Do you wanna know? What couldn't you forgive?

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While we're all entitled to our privacy, is there anything in your partner's past that you feel you have the right to know? Or what about just wanna know? And is there anything in that person's past you just wouldn't be able to forgive?

One of my main ones is if he's always used protection and if he got tested. I'd want to know things that currently affect our relationship (Like the "Oh yeah, I got married 5 years ago and still am") I'd WANT to know as much as he'd wanna tell me cause I'm as chismosa as hell and if he wants me to tell him things, he gotta fess up too!
I just couldn't forgive if he's abused any children or anything done with pure malicious intent. I guess there are other things, but this has me thinking...
 
the 'fessing up part is true. if i tell him about my past/life, he'll have to do the same. one thing that i can't forgive is my ex going straight back to his ex girl RIGHT after we broke up.

only thing i wanna know about my partner is if he has done anything like this in his past relationships..
 
Whatever concerns our relationship now or could I DESERVE TO KNOW and I'd settle for nothing less. (like if he's been diagnosed with something - let alone HIV or something)....

You see, I'm pretty much an open book with my friends or in my relationship, I feel like this.... I'm a grown woman with nothing to hide and I'm not about to waste my time with someone who is hiding something.
 
Well if its the past then there is nothing to forgive. Either you accept it or move on. Only thing that I would want to know about is any diseases that might have been expose to.
 
I could careless if she had many or few men/women. But if she was with a woman, and thinks being with me, and with a woman once in a while because she got an itch is OK then she's out the door. I don't care if she has in the past but once with me cheating is cheating no matter what sex you do it with.

If she choses to give me info, doesn't mean I'm going to give it up. You know what I mean, she'll say I told you know you have to tell me. I'm very opened minded and an open book, but don't push me into anything. Don't give me ultimatums. I will do a 180 on you.
 
Well I gotta say that the past is exactly that, however, having said that, I gotta say that sometimes things from the past become a part of "your" relationship and for the rest of your lives....for instance.. prior children, prior ex's, prior bills..these are things that should always be considered when entering any relationship.
 
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The past can be baggage, and affect the current relationship.

However, the past is like your ass, it's behind you. If they are minor things, then they shouldn't be mentioned.
 
Exactly, Chuck, if they are major issues that's going to affect the current relationship, I think it's best to be honest. I'm not really that bad with the little things, if he wants to tell me something he will. I guess I'm just more of an open person.
 
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