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shany69

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My man left me in October. He went back to Chicago. My cousin, who lives there, is supposed to be my best friend. I just found out that she is constantly hanging out with my ex, giving him money and all this other stuff. Everytime I talk to her, I tell her how much him leaving hurt my son, how he says he wants to kock on every door in Chicago to find him, and how much I really love him and miss him. I ask if she's heard anything about him and she says no. I also found out that she initiated this. Am I wrong to NEVER want to speak to her again. I specifically told her not to talk to him because the way that he treated me and my son was just plain wrong (he lefft promising my son he would be back). Let me know...
 
Oh dayum mama that is so not cool. I can understand you not wanting her to have anything to do with your ex but have you thought about her quite possible having some motives to keeping in touch with him and doing these things for him. To call someone a best friend is to know this person will always be there for you and do right by you, she has just lied to you by denying she has no contact with him very well aware of the pain he has caused you and your son. Personally I would say not to bother with her because youve already been decieved by this man and now the one you call your best friend has also caused you some hurt. You can do without the pain right now you have to just think about your son forget the empty promises he gave you and your son and promise your son that for him you will always be there for him. I know it is easier said then done but mama your son doesnt deserve to hang on to a promise he made him if you are well aware he has no intention in coming through with them. As for your couzin she lied to you knowing how much you trust her she lied to you, what is a friendship without trust. I wish you the best mama and hope everything works out 🙂
 
being that im in chicago tell me where he lives and ill beat him down
 
of course you cant disrespect the ladies thats just wrong like i said tell me where he lives i got you
 
SORRY FOR SEEMING COLD HEARTED BOUT THIS, BUT ITS FROM PAST EXPERIENCE AS WELL....FOR ONE, IF SHE LIES TO YOU BOUT A SITUATION AS SERIOUS THEN CUT HER OFF, COUSIN OR NOT...BLOOD IS THICKER THAN WATER....SPECIALLY SINCE YOU SAID YOU TRIED TALKING TO HER ALREADY & STILL HASNT GOTTEN YOU ANYWHERE...FOR 2 IF HES GONNA LIE ALSO SAYING THINGS THAT WERE NEVER TRUE....THEN TRY TO DIMINISH ALL FEELINGS FOR HIM ALTOGETHER...I MEAN IF HES GONNA GO THIS EXTENT HIMSELF, THEN WHY MAKE MATTERS WORSE FOR "YOURSELF" W/ THE STRESS & MIXED FEELINGS...EVEN THO ITS HARD FOR BOTH SITUATIONS ITS WHAT NEEDS TO BE DONE TO GET ON W/ YOUR OWN LIFE...OTHERWISE YOU ARE JUST GONNA BE HURTING YOURSELF IN THE LONG RUN W/ WHAT IT SEEMS...2 PEOPLE WHO ARE ONLY WORRIED ABOUT THEMSELVES.
 
Hey shany...here's my take: Have you ever thought that your cousin was trying to keep the lines of communication open between your ex and your son? Is he old enough to TRULY understand the situation, or does he know just what mommy says?...I ask because I'm in the same position as your cousin. My aunt and uncle had a son who was 3 at the time, and a daughter who was four, when they divorced in 95. My aunt would go on and on about how he cheated on her and his alcoholism...she also pretty much told our side of the family to stay away from him...she told her ex's cousin, who is the godfather of her kids, to stay away from her because he is also the godfather of the girl my uncle had with the woman that he cheated on my aunt with(THIS IS NOT, I REPEAT, NOT AN EPISODE OF ALL MY CHILDREN). I hope I haven't lost you yet...anyway, I ran into my uncle several times in the last 7 years, and all he talks about is how he misses them, even crying...of course, he's still an alcoholic, but he still loves his children, and I think that it is important for them to know that, and because of issues with my own father(I've only seen him ONCE in my 25 years alive) I took it upon myself to deliver that message....but the shit is, the kids are still at that age where they just don't know how to shut up, LOL, so I have to do it in a way where they get the message, but don't know how, and if my aunt found out, she would not let me see them again, cuz she's vindictive like that, and those kids ARE my surrogate children....sorry didn't mean to get into the whole life story bit, LOL, but I was just wondering if you were seeing beyond the anger you rightfully feel.
 
Thanks guys! I know what your saying... I'm pretty much over him, but I am so PISSED at my cousin. She isn;t trying to keep the lines of communication open between my son and him because she hasn't even called when my son is awake to be able to talk to him. I knew something was going on because she rarely calls me. i always call her to talk to her daughter. My son is five so no he doesn't understand much. I don't talk bad about him to my son because my son thinks the world of him. That would just get my son mad at me...I just tell him that he didn't like florida anymore and I don't know why he doesn't call him.
I agree with you Chola - F*@K her and him!
Node - thank you much! Check 69th and and the first block east of california. Look for the big baby blue 74(?) caprice with rims!
 
Well for starters being the better person you are forgive him and then move one for he will come to realize that you were his real love and it will be his lost because you are the better person.
 
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