Doomed Relationships
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ChuckD
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I don't know Dianita. I'm not sure about it. Sorry.
Brklyn345
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Dianita, why don't you marry the guy? If the two of you really are that much in love it won't be like you are scamming the government...they'll see that he is good to your daughter too so immigration should give him citizenship....sometimes it's easier to work on one problem at a time, and i think your man's illegal status should be the first rung on the ladder...once you got that settled with, then you could prove that his son is better off with his father.
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I couldn't agree more. I know its a difficult situation. Matters of the heart are never easy but you have to think about you and your daughter. If it was meant to be it will, but if it wasn't, just remember that time heals all wounds and EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON.yburgos7 said:
Ok, like I mentioned we considered marriage, but he's afraid of the impression he'd leave if he decides not to come back. And getting through with immigration is not as easy as many people think. I went through the whole process with my daughter's father and it was a mess. My ex was sent back to El Salvador for six months for punishment for having entered illegally. We already had our daughter who was 2 and a half and were married for over three years. They could have restricted him from coming back for 10 years, but thanks to the wonderful job my lawyer did and numerous faxes I sent to the consulate in San Salvador and letters to my congressman and the first lady, as well as speaking at the Annual Immigration Forum which resulted in newspaper exposure he was approved "quickly." The average wait for an interview for a resident(green) card is at least 2 years when the sponsor is a spouse, even longer now since 9/11. When one official from the southwest was asked about my case he said something along the lines of "That's what she gets for marrying an illegal."
Things are even tougher now, so he may be sent away for months, possibly years, unless Immigration reinstates the 245i-which is a family unification act. After that, I told him if we were still together, if ever his son wanted to come, I'd do anything in my power to bring him here, but even more so as a mother who has lost a child and as someone who grew up without a mother, I could not take a child away from his mother without good reason.
Things are even tougher now, so he may be sent away for months, possibly years, unless Immigration reinstates the 245i-which is a family unification act. After that, I told him if we were still together, if ever his son wanted to come, I'd do anything in my power to bring him here, but even more so as a mother who has lost a child and as someone who grew up without a mother, I could not take a child away from his mother without good reason.
Chuck, can you expand on that??? I really value your opinion....ChuckD said:
nessa's302
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oh damn yahi....took the words right out my mouth!!!!!! **this is something I needed to hear too**yburgos7 said:
mzcrazybtch
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I saw a key phrase ..."we considered marriage, but he's afraid of the impression he'd leave if he decides not to come back"
With doubts like that, it's best that you leave it alone. For him to decide not to come back means there's no commitment for you.
Concentrate on your life with your daughter....sometimes people need the time to resolve their own issues before they find true happiness with someone else.
If it were meant that you two should be together he'd find a resolution to the problem and not leave you with doubts.
With doubts like that, it's best that you leave it alone. For him to decide not to come back means there's no commitment for you.
Concentrate on your life with your daughter....sometimes people need the time to resolve their own issues before they find true happiness with someone else.
If it were meant that you two should be together he'd find a resolution to the problem and not leave you with doubts.
Okay so she(his son's mother) called him this Sunday and wants him back. Until he decides to leave me and forget about me, she's refusing to pass his calls to their son. She won't even let the kid go over his abuela's(my man's mother) house, cause she might let the son call his dad. How screwed up is that? He's sending money, but isn't allowed to talk to his own child. He's heartbroken.