224 said:
That made me so angry. I dont know what to do now.
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How about move on with your life? 🙂

Simple. You married? I figure you not. You got kids with him? No right? Move on and don't look back. Or if you want you can be his love slave or give this man more power than he feels he has.
 
Jaz, Enigma is right. He told you flat out that he isnt going to be with you, no matter what. So what are you going to hang on to? This guy just doesnt sound very mature to me, at all.

Randi (FreestyleGal)
 
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