Does LENGTH matter?

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JackG

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Just wondering Does the Length of past relationships matter to you ..when deciding on going into a relationship with someone?

For example.. Let's say the person your thinking of getting serious with has had 15 relationships all lasting only months..
Do you think that person is able to go long term?

and vice versa.
 
what a name for a post, jack! <lol>

i think it does matter cuz it tells how much you can trust a person n stuff - like if you want to try to find luv - then u arent gonna want someone who has a dif man/girl every other week, ya know?
 
NO I DONT THINK LENGTH MATTERS AT ALL, YOU CANT BASE A PERSONS COMMITMENT LEVEL ON HOW LONG PAST RELATIONSHIPS HAVE LASTED. I BASE IT ALL ON THE PERSON AND HOW THEY HAVE COME AT ME, WHO THEY ARE NOT WHAT THERE LONGEST REALTIONSHIP WAS BUT THATS JUST ME LOL 😀
 
Jack!!!!

LMAOO!!! Am I the only one with a dirty mind?? LOLLL.

Anyway,

To answer your question -- yes and no. It matters cuz it gives you an idea of this person's dating habits. It can be an indicator of how they will act in your relationship. But at the same time, let's say they have always had short relationships -- what if they think you are the kewlest thing since sliced bread and they decide they want a long-term relationship from you. Or vice versa -- say they have always had long relationships, what if they think you're not for them -- they may end it short.

ALSO you have to know their current situation, let's take me for example -- (loll) I was in a 4 yr relationship, we broke up and when I was dating -- I wanted no part in another long term thing. So a guy couldn't go in thinking I would stay with him for a long time just because I was in a long term relationship before.

Generally, I'd say it shouldn't be a factor in determining whether or not you should start dating a person. Like Sexy said -- base it on the person and how they come at you. 😀
 
Y'KNOW??? SEXYANGEL IS 100% RIGHT!!!!!

IT ALL MATTERS ON THE INDIVIDUAL.

AND IF THE FLOW IS RIGHT; THEN FLOW WITH IT.

WHO KNOWS WHAT IT MAY BECOME......
 
I didn't cross over into the dirty thinking menality because I saw that it was Jack that started the thread. But I must admit I was curious to what it was he directed it to. I for one say no. This isn't no job for Christ's sake. Maybe the other person that they were with before was in a relationship for 5 years. Some people will put up with that person for 5 whether they be a b!tch or an @$$hole. But you can get with somebody that has only had a 6 month relationship & be the best person you've evr come across. ut honestly, I doubt Jack cares for our opinions. I think he really just wanted a reaction!!!
 
JACK,I THINK THAT IT MIGHT SHOW ONE OF TWO THINGS ONE THAT PERSON CANT HANDLE BEING IN A STEADY RELATIONSHIP OR ENVIORNMENT OR TWO THAT PERSON WINDS UP IN ALL BAD RELATIONSHIPS SUCH AS ABUSIVE LIKE WHEN A PERSON HAS BEEN ABUSED IN SOME FASHION THEY TEND TO LOOK FOR THAT IN PEOPLE CAUSE THAT IS WHAT THEY ARE USED TO OR FAMILIAR WITH SO IT COMFORTABLE FOR THEM AND THEY THINK ITS HEALTHY! OR IT COULD BE A ROUTINE SOME PEOPLE HAVE A CLOCK IN THEM THAT GOES OFF AT THE 3 MONTH PERIOD OR 3 YEAR PERIOD I THINK IT HAS SOMETHING TO DO WITH STABILITY IN SOME FORM I DONT KNOW FOR SURE I MEAN I HAD SHORT TERM RELATIONSHIPS BUT THAT DOESNT NECESSARILY MEAN I AM MENATALLY UNSTABLE (THEN AGAIN)😉
 
LOL

Of course it does...or doesn't ---> Oops, can't go there on this board!

Seriously, JackG, I think the answer is no -- just got to follow your heart and your instincts!
 
WURD UP THAT DOESNT MATTER CUZ YOU DONT KNOW IF THAT PERSON WAS JUST NOT SERIOUS AT THE MOMENT IT DEPENDS ON HOW IT WORKS OUT BETWEEN YOU PPL THEN THATS HOW LONG IT GOES AND OF COURSE ANOTHER THING IS MAYBE THAT PERSON IS NOT READY TO TIE THE NOTS AND BE CONSIDERED WIFEY OR HUBBY
 
THE LONGER YOUR IN A RELATIONSHIP, THE BETTER IT LOOKS.......TO SOMEONE OF THE OPPOSITE SEX THAT WANTS A LONG TERN THING ALSO.

SOMETIMES, IF YOU FIND A GIRL THAT JUST GOT OUT OF ONE, OR IS BASICALLY "A SLUT", IT WILL TURN THEM OFF SOMEWHAT BECAUSE THEY MAY THINK YOU ARE LOOKING FOR ANOTHER LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP AGAIN.

I scared off many of women by talking of long term relationships and......family and kids. but, if they leave, it's their loss. i had many of women try and come back into my life and i simply said "TOUGH SHIT....you'll never find another love like mine."
 
2 cents

I dated somebody who would go out with girls for a few weeks at a time. I should've known better knowing that he was too immature to know how to keep an adult relationship for more than just a few months. I think for a woman you have to look at the relationship the person has with his mom - if its good or bad is an indication of how he'll treat you. If you are a man - if she would rather go hang out in clubs & her girlfriends than you then you're pretty much doomed.
 
It is important to keep in mind the length of your boyfriend/girlriends past relationships when deciding how serious to be with the person. However, you shouldn't merely base the relationship on that one factor alone. If you truly have feelings for someone, then you shouldn't hold back because you do only live once and if it feels right with someone, then you need to stick with it. I guess you just need to take every relationship for what it is and enjoy it at that moment. Sometimes, things just don't pan out but at least you can be able to say that you had fun while it lasted. If you are an adult, you can accept that sometimes, certain relationships just won't work out. That is no reason to be sour grapes though..............whatever..
 
You're 100% right RI Sytle. Unfortunatley the person I was with ruined the relationship & our friendship with his immaturity and lies. If he had just given up on the relationship when it was truly over then we could've looked back and said wow that was great and it was fun knowing ya. But I guess you just live and learn 🙂 Thank God I have my friends & Family and I don't have to be a bitter biatche cuz I'm a happy person and I know one day I'll find the right guy to make me truly happy 🙂

Jack, just judge her for who she is and not by the 100 guys she's dated. She was a silly ho and now she wants ya! LOL
 
Well said Miss SDF. However, didn't you have the opportunity to end things when you knew they were going sour also? Why would the onus have to be on the guy? Wasn't the guy verrry open and up front, perhaps too much, back in like March all the way up until the end, discussing certain topics that he disliked about the relationship? Maybe he REALLY thought that things would work out but it took him about 4 months to realize that they wouldn't. Perhaps he TRULY wanted things to work out but in the end, he knew it wouldn't. Was he REALLY lying to you? Or do you just say that to make yourself feel better? Think about it, really think about it. When was there one lie told? Weren't certain topics related to Florida discussed all the way back in September of 2000? Miss SDF, I am positive that you will find someone for you very soon(if you haven't already). Maybe you don't look back on the relationship and say, "Wow, that was fun" at the present time. As the healing process goes on though, maybe you will be able to be a mature adult and say that it was. I'm sure that he already does.......whatever.....
 
ha ha

You are dumber than I thought. Go ahead and move to Florida and I hope you find a girl (or guy) that'll make ya very happy.
 
The way I see it is that if you have been in a relationship for years or whatever it doesn't mean that your mature and faithful.....Do you know how many couple stick together eventhough they cheat on eachother......So if your looking for stability and determining it on the lenght on the past relationships...don't be fooled!
 
Jack in Love@ClubFreestyle??? Wow!

Go for it, cuz you never know. Maybe you'll turn out to be the best guy she's ever been with, and it will become long term.

Just don't expect much or else you'll set yourself up for heartbreak. Go in it carefully and let her take the lead.
 
Wow, very interesting comments!
Thanks for taking the time to answer.

To sum it all up. Length may matter, but then again.. it may not.

Maybe our hearts will guide us in the right direction.
 
forget everything I said above

Well Club Freestyle peeps. I need to make some alterations to my previous posts. I guess it's too late to edit them but I need to get this all said right now so I will just post a new one. I have made some GIANT mistakes regarding my baby, my sweet love, my Maria. I have said things that don't necessarily ring true. I claimed that I had been right about everything. This is OBVIOUSLY not the case. I made very poor judgements regarding a range of things from my actions in Florida, to being immature and, non understanding, and making rash decisions that are the wrong ones based on current emotions. Maria, I am truly sorry for bringing us down like this for so long. I hope and pray that this is a new beginning for us and that we can overcome these problems that have been created by myself. Maria, I Love You and I want to be with your for the rest of my life. I Love the person that you are and I can't bear to think about life without you. Please let's move onward with our relationship and get back to those days when we were so happy in each others arms. I Love You baby and I take FULL RESPONSIBILITY for our collapse and I will take FULL RESPONSIBILITY to make sure that we get back to where we belong, as one, Brian and Maria.....Te Quiero baby.....Bri
 
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