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Problem - I've been single since june 2000. I left my ex of 3 years cause he played me out 3 times.
He left to the Army and wrote to me almost everyday saying that he changed and he grew up and he thinks bout me, misses me...whatever. He wants us to get back together. He just got down here last week and we chilled but I don't know guys!

What should I do?
 
hmmm...

Go with what your heart tells u, Tania...i dont wanna be the one telling someone what to do and later on regret it...goodluck mamita.
 
Oh man...... your ex...

Hello Tania this is Tania.. well girl I have read about your ex before.... I am trying to put myself in your shoes... I'd probably wanna give him another chance. I am so weak.. but tell me girl do you still have feelings for him? If so this is all I can tell ya.. take it slow.. and don't give him your 100% trust since he messed that up before...3x's to be exact. So Tania.... Take hold lightly let go lightly...

See how things are... dont give in just yet. I also feel people deserve a second chance...BUT you deserve someone who will love you and respect you to the fullest.. think about all that. Good luck to ya and I hope he doesnt break your heart again. Hope my advice helps you out at least a bit. Take care!! 😛
 
MIJA WHAT EVER YOU DECIDE DO IT FOR YOU, BUT DEFFINITLY TRY NOT TO JUMP INTO ANYTHING. ONLY YOU KNOW IN YOUR HEART WHAT IT IS THAT YOU WANT AND IF HE IS THE MAN FOR YOU. THINK EVERYTHING THROUGH CAREFULLY BEST OF LUCK 🙂
 
yo tania
yo just listen your heart and mind put them together
and just go w/ the flow dont fall so fast take the time
like everyone said let him prove himself to you
thats true actions do speak louder than words but at the same time dont push him away because then hell think that your being a B*tch not sayin your are but just
do what you gotta do you got your head between your shoulder s
 
well.....

It's one of those rare occasions where freak and I agree!! Once a cheater always a cheater. Period. No ifs, ands, or buts about it. And 3x?? I won't say what you're obviously already thinking (otherwise you wouldn't be asking for advice).
On the same token, it is possible for people to change. Whether he did or not is for you to determine. I say you think about whether you still love him or not and whether you want him back or not and why. And lastly, do feel like you can trust him? Or will you always have a little doubt in the back of your mind, waiting for the other shoe to drop? If you said yes to that last question then whether you love him or not or if he changed or not is irrelevant. Because even if he truly changed, but you're always wondering you will never be totally at ease with him and you will end up being one of those clingy insecure girls you'd hate to be and laugh at.

If you can still trust him (and I'd be surprised if you could, because I couldn't) then make him prove it. Be the guy. Make sure he knows that YOU come FIRST to you. That you will fulfill your needs and wants and then if you have time accomodate his. If he can accept that willingly without complaint for a while then he really has changed and you can let your guard down. If he bitches and moans, cut the dog loose.
 
I'm sorry but I don't agree with following your heart....
please don't be angry with me everyone...but your heart can lie to you, if poeple always followed thier hearts there would be so much sadness in the world(more than there already is) I know you may want to follow your heart...but what does your mind tell you???🙂
 
that why you gotta put your heart and mind as tag team partners i know its easier said then done but people have to try
 
Tru dat Tru dat!

You got it Doos! Put your heart and mind together to see what they tell you....😀
 
You know what guys...........

I had a long talk with him. I made up my mind and am not going to get back with him cause I don't want to put myself it that situation again.

For one thing...If i followed my heart...I would've been back with him or probably wouldn't break up in the first place. But this time I have to think with my mind cause the heart is very decieving.

I do care about him soooo much...Hey he is my first love. But...i realized he is such a good friend.

I told him "You are the worst boyfriend anyone can have but...you are the best friend I never had in my life and I love you for that"........He was offended by that but respected what I said and he understood.

Now we are good friends and we rented movies, painted, shopped and did things that friends do and Now i have this whole new respect for him. I'm very sad cause he left yesterday and I do miss him being around.

Thanks everyone! You all helped!
 
i second this!!! once a player always a PLAYER!!! he got a way with it to many times...its too easy for him now...sorry to say
 
i juat read ur post...yeah that was for the best!!! good for u 😉
 
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