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How much fightin is "normal" in a relationship??

(....especially when ur living together.....are you more prone to fightin then?)😕

I know we love each other....so then shouldnt livin together strengthen the trust and make us closer....:sadsmile
 
Hello Mandy! Although I have never lived with a "significant other" it seems to me that there would be some sort of "getting used to being around each other" adjustment time.

I don't think there's really a time table on that but if you guys have been living together a month already then the adjustments should have already started. This to me is something you and he will be going through for the rest of your relationship. People are always changing so you have to allow for those changes just as he will.

Good Luck! 😀
 
Alot of couples fight. 🙁

I feel there isnt any need for it. Sometimes you have your days. But open communication should settle things. I feel if you are so in love...nothing of a verbal fight should occur.

But thats just me. 🙂

~Antonio
 
Mandy... it all depends on a reason of why u two fight... if it's serious then what can u do, it's needed... but if some little thing like a misplaced object or forgotten phonecall then I guess it's because it's getting boring or something... people get irritated of the routine and they find every reason to piss another person off. Or maybe u two are way different in tastes and colors, u know.
But as far as it's not affecting u in any way, or as far as ur significant other not putting down any ground rules, ur alright.
In a way, fights allow u to get to know ur partner better. Next time u'll think twice about saying or doing something.

don't worry me and my bebe fight a lot, but yet we love each other endlessly.
 
Mandy,
Fighting is what makes a relationship grow and you learn from yuor fights remember you guys are young there would be alot more where that came from. no one and i mena has a brady bunch or 7th heaven kind of relationship... there are hardships and happiness... you will go through both... keep smiling
 
this whole month of living together has been drama. FIGHTING ALOT is definitely a bad sign i chose to ignore. he didnt have open communication with me....he didnt tell me he was thinkin about moving to new york to get a "clean slate" cuz he messed up so much in our town.
he got into a car accident, didnt pay the fine til the last minute....let his inspection sticker expire....but on top of that parks in a yellow tow away zone cuz he didnt want to walk far to go to the barber shop even though it was nice out.

His car got impounded, his license plate taken. our relationship got so shaky cuz we were stuck in the house. we went shoppin in the freezing cold. and when i was upset he got more upset instead of being understanding. now i called him cuz i know him so well that i knew he would oversleep for work AGAIN. i was right he did today. and he didnt even say thanks. didnt say thanks when i got up at 745am in the freezing rain to take him to work...i ask him to clean off the ice on the car...he said NO its cold...so i did it....he blames my mom for us not working out....i blame him
 
Its not good to fight ALL the time...but I think fighting (not fist fighting...just words) is normal for the most part! I think there is a line that can be crossed when it comes to fighting that just ain't healthy! But small things happen here & there...its normal.

Makin' up is the best part in my opinion! 😉
 
Mandy, no offense, and i do not want to tell you what to do.

This is my take, like the old saying goes you do not know someone till you live with them, and it sounds like you got a LOSER on your hands. Please do not take offense to this, you are asking for an opinion, and i am just expressing what i see you have. 🙂

Anyways, maybe you should seriously re-think this living together thing, if he is that not a resposible person.


GOOD LUCK!
 
HEY MANDY
I AM SORRY ALL THIS IS HAPPENING... I DON'T KNOW WHAT IS GOTTEN INTO HIM... I HOPE EVERYTHING GOES WELL.. AND TURN NO YOUR IMS AND TALK TO ME I AM HERE FOR YA
 
Something is lacking: COMMUNICATION & UNDERSTANDING and more importantly AGREEMENT.

~Antonio 🙂
 
Mandy......I'm sorry this is happening but let me tell u this, a relationship, especially the beginning of a live-in period takes time for adjustment. They are not as sweet as when dating...need to be patient, but a couple of thing, dont let him take advantage, share responsibilities, you both have become one...therefore need to be flexible, express what hurts you, when things are more calm..dont let it pass and let it go, do as you want done to you, he will see that you take things diffently....if he argues, dont bark in return, it can be done later when things are calm, prevent escalating of argument and you will see how things will be better later. Communication is very important, don't allow him to disrespect you, be firm and accertive and respect after all, he will learn to do the same. Don't rush into running out.. it's an adjustment period. Good Luck!!!

Joey I disagree.. its sad to see this happen, but to early to say this....

dam i hope i am clear..😉
 
HMMMM.... its possible, but her i am a guy lol i know. His true colors are showing, believe me. Well i do not want to wish it on the poor girl, i am sure she does not deserve this. But i still feel, that if she expresses her feelings to him, and he just does not want to talk about it, then Mandy kick his @SS out, before you get into more trouble. Believe me you will be saving yourself alout of future pain. Sometimes love is blind. Again, tell him whats the deal, and if he pays no attention to you, and or does not do anything to correct this, then you have two choices. 1) stay with him, and be misserable and hope things eventual change, 2) get ride of him, and concider it a lesson learned, and be more cautious in the future. Believe me i am a guy for one, and i am alot older then you i am sure.

Just trying to help

Joey
 
ok..Joey now u r right.....there is a time to say I've had it!!!😉 No need to stay in this nonsense if continued....yeah I think shes younger than us..there will be others who will treat her better!!!!
 
True that Betty! No one guy or girl deserves to be treated like that is not right! Mandy you tell him your piece and if he does nothing you got to tell him to go. It may hurt, but your better in the long run.
 
thanks so much for caring 😀 everything is goin better today. he called me up last night upset n missing me realizing i was gone...my clothes, my pillow, our pictures, everything except some dishes...n i guess it hit him that.....im what he wants...i thought he already knew that for sure!!?? he asked me to marry him on the phone!! hes sorry n knows he shouldve communicated to me his feelings. i dont know if these are his true colors that he could just leave like that or if hes just confused and overwhelmed with his life right now. he did get himself into a mess financially. im 22 n he will be 21 in late july. we are just learning. i moved back home.....

thanks rookie, njjoey, putana, enigma, n babyyboop for your help! :heee this was an adjusment period for me n him...i think we moved alittle too fast so were takin a step back for now. if its real love it can wait for a little longer. we have to learn not to get mad when the other one does....we do communicate good but we need to do it better n be more understanding too.

hes not a loser...he does have his probs, but doesnt everyone right...some people have to learn the hard way. i am payin my half of nexts months rent but not movin all the way back in. im taking it slow.....lol putana yeah.....we havent made up yet totally...he has alot of makin up to do thats for sure.

My JOD "CANT WE TRY"......well see what happens...hope its good!!!!
 
Fighting will happen at times.I know it shouldn't but we
sometimes have those days.Frequent fights is a problem.
Work it out before it gets worse.Try to come to a solution,
that is if you really care about each other.
Believe me Mandy take my advice.🙂
 
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