Friends with Benefits

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Originally posted by Heavenly
....I need the distraction and this guy happens to be the perfect one.
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How long you known this guy? A month? Two months? Three months? If so...you should give it more time to trust this guy. Like a year or two? After all, this is your body we're talking about.

You have to study a man real good, and make sure he's not deceiving you with his words. REGARDLESS how many favors he is currently doing for you before engaging in sexual intercourse. 🙂

~Antonio
 
A FRIEND WITH BENEFITS? WHO CAME UP WITH THAT? MORE LIKE A BOOTY CALL WITH BENEFITS....

FRIENDSHIP TO ME IS SACRED...I COULD'VE NEVER CROSSED THAT LINE AT ALL BECAUSE THEN THE INTIMATE TRUST BECOMES VULNERABLE....AND SOMEONE IS ALWAYS BOUND TO BECOME HURT WETHER THEY ADMIT IT OR NOT.

I DON'T BELEIVE THAT THE FRIENDSHIP COULD EVER BE THE SAME AFTER YOU HAVE CROSSED THAT LINE....THE ONLY SALVATION THEN WOULD HAVE BEEN TO BECOME A COUPLE.
 
MZ Nina

That's funny you say it's a BOOTY CALL!! I don't have a problem with friends with benifits. When you are in high school and your 20's, it's better that way to just be friends with benifits.


Mike


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OF COURSE YOU WOULD FIND IT FUNNY... THE AVERAGE MAN WOULD FIND IT FUNNY AND MOST OF YOU GUYS LOVE RELATIONSHIPS WITHOUT STRINGS ...SORRY IF MY STANDARDS ARE DIFFERENT...BUT AT LEAST I CAN SLEEP AT NIGHT AND I HAVE NO REGRETS IN LIFE.
 
Its a tough call....and no offense to the guys here, but usually the guy manages to be the one not hurt when the whole friend thing crosses over. Granted there are a few exceptions, but that's with anything. Plus usually guys just see it as hooking up and usually guys take sex more casually then girls.....they don't really deal with it as emotionally as women. Again, no offense to any of the guys here, its just from personal experience. It is a fine line to cross and there are good points and not so good points....sometimes in cases like this its a no win situation. If you do cross it the friendships ruined, then if you don't cross it, the friendships isn't the same cause one thought something was going to happen.


~Megan~
 
AS TRUE FRIENDS THAT TWO PEOPLE CAN BE..THAT NOTION SHOULD NOT BE SO EMBEDDED IN ANYONES MIND TO THE POINT THAT IT RUINS THE FRIENDSHIP UNLESS ONE PERSON LED IT ON TO THE OTHER....I HAD A MALE FRIEND THROUGHOUT H.S. AND WE WERE CLOSE AND SPOKE OF EVERYTHING...HE HELPED ME THROUGH ALOT OF TOUGH TIMES...I COULD NEVER HAVE DISRESPECTED OUR FRIENDSHIP BY CROSSING THE LINE WITH HIM AND RISKING THE LOSS OF A TRUE CONFIDANT WHO KNEW EVERYTHING ABOUT ME...AND HE NEVER ATTEMPTED IT EITHER. THAT'S WHAT I CALLED A TRUE FRIEND.
 
MZ Nina

I just like how you called it a booty call. I not into being a player though(I would do one crappy job at that!!). But I'm just saying that it's OK eventhough everybody is not for that kind of relationship. Only person who I seen pull the friends with benifits thing good was Mike/The Miz(The Real World 10/New York) when he slept with his best friend from Ohio.

Mike😀
 
I JUST CALL IT LIKE I SEE IT....I DON'T WATCH THOSE SHOWS ..WE HAVE ENOUGH INFIDELITY IN THE WORLD THEN TO WATCH SOMEONE EXPLOIT IT EVEN MORE FOR RATINGS....MOVIES ALREADY SEEM TO DO A GREAT JOB ON THEIR OWN..SO FOR MY OWN SANITY I DON'T WATCH THOSE SHOWS.
 
AHEm........

I personally don't think tht there is anything wrong with it......
I just got out of a 4 year relationship and now I have a "friend w/ benefits" and it's GREAT.....


YOu just need to make sure that you guys are both on the same page so that things don't get weird, ya know??🙄

Chrissy😀
 
Yo, I had a bugged out experience with this, but then again I really didn't know the fella. It should be done with a friend. Lesson learned😀
 
I think this is great!

that way you can still do your thing don't have to give anybody no explanations no arguments no nothing just plain ol' pleasure...plus Heavenly your a grown woman and you should now what feels right and what feels wrong...personally I would do it and I have done it and look at me now I had a booty call for about a year and know we have decided to be together in a serious relationship just me and him...reason why were in a relationship cuz we saw what was out there and couldn't compare to the chemistry that me and him had. so this could turn out to be a good thing for you! plus you need a little excitment in your life as long as your safe.....
 
Heavenly said:
Well ok people the question for the day is ....

Is it ok to have a friend with Benefits...no attachments just two people who are friends having great sex??
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Ummm.........yeah!!! I had a buddy like that, though it didn't last long at all. But it was great while we were together. I told him in no uncertain terms that I was still hurting after my divorce and that I had no intentions of getting serious with him and that i just wanted to be friends, and with a lil somethin' somethin' on the side. He wanted more, but he settled for what he could get. he he he....it was nice while it lasted. Then the party was over and I got back with my ex-hubby who is again my hubby.........long story!!!
 
WOW thanks for sharing your story. This is basically what I told my friend, that I was still heartbroken over my ex and I had no intentions on falling in love again or even date....so take it or leave it ....
 
Personally I think sex is rather hollow without love. Passion is a large part of sex for me. I've had sex without an emotional attachment in the past and it wasn't a good experience.

It's not the labelling of a relationship that matters - a no-strings "just-friends" relationship or a serious "boyfriend-girlfriend" relationship. It's the actual feelings between the two people that matter.
 
THAT WAS NICELY PUT TARP....KUDOS TO YOU...THAT'S WHY I CALL THEM BOOTY CALLS..LOL..NO STRINGS OR ATTACHMENTS...IT'S NOT A RELATIONSHIP. I LIKE THE FULL PACKAGE MYSELF.
 
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