If someone You loved was going through

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If someone you loved, Partner, friend, family whoever, is in the middle or in the process of a life changing progression and out of the blue calls you, and tells you that there day, isnt going so well, and you ask them, why, then they respond with "I'm just thinking about alot of things, and needed to hear your voice" you then ask them what there thinking about and their response is, "alot of things" you say good or bad, they say "good and bad" you then ask, if it has anything to do with you and there answer is "no its just things" then you ask what is the good then they answer " you are the good thoughts" then you ask them what the bad is there response is "I dont really want to talk about them " "I just needed to hear your voice". They dont want to tell you what it is that upsett them because they say they are not ready to talk to you or anyone else about them, but, yet they tell you that you are their comfort, that the bad was just a passing moment of that day and they are okay now. They ask you to let it go because it is not a reflection on you. My question is, do you think its wrong that they not want to tell you, do you think they should tell, if they say they love you. Or do you think that you shouldn't push it and that on their own time they will share with you what it was that bothered them. also do you think it is a reflection on you that they dont want to tell you, and would you fell that this person loved you any less for the fact that they just arent ready to share that part of their hurt with you. 🙂
 
Welps gurl...i have been in that situation where my man had problems...and he won't tell me cuz he's really upset about it and just wants to forget it...But yeah at times i feel that he doesnt wanna tell me cuz its about me....but then he says that its not me and he wont tell me cuz he just wants to hear my voice and that im the only one who can make him feel better....*sighs* hehe..😉
 
I DON'T THINK YOU SHOULD FEEL HURT BY THIS.......BELEIVE ME...I HAVE HAD MY SHARE OF PROBLEMS AND I DIDN'T FEEL LIKE SHARING THEM WITH NO ONE.....PEOPLE TEND TO CLOSE THEMSELVES OUT LIKE THAT......I FOR ONE WHEN I'M STRESSED I BLANK OUT ON EVERYONE......I DISAPPEAR FOR DAYS AND DON'T FEEL LIKE TALKING TO ANYONE....I KNOW IT'S NOT RIGHT WHEN POEPLE DO THAT....AND I UNDERSTAND PEOPLE JUST WANT TO BE THEIR FOR OTHER PEOPLE IN NEED.....BUT SOME PEOPLE ARE JUST LIKE THAT.......TAKE IT FROM ME....DON'T BE BOTHERED BY IT......HE PROBABLY HAS TO VENT A BIT..

ANTHONY AKA FREESTYLE LOVER
 
Freestyle Lover

I sometimes feel that way, but I have a few things that hear me out, and in return they give me some happiness during those moments. Those few things are:

1) Freestyle Collection
2) DVDs
3) My Lord


But then again, if I was taken, and had a girl, it's much more easier to let go and be happy, because my baby will hear me out. 😎

-Antonio
 
I think what you should do as a friend is be their friend.....don't push when they don't want to be push....they will bulge sooner or later. Asure them that YOU will ALWAYS be there for just talk, laughs, cries, pizza, movie, ANYTHING! They need to know that.....and sooner or later they will come out. I get like that too.....especially with Bill.....I'll call him and say I just wanted to hear his voice and usually it works.....Just be their friend
 
I believe that whether you choose to reveal yourself/thoughts/joys or miseries is a matter personal and particular to yourself, as well as a reflection on the person whom you choose to reveal these factors to. If that person is considered a confidante, then the revelations must follow through. Although there is no sin in being unready or unwilling to discuss certain personal matters, by failing to open oneself completely to the partner/family member/loved one etc., i.e. the confidante, you are in effect alienating that person. Moreover, you assume the risk of that person ultimately closing themselves up to you, and perhaps even declining any openess toward you. A confidante relation cannot be one-sided; both confidantes must either be open, or cease being confidantes to one another.
 
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I for one wouldn't feel like this person loved me any less just cause he didn't wanna share his problems with me..at the same I would wonder what it was about.. I think that when this person is ready to talk to you they will..don't worry! It happens to all of us sometimes we all just need to cope with things on our own...🙂
 
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