I think I know why I can't get dates.

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I think I have figured it out. It goes to a situation I was in 8 years ago that I felt uncomfortable talking with people about. Now i'm ready to talk about it. I think I can't get dates because, I don't really know what to say to females. I'm not into the what's your name what's your line crap. I'm also cautious about what I say to females which I think is why I can't land the deal. It goes back 8 years ago when I was in a workshop in Mich. There was this girl from Vermont I liked. We was hitting it off nicely, we was walking together, we was going to hang again the next day. Before I went to bed, the coordinator informed me that she had went home because I had sexually assulted her. I was really mad at the fact that she would do something like this. I did nothing. Since then, I was very cautious of how I talk to girls. Do you guys think I have become shy?
 
That was wrong of the girl if u didnt do anything to her... I say just be yourself... start as friends and u never know......
 
Mike Keep The Convo. Casual. Dont Say Anything Sexaul Related. Get Invovled In Some Sports Or Activities Where Ladies Are Active Participants. After A Few Times Ask The Lady If She Wants To Meet For Coffee In A Public Setting. Then You Can Move From There. Just Be Natural And Dont Get Too Personal.
 
Well Mike If After The First Date You Feel She Is Interested CAll Her The Next Day Dont Wait 3 Days. When You Call Just Say You Wanted To Make Sure She Got Home Ok. We Ladies Dont Like To Be Kept Hanging.
 
like i siad dotn say anything sexual. you can compliment her. talk about music, tv shows, work, college news. stuff you might have in common. keep the convo. short. keep her wanting more.
 
mike just be yourself if the person your with doesnt except you for you who you are then she dont deserve you
 
Baby1010 said:
That was wrong of the girl if u didnt do anything to her... I say just be yourself... start as friends and u never know......
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True that pa .. Take it one step at a time ... Am sorry about what happened to you ... But I hope you find that love one that will treat you like you treat them ... Best of luck...
 
Mike, you don't know what to say to a lady? You are Mr. Conversation in here. I am so sorry that you had to go through all that bullsh*t 8 years ago and I can understand why you are leary... but now, like already said.. be yourself and you will do fine.

If you were in the area, I'd ask YOU out so maybe you can practice on me!!!! :girl

(you are fine so I'd be more then happy to help you with this situation.)
 
JOEDOCPA said:
thats how i am i dont say much because im shy plus i dont wanna get shot down for the 200 plus time so i dont say much.
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i hear ya. girls say they like a guy with confidence, but how u gonna have confidence when u get rejected ten-thousand times. plus ppl always theres always say someone out there for you. this is true to a point, but at the same time, when you look at the world as whole ... there are ppl out there that never finds out what love is or what love is like. there are those who die young and never get the chance to love or be love. plus I have an uncle who lives with us and hes in his 50. he has no one and i doubt he would ever know what its like to love. he never goes anywhere or do anything but work and send money home to his mom in vietnam. as much as he annoys me most of the time, sometime i wonder if ill end up like him =O. but dont worry im not giving up just yet ... =]
 
i hear that all the time that there is someone out there for me lol . well when im out i dont see her i guess im blind . i dont belive in that there is someone out there for me i know for a fact that a female want and needs a strong man who will be there all the time for her and thats not me when i spend 90% of the time in the hospital so im no help to any female if she is out there she can come to me because i cant find her . i been shot down more times then the teams here in philly .
 
Mike Sometimes You Have To Be Lik Nike And Just Do It.... Suck It Up.. The Worst That Can Happen Is That Shes Says No, You Won't Get Shot Or Anything Like That... Go For It
 
Aww Mikey I am so sorry to hear that happened to you.
But I agree with AIM & Melissa....be yourself & take it slow but not too slow. If she don't like you for you then she don't deserve your attention. I know you'll find somebody out there
 
pHiLLyGurL25 said:
Aww Mikey I am so sorry to hear that happened to you.
But I agree with AIM & Melissa....be yourself & take it slow but not too slow. If she don't like you for you then she don't deserve your attention. I know you'll find somebody out there
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i agree with them mike


keep your head up, there is someone out there
 
Thanks guys.

This is something I felt uncomfortable about discussing for a long time. But realizing that my lovelife was not getting anywhere. I needed to do something. I just had to suck it up and realize that a portion of my past is what's affecting my lovelife for 8 years.
 
mike4949 said:
Thanks guys.

This is something I felt uncomfortable about discussing for a long time. But realizing that my lovelife was not getting anywhere. I needed to do something. I just had to suck it up and realize that a portion of my past is what's affecting my lovelife for 8 years.
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im so glad you realize that :wave
 
be yourself, get to know the female, talk about music, movies, tv etc, see if she is feeling you, make her laugh, tell goofy stories from you child hood, your goal should be that everything that is said between the both of you is interesting, never dull, you see a female go for it never back down, remember one thing everday that you wake up and your heart is beating, you have another chance on life take advantage of it.
 
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