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melissa figueroa said:
Ok I was wondering if I can get some feedback..

I met this guy two years ago.We have so much in common from our goals to our dreams...When we talk I get this feeling like damn he really listens to me.Its like high school.I never get that way either usually Im the one playing hard to get but with him its like I get weak lol...The thing is hes 37 hes 13 yrs older than me..I feel like age is nothing if you feel someone age shouldnt matter.My family is saying that I shouldnt go further with him becuase hes to old for me so they say...I seen alot of relationships that last long with age differences ..My best friend was just telling me to think about it and that she dont think I should even go further and that has me like wondering..Im still going to pursue him lol that sound funny to me lol like i said i never go after the guy its always the other way around pero with him its like I dont want to let him slip away...Its so hard because no on eis for us .pero ill cross my fingers and hope all turns out well..Im just wondering what some of yall think
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I say... Do what your heart feels is right.. what your soul aches for... what your eyes seek... Thats what I say...
But just to help support the positive in this (Cuz I see lots of positive in your description here) You must realize something.. Women mature much faster than men do.. So.. by saying that, in all likelihood your man of 37 probably has the maturity level (and this is NOT a bad thing) of a 30 year old.. Which you being what... 25??? Your maturity level is probably up there at 30 as well.. So... you guys are basically the same age.... Thats just my two cents... but good luck and GodSpeed... 🙂 I think its wonderful...
 
who you calling limo guy

im a displaced computer help desk professional

llloll.


anyway now for my advice. look back in the daay all the guys who went after younger girls. is becuase they could nt hook up with any girls there age. also alot of older men chase younger women. cuase younger women dont chllange them the way an older woman would.

also and older guy dosnt wanna deal with adultness of a woman his age. when your 35. plus or minus 5 years.

and you go out with somebody whos 30 plus or minus 5 years.

you gotta cut through. and i mean cut boy lllloll

all the things that happ to that chick or that person for 15 years. all her break up drama drama all her thoughts opinions get passed her phsychology. get passed all the times shes been f****ed over by men. get passed all the time shes been fired llloll.

all the times shes had problem at work.

Men know this. they dont wanna deal with all this crap.

So they some times go fishing for a minor leaguer lllllollll.

somebody who hasnt got beat up by the world. Yet llloll !!


and they dont have to deal with their emotional professional and phsychological baggage.

which could be quite big by 35 llloll or even by 30.

so men know this so the go looking for a rookie. lllllolll

some one easierrrrrrrrrrrrr

some one less banged up. meaning banged up in life.

someone who is not as phsychologically complicated yet. some one who hasnt been banged up by men yet.


etc etc,.

so thats what you gotta look for. cuase it sounds to me like seomthing like that.

sound slike a guy looking for a free life pass with a chick.

cuase melissa

im not saying your not phsychologically complicated.

but you think your as phsychologically complicated as 35 yr old chick. whos had one or 2 divorces.

maybe been canned a few time already.

maybe had 3 ot 6 drama sceenes. maybe has alamony etc,.

maybe has a mortage etc,.,llloll,.

so you know you may be more simple for him?

gotta look out for that.


thats all

it s called settleing. make sure hes not settling ???

thats all.


i for one never hit the minors. i have always gone out with people my age or older llloll.

Never once have i hit the minors. llloll. I say bring it on lloll.

hahhahahahah
 
Well as far as him thinking its easy actually im the one going after him..We just vibed..hes a very good looking guy and he can have who ever he wants ..Its just we got along and we share alot of the same desire in life were both very deep people..I think I been through shit some woman couldnt even bare but I dont dwell or feel sorry for myself I think that me being through alot and still commin out strong is a turn on to him .,im not an easy catch either.I dont just let anyone in,You have to have a certain qualitys for me to even consider someone,.He s a well known dj and he is surrounded by woman every night who want to get in his pants.Hes never even talked bad about an ex that is how respectful he is..He doesnt go around praying on young woman hes not that way..We been friends for a long time and when I am around him I get this feeling I never felt before .Hes always there for me and MY SON he doenst have too but he does because he loves me and my son .He doesnt have kids of his own so him even accepting a child who is not his and treating him with so much love and respect not every man is willing to deal with .I made sure that I watched how he treated my son and I fell in love with him even more,..Its not an act or game.Your view is alot like my familys and now I see why...I think they are a bit ignorant and think of the sick shit more than what its really about ..Not that I dont respect your opinion because everyone is different...Just like him I have my ex we get along great he does for my son as well so its not a situation where im looking for a father figure for my son because my son has one already in his life.But I will just go for it and make the best of it because it seems as if hes the one for me..Thanks for the feedback I appreciate it
 
rbonuc....that all sounds like "a crock of shit" as if every person in the world (no matter what age) doesn't have problems in their lives!!

"BACK IN THE DAYS"????? sound like an "old fogie" talking...those are words our grandparents use to try to deter us from doing anything from with our lives because they're "STUCK IN A TIME WARP" and feel that those were "THE DAYS" (but I guess that what makes you who you are)

times have changed and people have the freedom to make their own decisions and not be married off to the person their parents choose. .....so Melissa

as the friend that you are to me I'll say "GO FOR IT" you deserve happiness.
 
well bypassing crazies impulsive reply.

when an older guy goes fishing in the minors. ask yourself why. its not a crock of shit. actually i dont really care one way or the other other. cuase i know what i know? lloll. and im not trying in fact the last thing i want is for anybody to do what i tell them. cuase reality people just say this? i really mean it? could care less what you do. lloll.

i just like to opinionate on things that stir my curiosity or that remind me of things or events i have sceene?. or that i think theres a better way. but in the end if you get married to a dolphin llllolll thats your life?

but my only point is and that coming from a person who has experience on this dateing back to ohh 1980 or so.

every time. ive sceen an older guy go for a younger girl. ask yourself why. thats all.

theres prob more there.

than love llloll.

and i gotta tell ya. this is an opinion in general. when ever i come here or 50 percent of the time i do. you guys are always complaining about some sort of problem in your lives.

and thats becuase you people judge things which to much emotion and impulse. and to little logic?

if you guys dont get a grip on them youll be making mistakes clear into your 40's.

anyway when ever an older guy goes fishing in the minors. ask yourself why as much as possible.

dig you might find something. usually theres something wrong with him. that he cant handle

pitching in his league?

now if you find nothing. after asking and asking. no dysfunctions at all?

than sure maybe its solid and go for it.

but i bet if you dig youll find something?

37 and 24 thats 12 years. theres must be something. with this dood?

if not hey. green light go for it llloll.
 
aye bendito!! and so he tries to clean it up just a tad. the world if full of dysfunction.
NOBODY (i mean) NOBODY IN LIFE IS PERFECT. Real true love is UNCONDITIONAL and accepting a person for who they are. Why should we be so analytical about the person that we're with (or for those that are single -"trying to be with)???

I've learned when as I was heading into my 30's (now 32) that I don't have time to be wasting on analyzing someone or "digging" into motives or things that they've done that are insignificant to my life and future. If a person is true to his/her heart it'll show........only time will tell of things to be. To spend time analyzing and digging is to allow opportunities to pass you by yet some will never learn (or ever know)
 
i don't think it age matters one bit wasn't there a thread like this before but a guy started it all depends on the maturity of the 2 people involved you can be 15 and act like a grown woman and a grown woman and act like a 15 yr old if the age diffrence does not bother u at all mama then it's all good do what feels right to you and makes u comfortable i'm not saying to turn u back on ur family & friends cause i'm sure they only want whats best for you BUT WHAT DO YOU WANT u can't live your life for them cause then you're going to be stuck with alot of WHAT IF and those what if's are a bitch too lol in my personal opinion u already got ur mind set on u don't want to let him slip by give it a try if it feels right to you YOU won't know what can happen if you don't just keep it at a pace you feel comfortable with
 
You have to do what makes you happy. If you live your life by listening to your folks, then you maybe missing out on alot of things in your life. Life is full of chances. Sometimes you have to take a risk in order to reap the bigger reward. Stick with it and see what happens. You have nothing to lose and you have us to back you up 100%.
melissa figueroa said:
Ok I was wondering if I can get some feedback..

I met this guy two years ago.We have so much in common from our goals to our dreams...When we talk I get this feeling like damn he really listens to me.Its like high school.I never get that way either usually Im the one playing hard to get but with him its like I get weak lol...The thing is hes 37 hes 13 yrs older than me..I feel like age is nothing if you feel someone age shouldnt matter.My family is saying that I shouldnt go further with him becuase hes to old for me so they say...I seen alot of relationships that last long with age differences ..My best friend was just telling me to think about it and that she dont think I should even go further and that has me like wondering..Im still going to pursue him lol that sound funny to me lol like i said i never go after the guy its always the other way around pero with him its like I dont want to let him slip away...Its so hard because no on eis for us .pero ill cross my fingers and hope all turns out well..Im just wondering what some of yall think
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Thanks papa .,,I decided to leave the situation be..My brother been harrasing him and giving him stare down mean muggin looks and I dont want to cause him any problems.I start school full time anyway so I basically wouldnt even have time for him like he deserves .The time I will have would most deff go to my son.I do care about the guy pero I wont dare put him in a situation where I feel hes in harms way ...im telling you im a grown as 25 yr old mother of an 8 yr old boy whos brother still be acting like he know whats best for me,..He swears the guy is a playa and that he thinks im to good for him wich he dont know shiat.I know its the age difference though on why hes trippen..so he said well everytime I see that nigga he going to let him know to stay away and I know he means it so im just better off leaving him alone ..Sorry for the vent
 
melisaa more you talk about this the more i wanna know about it llloll. hahaha. your the fall in love type easy huh. no im only kidding lloll.

no wonder guys goes for 20 yr old girls talk about candy store.

i dont know what to tell you melissa. just go back to school get a degree. make a lot of money. and screw this guy. lllloll.

worry about putting food on the table first. belive me when your my age. youll trade any role in the hey. to have been rich or well off.

focus on school and classes. and on the yankess where 4 1/2 games back now big trouble lloll.

the only adice i give people who are 10 yrs younger than me. is focus on money money money.

the rest takes care of itself?
 
Damm,miss

Damm, Lady. I Dont Know About What You Wrote But I Seen Your Picture And You Look Good As Hell, You Should Be Dateing Someone Only 4 Yrs. Older Than You . LoL. You Should Date Someone In The Army, Someone Thats From Philly, Someone That Listens To The Oldschool Freestyle And Reggaeton And Hip Hop. He Probley Listens To Oldies. You Should Date Someone That That can Still Pick You Up IN 10 Yrs. From No. I Dont Care How Much You Have In Common With The Guy, Forget Him. You Should Date Me And you Dont Know A Damm Thing About Me, Yeahhhhhhhhhhhh Baaabbbbbbbbyyyyyyyyyyy.
 
i dont think the age gap should matter. this girl i know is 51 and dating a 33 year old dude. they seem verry happy so im kinda happy for them.
i mean if get that feeling that wow something is special here then go for it.
age isnt all about physical appearance. its also mental. if you to relate well mentaly and in your hearts then i dont see anything wrong with it
 
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YEAH YEAH, SO WHAT ABOUT AGE, IM JUST TRYING TO GET WIT THE CHICK WHO WROTE THE THREAD. I REALLY DONT THINK AGE MATTERS EITHER. IF YOU ARE FEELING THE OTHER PERSON AND THEY ARE FEELING YOU THEN GO FOR IT. UNLESS THE OTHER PERSON IS UNDER 18 YRS OLD AND YOU ARE OVER 21. THAN YOU ARE A PERVERT BY LAW. ANYWAY, I USED TO DATE A WOMAN THAT WAS 40 YRS OLD AND SHE HAS THE BODY OF A LUKE DANCER. SHES SO HOT, GRANTED SHE HAS HAD SOME SURGERY (PLASTIC) BUT DAMM! THE LAST TIME I HIT THAT WAS WHEN I WAS HOME ON R AND R FROM IRAQ AND SHE PICKED ME UP AT THE AIRPORT AND WITHEN 30 MINS OF GETTING OFF THE PLANE I WAS ALL UP IN HER GUTS. AND SHE'S A NASTY LITTLE THING. THE ONLY PROBLEM I HAVE WITH HER IS SHE ALWAYS TALKS SHIT ABOUT HOW YOUNG I AM AND THAT SHE WANTS SOMEONE MORE HER AGE BUT I REALLY DONT HAVE A PROBLEM WITH IT BEING JUST A SEX THING.LOL BUT ON THE REAL IF I WAS EVEN 7 YRS OLDER I WOULD TRYING TO BE MARRYING HER.









ga5speed02 said:
i dont think the age gap should matter. this girl i know is 51 and dating a 33 year old dude. they seem verry happy so im kinda happy for them.
i mean if get that feeling that wow something is special here then go for it.
age isnt all about physical appearance. its also mental. if you to relate well mentaly and in your hearts then i dont see anything wrong with it
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Melissa, never leave nothing as "what if", just dont let your feeling get stronger, cause if he is making you go gaga already....you're feeling him.......you are an experienced lady, if you want to go for it, go for it, forget your brother. Im sure he would defend what he wants.

I know you are going to school, great, your son, needs mami, time for family and your mate.......but now the question is.....you sure know that a job, as a Dj, he will have alot of opportunities, will you be able to handle that. Do you have time for that? You dont need more pain, you need to hold back a bit now and explore and enjoy life. Only you know what you want.

Age is not the problem, I for one dated a man 10 years older than me, were not together today cause we were not compatable....but I dont regret it one bit, it was a wonderful experirence, and I learned a whole lot, and I was the one who went for him, cause he was not even looking my way. But I did not let it be an "if"

Good Luck Mama
 
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