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Hello all...

I am no Dr. Phil or anything like that, but I did come across something that might help me and others in the future.

I found an old journal that I use to keep and it happen to start just before I met my then boyfriend.

***let me just fill you in... I met this wonderful man, fell in love with him... pushed back our wedding until after we had our first child, things started to fall apart,... I got pregnant with our second child, I moved out when I was about 2 months pregnant and we've been apart since.

Anyway...

I looked through this journal I use to keep and OMG, I cried all the time or I was sad allot in that journal. What the f*ck was I thinking?

Did I honestly think since it started pretty rocky (the first couple of months were beautiful)... that it would have gotten better????

So, my advise to all is to keep a journal. Look back at it after a month or two of entries and if you cried or if you felt sad during that time, kick them to the curb. Love is many things, but love doesn't hurt. (aching to be with someone is not the hurt I am talking about).

I can not believe I allowed myself to be treated so badly. Don't get me wrong... my ex is a great father and he is a great person, but he is noooooo husband material. AND I KNEW THAT WHEN I MET HIM, BUT I THOUGHT I COULD CHANGE HIM. :confused

Signing off...

Dr. Gina :lol
 
Many in the beginning unware on how things are gonna become. You so in love...you don't fully anaylze the person well...until everything falls apart. So much stuff in the beginning could have been avoid. Sometimes we lie to ourselfs. 🙁

-antonio
 
4eVerFreeStyle said:
Hello all...

I am no Dr. Phil or anything like that, but I did come across something that might help me and others in the future.

I found an old journal that I use to keep and it happen to start just before I met my then boyfriend.

***let me just fill you in... I met this wonderful man, fell in love with him... pushed back our wedding until after we had our first child, things started to fall apart,... I got pregnant with our second child, I moved out when I was about 2 months pregnant and we've been apart since.

Anyway...

I looked through this journal I use to keep and OMG, I cried all the time or I was sad allot in that journal. What the f*ck was I thinking?

Did I honestly think since it started pretty rocky (the first couple of months were beautiful)... that it would have gotten better????

So, my advise to all is to keep a journal. Look back at it after a month or two of entries and if you cried or if you felt sad during that time, kick them to the curb. Love is many things, but love doesn't hurt. (aching to be with someone is not the hurt I am talking about).

I can not believe I allowed myself to be treated so badly. Don't get me wrong... my ex is a great father and he is a great person, but he is noooooo husband material. AND I KNEW THAT WHEN I MET HIM, BUT I THOUGHT I COULD CHANGE HIM. :confused

Signing off...

Dr. Gina :lol
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Gina, Lemme find out you was watchin "Waiting to Exhale".😀
 
I'VE BEEN KEEPING JOURNALS SINCE I WAS 15...(DON'T KNOW WHERE THOSE ENDED UP) ANYWAY I HAVE ONE THAT I'VE BEEN KEEPING FOR THE PAST 7 YRS AND YES THERE'S STUFF IN THERE THAT IS PAINFUL AND ALSO STUFF IN THERE THAT IS GOOD......THE OTHER THING I'VE REALIZED IS WHENEVER A RELATIONSHIP ENDS WE FOCUS ALOT ON ALL THE PAIN THAT WAS CAUSED...I'M SURE U HAVE HAPPY MEMORIES AS WELL AND IF NOT YOU SHOULD'VE DOCUMENTED THEM.
 
HEY GUYS,ITS LIKE I SAID IN ANOTHER THREAD.....WHEN ITS GOOD,ITS GREAT.WHEN ITS BAD,IT HURTS!!🙁
A JOURNAL IS A GOOD IDEA,BUT I AGREE WITH "CRAZY",THATS FOCUSIN AN ALL THE BAD!!
 
A journal does not mean you focus on the bad. I've been keeping a journal since I was about 11. Granted one of the main reasons was because I was going through some particulary bad times growing up, but one thing I've noticed when it came to relationships was that yes I did have those bad times, but there were also plenty of good times as well. I know people are different, and sometimes people only write when they are upset or hurt, while others write whether they are happy, sad...etc etc. So bascially just because you write in a journal does not mean your focusing on the negativity. In fact, I think it's good release.
 
JUST NOTICED I SAID IT WRONG..JOURNALS DONT MAKE YOU REMEMBER ONLY BAD,I MENT WHEN IT ENDS SEEMS YOU CAN ONLY REMEMBER THE BADTHINGS.
DIDNT COME OUT RIGHT WHEN I WROTE IT THE FIRST TIME!!
 
Even if you don't write about though, breakups are tough, and at that point, it seems sometimes the only things you can think about are the bad. Also, didn't mean to sound as if I was attacking you or anything, if it came out that way, I apologize.
 
DreamGirl said:
Even if you don't write about though, breakups are tough, and at that point, it seems sometimes the only things you can think about are the bad. Also, didn't mean to sound as if I was attacking you or anything, if it came out that way, I apologize.
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na girl,didnt sound like that i just realized what i had wrote after!!no apologie needed!!😀 lol!!
 
Smooth... Got it on DVD!!! :lol

Seriously though... thank you all for writing...

I do have allot of good times in that journal, the birth of my first son for instance.. but, I wasted 2 years of my life for what???

Yeah, maybe there was some good times in between the bad, but in the end... it was bad. When you loose yourself in a relationship, it's time to go and when I read that journal, I realized I allowed him to treat me bad so, in other words, I became this broken woman... something I AM NOT.

Never loose yourself.

Much Love,
Gina
 
I'M GLAD SHE CLEANED IT UP BECAUSE IT'S NOT WHAT I MEANT....IN A JOURNAL YOU DOCUMENT ALL ASPECTS OF YOUR LIFE, RELATIONSHIPS, FRIENDSHIPS, BIRTHS, DEATHS ECT.....I'M WAS SAYING HOW SAD IT IS AND I GUESS IT'S NATURAL FOR US TO DWELL ON THE PAINFUL MEMORIES WHEN SOMETHING GOES WRONG AND FORGET ALL THE GOOD STUFF...AND THAT'S WHY A JOURNAL WOULD BE A REMINDER OF IT ALL...GOOD AND BAD.
 
I TRY TO WRITE EVERYDAY AND IF NOT THAN I SUMMARIZE TO CATCH UP...I KEEP ONE FOR MY DAUGHTER TOO.
 
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