Have you ever had to break up with some1 u really loved?

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Hi everyone! MY question is HAS THIS EVER HAPPENED TO YOU and what did you do?? Can you be friends after you break up even if u still r both feeling love 4 each other????

For the past three months Ive been completely in love, well ok im still in love...but this guy did so much to me already...flirted with two girls in front of my face, lied to me, broke up with me through email...n other stuff.

But I know he loved me and we did get back together after the email breakup. I was hurt by him but i gave him another chance because the love I feel for him is something so strong i never felt like this with any1. Hes really tried to make up for all the things hes done. like he even wrote me some love poems! He NEVER did that before 4 any1. Im the first girl he ever loved I do believe that with all my heart.
I love him soo much but he makes me feel so good n the next day so bad. Like the girl in my english class who flirts with him n i hate her he told me she thinks shes pretty....but oh Im "banging" ewwww.
Its just he hurt me too many times that I feel I cant take anymore so I told him I loved him but I cant do this anymore. Neither of us really want to break up but also we know we fight alot cuz he always messes up somehow. I never wanted to leave him. I miss him soooooooooo much. IS IT POSSIBLE TO STILL BE FRIENDS or is it best to just go our separate ways 4eveR 🙁 HELP ME thanks
 
Considering that I am somewhat going through this now first I would have to say try to be friends. TRY!!! Cause you know that you will want that person in your life. But if you starts treating you like shit and worse i say go your seperate ways. I know it's going to hurt, but maybe it would of been better that way. And who knows, later down the line he might realize all tha pain he put you through now and that he actually only loved you and wants to make it up to you (make sure he's changed though for the better) and wants to be more to you again! (It's happened to me, but he never changed and I found out too late.) Keep it in mind. Hope it works out for you girl!!! Much love. Laters!
 
Mandy,

Honey I've been there, its even harder when you break up with someone that has never done anything to make you do it. In this case this guy has given you reasons to do it. I know its hard but sometimes thats the best thing to do. Being apart from somebody you love for a while makes you realize how much or how strong your feelings are for that person. You know how they say you dont know what you have till its gone. Then give it a try Let your bird fly free, if it comes back to you it was ment to be yours. 😉

As far as being friends with him. I find that hard for people who have been in a relationship to be friends right after a break up. I always wait until Im sure that our feelings are completly gone before we become friends
 
It's hard to maintain a friendship with someone you have been in love with. Unless you can let go of the feelings that you had for them , it doesn't work. Give it time. It might work if you can honestly walk away and say I do not love this person anymore.
 
That is not true. You can be friends with somebody that you still love. I know this from my life. Not talking about rich here. I at one time was so in love (My first love, Angel) for so long. We got together and he was doing stuff like you mentioned. I broke it off, and even though I still loved him, we remained really good friends. Just like 2-3 months ago he asked me to marry him cause he said he realized that he always loved me and that he was wrong in what he did. I still loved him too, but me like an idiot thought I loved Rich more and that we were going to last so I said no. And look what happened.!! But angel and I still talk. We are like really good friends still.
 
PERSONALLY I THINK THAT HE IS UNSTABLE AND HE FEELS LIKE PLAYING GAMES WITH YOU JUST TO TEST YOU AS FAR AS BEING FRIENDS I AM NOT SURE THAT WOULD BE A GOOD IDEA SINCE U STILL HAVE STRONG FEELINGS FOR HIM ONE THING MIGHT LEAD TO ANOTHER.I WOULD SUGGEST JUST BREAKING UP AND KEEPING IT ON GOOD TERMS BUT DONT BE TOO FRIENDLY AS IN CLOSE FRIENDSHIPS HI AND BYE IS GOOD ENOUGH CAUSE HE MIGHT THINK YOU WANT MORE THAN JUST FRIENDS AND IT WILL START ALL OVER AGAIN!GIRL POWER!
 
YO ITS HARD SOMETIMES WHEN YOU LOVE SOME ONE VERY DEERLY BUT YO YOU TRY TO BE FRIENDS I KNOW ITS HARD AND ITS EASIER SAID THEN DONE BUT IF THAT CANT WORK JUST WALK AWAY AND JUST STAY STRONG THOSE FEELINS WILL ALWAYS BE THERE AND YOU NEVER KNOW IF IT GETS BETTER YO STAY STRONG AND SHOW THAT YOUR THE STRONGEST PERSON HERE BE REAL AND LET HIM KNOW AND EXPLAIN TO HIM WHY YOU CHOSE THAT PATH BCUZ I KNOW FOR A FACT HES NOT GONNA UNDERSTAND WHY YOU CHOSE THE PATH YOUR GONNA TAKE
 
I broke up with my boyfriend of 4 yrs because I wasn't sure if I wanted to be with him anymore. Well.... three months have passed since then and we have just gotten back together. Now I'm 200% positive that he is "the one." I love him more than ever and I realize that now. We both realized it after being apart.

As far as friends, we could not be friends while broken up because it hurt too much. We still loved each other. But I'm still good friends with one of my ex's. So it can work out. I think it depends on the kind of relationship you had (how deep), and how and why the break up happened. 🙂
 
a few months back i had to break up with this guy i was with since my daughter was born...he kept on pressuring me to marry him and move in with him...i am only 19 and am not even about that...it was hard to let him go...i still regret it sometimes when i am lonely...but what was i to do??? 🙁 and btw freestyle goddess his name was richard too. LOL!!!! *sigh* we arent friends because i am the type of person who cant be just friends with a person i use to date.
 
In my opinion....

It is very possible to remain friends with someone you were once in love with. However, this can only happen after a separation period where you can let go of the pain. Otherwise you will have too much resentment.

Thats just my opinion though 😉
 
Hmmm.Wow. Ive been there to ladies. I was with someone for about 2-3 years and we would break up and then make up. When the time came to break up it was mutual. Neither one of us wanted to say goodbye but, we did.I cried like a part of me had died. We were very close, he was one of my closest friends. But, it just wasn't working. But, I have to agree with Fierce Freestyler. From experience me and this person in good faith wanted to stay in each others lives but, every time he came around (so often it was like we were still together) we would hang out, movies etc..
and one thing WOULD lead to another. So it was more like a prolonged break up. which is why I think the heart needs to breath before you try to be friends. We didn't hate eachother, and we were so used to each other, like a constant presence you know like a bad habit. That we just looked for eachother. Any how
as time went by I mended and so did he, the love will always be there and I consider him a very good friend. (and nothing more)
The love finally out grew it self and we were able to develop a friendship.
 
I dont think I can still remain friends with my ex well depending on the break up my baby daddy did me wrong alot of times and I couldnt think about being his friend just the fact that knowing he is with someone else doing things we used to do.. But actually I dont care about him at all and I cannot stand him but I stil talk to him like a friend nothing else.. But If me and my boyfriend now would break up I couldnt stand to know he's with some other hoe nah but I guess it depends...
 
Thanks

Hi hows everyone doin 🙂?? Im doing pretty good! Well after two days we finally talked after our breakup. We tried talkin as friends then he said how he was missin me alot n I admitted I was too...I know he hurt me but I love him with all my heart. and I do know now what u mean by when someone touches your soul well I feel it when we're together...a really special connection.
We tried being friends and that lasted a whole three days. I guess maybe you cant be friends with someone you still love. Time may heal that though. If we ever break up again I really think I couldnt be his friend til I wasnt in love with him anymore and moved on. otherwise it is waaaay too easy to fall back into the relationship even if thats not the best thing to do. everything is going ok now.....I think we may be even closer now. Thanks for the advice!! Take care
 
Good to hear from ya mandy. So you in him are back together? Well I hope it works out for you. And though you may think you are closer now, only time will tell. I mean when Rich and I got back together the first time I thought we were closer than ever, but it turned out were not. I drifted from him from time to time and we basically almost stopped doing what we used to do. It was really weird. I don't even know how to explain it. But I really hope it works out for you. Listen to your heart girl, but also listen to your mind. Much love ....... *NATA*
 
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