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Hey all this is Natalie. Its been awhile since i've really written in here to all of you. Well heres what i need the advice on. I joined the military (Navy) in october of 2001 and they stationed me on Guam. I hated it here when i first got here, but now it's not that bad. Well I met this guy who is sort of my supervisor but not really. He's a civilian and we started talking as friends. He says that he feels really comfortable talking to me about anything. At work we are always together just talking about stupid things. Off work i dont see him of course cause that's just how it is. I love talking to him though. He helped me with my ex fiance situation and he's helped me through a lot more about just myself. Right now he's having problems with his girlfriend that he tells me about. I'm trying to give him the best advice. I honestly told him to follow his heart to what he thinks is right. And if he is no longer happy with her or if he feels that he can no longer please her then he should just move on and find someone else. No i didnt say me, but i wanted to. I just want to see him happy. He wants to break it off with her but there are techincalities that he has to get through and over with. But even though he has a girlfriend i really want to let him know how i feel for him. Come sunday i leave here for a month to go home i chicago on leave. I know i'm going to miss him so much and i want to tell him before i leave but i really dont know if i should. I just cant explain how i feel when he talks to me or when he laughs or when he smiles or when he just looks at me. My stomach i swear just fills with butterflies and my heart wants to dance. So what should i do? Should i tell him and relieve myself from what i feel or should i keep it to myself and just let things go the way they have been? Its funny i'm doing this now and he just walked into my office. I have to go but please help me!!! Natalie
 
HEY GIRL,I KNOW WHERE YOUR COMIN FROM!!THERES THIS BEAUTIFUL MAN I KNOW,WHO BRINGS ABOUT ALL THOSE FEELINGS AND MORE IN ME..ONLY THING IS WERE MILES APART..:crap FOR YOU HES THERE,RIGHT THERE,SO MAYBE YOU SHOULD TELL HIM,IF YOU DONT YOULL NEVER KNOW..THEN AGAIN R U READY FOR ANOTHER RELATIONSHIP ALREADY??I MEAN IS YOUR PAST WITH YOUR FIANCE REALLY BEHIND YOU??JUST MAKE SURE OR YOULL NEVER BE ABLE TO GIVE A NEW MAN 100% OF YOURSELF.ANOTHER ISSUE(YEAH WE ALL GOT ISSUES..HAHA)IF YOU TELL HIM,AND IT DOESNT WORK CAN YA ALL REMAIN FRIENDS???OR WILL THINGS CHANGE??:confused
ITS REALLY NOT EASY I KNOW.LISTEN IF YOU NEED TO TALK,U KNOW WHERE TO FIND ME!!BEST OF LUCK TO YA!!😀
 
WELL WITH MY EXFIANCE ITS SO OVER AND DONE WITH. HE WAS HURTING ME FOR TO LONG FOR ME TO BE HUNG UP ON HIM LONGER THAN I WAS. LATELY IVE BEEN STRONG LIKE THAT AND I HAVE NO CLUE WHERE IT COMES FROM. AND I KNOW THAT IF IT WAS TO WORK OUT IN MY FAVOR I WOULD GIVE HIM 100% AND SO MUCH MORE. BUT IF I DO TELL HIM AND HE DOESNT FEEL THE SAME I DONT KNOW IF HE'LL ACT THE SAME OR WILL THINGS CHANGE. I KNOW I CAN STILL REMAIN FRIENDS AND BE LIKE NOTHING EVER CHANGED, BUT I DONT KNOW IF HE CAN. I WAS THINKING OF WRITING HIM A LETTER AND GIVING IT TO HIM THE DAY I LEAVE AND THEN HE COULD CALL ME OR MAYBE EMAIL AND TELL ME WHAT'S ON HIS MIND. CAUSE IF HE DOESNT FEEL THE SAME, THIRTY DAYS IS A LONG TIME TO BE A WAY FROM SOME ONE AND HAVE THINGS CHANGE. YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN? I'M JUST SO CONFUSED. IF THE GUY THAT YOU HAD FEELINGS FOR WAS RIGHT NEXT TO YOU WOULD YOU TELL HIM OR WOULD YOU KEEP IT TO YOURSELF? ahhhhhhh!!!!!! I NEED TO LET IT OUT AND TELL HIM!!! 🙂
 
ACTUALLY I HAVE TOLD HIM,AND IM NOT REALLY SURE IF HE DOES FEEL THE SAME.I MEAN HE SAYS HE WISHES I WAS CLOSER,AND THAT IM SPECIAL..YOU KNOW ALL THAT!!BUT I TOLD HIM AND THAT MADE ME FEEL GOOD!!...SO KNOWIN WHAT I KNOW..I THINK YOU SHOULD FOLLOW YOUR HEART AND LET HIM KNOW!MAYBE SAY SOMETHIN LIKE"IF HIS FEELINGS DONT REFLECT YOURS,THEN YOU WANT YOUR FRIENDSHIP TO REMAIN AS IS NOW"(CHEEZY HUH).BUT TRY!!IM GLAD YOUR REALLY OVER THE X,AND YOUR STRENGHTH COMES FROM THE HURT HE BROUGHT YOU..SOME OF THE STRONGEST WOMEN WERE BORN FROM HEARTBREAK!!...YOU AND I ARE LIVIN PROOF!!
 
Natalie, it sounds like you really want to tell him.....so you mind as well do it. just be prepared for the consequence (good or bad). he may not feel the same, but then again, he might feel the exact same way about you. honestly, if i were you, i'd go for it. its sounds like you two already have a good friendship, why not take it to the next level. you're gonna be leaving on sunday for a month...that will give him sometime to think about everything....good luck!!

**MICHELLE**
 
NATALIE... IT SOUNDS TO ME THAT YOU GUYS HAVE A GREAT FRIENDSHIP AND I BELIEVE YOU SHOULD TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL. BUT MAKE IT BE KNOWN THAT YOU UNDERSTAND THE TROUBLES HE'S GOING THRU AND THAT YOU'LL BE THERE FOR HIM NO MATTER WHAT...NO MATTER WHAT HE DOES! THAT'S HOW IM INTERPRETING IT!!! 😀 Good luck Girl!!

*read my signature...it says alot!
 
FreestyleGoddes

Hello :wave

Which one will you pick?

A: Don't tell him...shout out your heart from speaking true feelings...and later on knock your head on the wall wishing you would have said something. Not to mention "What If?" he was the one? The man that could make you happy forever? You never know...thats what it's good to speak up regardless of consequences...phuck it...life is short girl.

B: Speak your heart to him...be happy...feel loved...and embark in a journey to where you always wanted to go. Ahhh feels so good doesn't it? Yes!!!

Cheryl...sounds like a great guy you got there 😉 Yeah far distance is a biotch...I have come across a few ladies on the internet that live so far away and are sweethearts...and I just ask...why o why they so far away? lol Oh well...I await teleportation in the future :nutz

-antonio
 
YEAH,ANT HE IS A GREAT GUY,FIRST ONE IVE MEET ON THE INTERNET,BUT YA NEVER KNOW....SOMETIMES DESTINY STEPS IN AND TAKES OVER!!

LET ME FIND OUT YOUR THE DON JUAN OF THE INTERNET!!LMAO!!
 
Cheryl phillips said:
YEAH,ANT HE IS A GREAT GUY,FIRST ONE IVE MEET ON THE INTERNET,BUT YA NEVER KNOW....SOMETIMES DESTINY STEPS IN AND TAKES OVER!!
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U just never know 😉 :hearton


LET ME FIND OUT YOUR THE DON JUAN OF THE INTERNET!!LMAO!!
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😱 :angel

-antonio
 
Wow am I lucky or what! :stoned

-a n t o n i o
 
thanks all i think i am going to tell him. i just have to figure out what exactly to tell him and i will let you posted on what happens. i will tell him sunday before i leave but i think i'm going to write him a letter cause i'm to scared to do it in person. and then when i come back or even he could call me and tell me what's on his mind. I love you guys. thanks so much. if any one else wants to put there two cents in please go ahead....
 
Why are you scared? What can possibly go wrong? That he will hate you? That he will say no? Same answers you get with a letter lol Shyness does not benefit you...build up the courage and do it!

-antonio
 
I'M ALWAYS SCARED TO TELL PEOPLE THAT I HAVE FEELINGS FOR THEM FOR THE FIRST TIME FACE TO FACE. I'VE ALWAYS BEEN LIKE THAT. I GUESS I JUST DONT LIKE THE AWKWARDNESS THAT FOLLOWS AND STUFF LIKE THAT. IF I'M GOING TO GET THE SAME ANSWER ANYWAY WHY NOT WITH THE LETTER. HE JUST CAME IN HERE AND HE STILL HAS THE CHEX MIX BAG I GAVE HIM LIKE A WEEK AGO TO EAT. HE ATE THE CHEX MIX AND KEPT THE BAG. WHAT DOES THAT MEAN?
 
😉 GO FOR IT GIRL!!I wish you the best!!I took a big step last night and wrote somethin wonderful for that guy I spoke about..I think It went well!!!But maybe you should tell him,seems like you communicate well??Do it in whatever way you can best xpress yourself!!GOOD LUCK and let me know....
 
YEAH BUT I KNOW IF I TRY TO TELL HIM IN PERSON THE WORDS JUST WON'T COME OUT LIKE I WANT THEM TO. SO THAT'S WHY I WANT TO WRITE HIM THE LETTER SO I KNOW THE WORDS I WANT TO SAY WILL COME OUT LIKE I WANT THEM TO AND IF I MESS UP I CAN ALWAYS ERASE AND DO OVER. YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN? I'M NERVOUS JUST TO THINK OF HIM KNOWING HOW I FEEL FOR HIM AND I DON'T KNOW WHY. BUT WHEN I GIVE IT TO HIM AND WHATEVER HE TELLS ME I WILL LET YOU KNOW FOR SURE. THANX FOR THE ADVICE. HOPE IT ALL WORKS WELL WITH YOUR GUY..... SORRY FOR WRITING IN ALL CAPS. MY COMPUTER IS RETARDED....🙂
 
My advice would be to give him the letter before you leave, be there when he reads it and be there for him to talk to you about it. Maybe he feels the same way and would like to express those feelings to you in person and not over the phone or in email. 🙂
 
good luck whatever you decide to do. why don't you ask him to lunch?? maybe then u can ease into how u feel about him.
 
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