Five Ways to Know if You Are Over Him
It's a good time to check in and see how much better you are now than you were a mere six months ago. Everyone processes loss at different speeds, but I definitely think that around now you should be feeling at least okay to good.
Is your breakup the first thing you think about in the morning or the last thing you think about at night? If the answer is NO: Read on.
If the answer is YES: It's normal to think about your ex and your breakup sometimes, but if recovering is still defining your life, you may want to get some additional help. Your life is precious and you don't want to waste time that could be much better spent by dwelling on the past. The best is ahead.
Are you smelling, hearing, seeing, tasting and feeling the world as least as clearly as you did before the breakup?
If the answer is NO: Continuing dullness of your senses is a pretty good indication that you are not doing very well. As a chunk of time has passed since you and your ex split, you should take charge and explore getting some extra help. You can't fully start enjoying your life until you've recovered your senses (literally), and not enjoying your life is really a crime. If the answer is YES: That is awesome. Now, are you using them to maximize your pleasure?
Have you explored any new or rediscovered interests?
If the answer is NO: What are you waiting for? Are you too busy? Too broke? Come on, there must be something that you can manage now. There is no time like the present to make your life more interesting to you.
If the answer is YES: Mad high-fives. It takes a lot of resolve to actually bust out and do something new. You rule.
Are you wearing sexy undies?
If the answer is NO: There is a story about a famous director who, at a rehearsal, notices a young actress schlepping across the stage. He says, "Tomorrow, wear sexy underwear." The actress says, "But sir, no one will know I'm wearing it." He says, "That's all right. You'll know." And that's my point. Don't save the nice stuff for special occasions -- wear it for yourself, and often.
If the answer is YES: Excellent.
Do you feel fortunate?
If the answer is NO: Never, or just not right this minute? It's hard to maintain a constant feeling of good fortune, but if you almost never feel lucky, you need to make some changes in your life. Either you have got to create things in your life that make you feel gratitude, or you have got to find a feeling of gratitude for your life as it is.
If the answer is YES: Yeah, baby. Try to always hold onto that feeling because even if every day isn't sheer bliss, it's good to be alive. It's either time to break out the bubbly and celebrate the return of your groove, or it's time to put your food down and do whatever it takes for you to find your groove again. Your life isn't a dress rehearsal. Live it righteously.
It's a good time to check in and see how much better you are now than you were a mere six months ago. Everyone processes loss at different speeds, but I definitely think that around now you should be feeling at least okay to good.
Is your breakup the first thing you think about in the morning or the last thing you think about at night? If the answer is NO: Read on.
If the answer is YES: It's normal to think about your ex and your breakup sometimes, but if recovering is still defining your life, you may want to get some additional help. Your life is precious and you don't want to waste time that could be much better spent by dwelling on the past. The best is ahead.
Are you smelling, hearing, seeing, tasting and feeling the world as least as clearly as you did before the breakup?
If the answer is NO: Continuing dullness of your senses is a pretty good indication that you are not doing very well. As a chunk of time has passed since you and your ex split, you should take charge and explore getting some extra help. You can't fully start enjoying your life until you've recovered your senses (literally), and not enjoying your life is really a crime. If the answer is YES: That is awesome. Now, are you using them to maximize your pleasure?
Have you explored any new or rediscovered interests?
If the answer is NO: What are you waiting for? Are you too busy? Too broke? Come on, there must be something that you can manage now. There is no time like the present to make your life more interesting to you.
If the answer is YES: Mad high-fives. It takes a lot of resolve to actually bust out and do something new. You rule.
Are you wearing sexy undies?
If the answer is NO: There is a story about a famous director who, at a rehearsal, notices a young actress schlepping across the stage. He says, "Tomorrow, wear sexy underwear." The actress says, "But sir, no one will know I'm wearing it." He says, "That's all right. You'll know." And that's my point. Don't save the nice stuff for special occasions -- wear it for yourself, and often.
If the answer is YES: Excellent.
Do you feel fortunate?
If the answer is NO: Never, or just not right this minute? It's hard to maintain a constant feeling of good fortune, but if you almost never feel lucky, you need to make some changes in your life. Either you have got to create things in your life that make you feel gratitude, or you have got to find a feeling of gratitude for your life as it is.
If the answer is YES: Yeah, baby. Try to always hold onto that feeling because even if every day isn't sheer bliss, it's good to be alive. It's either time to break out the bubbly and celebrate the return of your groove, or it's time to put your food down and do whatever it takes for you to find your groove again. Your life isn't a dress rehearsal. Live it righteously.
