Case of the Ex...

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Like I said, if she was doing the same thing to me then she obviously hasnt said anything 2 me about it, so why should I say anything to her...Besides I dont want to break up with her...I may sound selfish, but I want to keep her around, what we have is a good thing that goes deeper than just sex...I just want a one night stand with my ex...Iz that a crime?? Like I said, I'm not married yet and when I am married Ima stay faithful because then I have officially made the commitment to spend the rest of my life with that person and that person only...
 
ok, yet let's say she's being completely true to you.....how could you then sleep next to her at night knowing that you done messed up? How could you sit there and look her in the eye and say I LOVE YOU when you have shared what is supposed to be an intimate act with someone else......you need to remember that she's YOUR EX for a reason.


no fling is worth ruining a good thing....and if your relationship is not working out then let her go. saves heartache in the end.
 
So if you decide to marry your girl, are you going to tell her about the one night stand? Because I always thought if you're going to marry someone it should be about complete trust and honesty...so will you tell her later? If so then why not tell her now? Don't run with that whole "what she don't know" thing cuz let me tell you karma is a biatch! If you break her heart someone is going to come into your life and break yours 10 times worse. Best bet is just to let her go so you can have your freedom to hit it without the guilt.
Goodness why are people so greedy?
 
Ghost said:
Well...I had a little situation where I am involved with someone that I really care about and an ex from my past started writing to me. Old feelingz came with her letter, and it confused me for a while, but I read all the advice from some ppls here at CF in a previous thread I posted and some of the advice was very well written and greatly appreciated, but I have come to a decision.
:idea I have an idea...I am going to bone the s*it out of my ex-girlfriend. Please dont be mad at me ladies...it aint no disrespect to any of you...in fact if you were in my situation I'd encourage you to do the same. I took the advice from a married woman who is a good friend of mind, and she iz absolutly right, I am only 20 yrs old, and I am not married yet so I might as well just get it all outta my system now cause when I am married I will regret passing up my youth...so the decision is made. When my ex comes back to Massachusetts next month she is going to get a greeting that she will never 4get!! :biggrin
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You got it all wrong and so does your (married friend) really mature!!!! you say you have something deep with this girl and that you would like to keep her around because you love her. well what do you think is going to happen if she were to accidently find out. now i'm not gonna tell you what decison to make because that's obviously your own. but it doesn't hurt for someone to help the situation. now yeah your only 20 but that means you are an adult now and you should think and act like one. that is going to be a very evil thing that you are going to attempt. temptaion is a mutha ****er and so is the devil. playing his little games and pointing out your weaknesses and laughing in your face testing you licking his lips at your sin. rubbing his hands just waiting for that moment of guilty sinful pleasure. that's fine if you wanna hurt her i know i ain't hurting someone i love. But um nice friend you have if that's gonna ruin something very special in your life. sounds like she's unhappy deep down inside. but whatever it's up to you at the end. just make sure it's worth it at the end. peace. think W.W.J.D.
 
where do i start ? ur just greedy. u want ur cake and eat it too. u actually think that ur lady wont find out ? u lost mad respect from me right now. u talk all this shit about caring about ur girl, but ur capable of doing this to her? No sex is worth ruining a good relationship. but then again we all diff. i told u from the get go... do what ur heart tells you.. if you unhappy with her... then let the relationship go. remember karma is a bitch hun. and what goes around comes around... plain and simple...
 
Nah, I cut my ex off, we dont communicate anymore, me and my girl are taking a break right now cause she cant give me the attention that I need with her being in the situation that she's in. Ive been up late night thinking about this and I realized that its better 4 me to be by myself...I just dont think that I can handle a relationship right now either, I mean I got enough to worry about with my son...I just aint got the heart to go through with it anyway. Ur right, I would have to leave her cause I wouldnt be able to go through with that guilt...Im sorry...Im only human and temptation iz a mutha ****a, but I didnt go through with it..I made the right decision. I wouldnt want my son doing anything like that to his woman. I gotta be a romodel 4 him...
 
It seems to me you're overlooking something, your EX is an ex for a reason.
Second of all, do you think hittin' a shorty off ONCE is worth risking a relationship over.....come on now put it on a balance !!
Also, you need to think about how you'd feel if it was you in your girl's shoes, I'm sure you would'nt like it done to you....todo lo que va, viene !
 
Okay, just keep something else in mind. When you got kids, things have to be done different. Okay, I get you that you're not married, but you say that you're only 20 and need to be sowing your wild oats. From what I've read in another thread I believe, you have a kid, she has 2, right? And she treats yours like one of her own? I'm not saying that you can't be out dating or whatever, but keep the kids in mind. They form attachments real easy and they are the ones that suffer when things don't work out. Once you have kids, your life is never again completely yours. If your gonna have someone as a girlfriend in front of your kid, do it more for the long haul...otherwise if your child needs to meet them, just refer to your flings as your "friends".
 
I agree..I guess not
JohnFly5 said:
So I guess actual "feelings" and "emotions" are not really part of this equation than huh???
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Ghost said:
You all are right and I understand that what goes around does come around and 4 that reason I have decided 2 cut them both out of my life...our relationship was getting a little raggedy anyway...
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Good for you i'm glad you made a wise decision.... HHHHOOORRRRAAAYYYY... for you. and all that is a part of growing up.... looking beyond petty things... good luck with you....
 
Itala said:
I agree..I guess not
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Thanx adriana as 4 u, u dont kno me to cast any judgement...I do have feelings for the girl I was with, but our relationship was going nowhere and a part of me didnt want to leave her...But I dont have to explain myself to any of you, Im a grown ass man, I chose to cut them both off to get my mind right...so if I do want to mess wit anybody, I wont have nothing hanging over my head.
 
Ghost said:
Thanx adriana as 4 u, u dont kno me to cast any judgement...I do have feelings for the girl I was with, but our relationship was going nowhere and a part of me didnt want to leave her...But I dont have to explain myself to any of you, Im a grown ass man, I chose to cut them both off to get my mind right...so if I do want to mess wit anybody, I wont have nothing hanging over my head.
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Trust me i ain't judging you i judge no one.... but if you say you don't need to here what we all writting back to you have to say then i suggest that you don't ask us our opinion (MR< GROWN ASS MAN).... just telling it like it is.... no disrespect or anything but that's how your making us all look like we are butting in to your life. when really you wanted (OUR) suggestions...
Peace..
 
I respect your decision. It's something you can be proud of when your son grows up and shows you what you taught him.
 
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