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This morning as I was on my way to get a sonogram I was listening to one of the radio stations in New York called Hot 97 FM. Well I thought what they were talking about was something to talk about. on the morning show with Dj Envy,Miss Info and Joe Buddens hes a rapper (for those who did not know that). Well unfortunatly I do not know how this conversation was started I did not catch it from the begining but anyway they were talking about if its okay to put your hands on a woman after shes had your child? They had people calling up and stating how they felt, Joe Buddens the rapper I believe said that he has hit a woman before for whatever she did and so did Dj Envy, they were actually telling the ones that hit their girlfriends that it was okay and giving them praise for hitting them as the men were talking you heard the sound effects of slapping in the back round. On guy called and said his name and Miss Info said he was aka Ike (Ike Turner LOL) I thought that was so funny she was getting mad that so many men could even think about hitting a woman. Well she told him that the reason he probably hits his girl is because he is upset with woman emotionally and that he is really GAY <<<<< lmao. She was really and told Joe Buddens and Dj Envy that she was hit before and its not something to laugh about. They asked her what she did and she was not willing to tell they just asked her if she has ever cheated and said no but then one of the guys said well your mouth will get you in to alot of trouble. By this time she was really upset and made a wonderful point I believe, she said AND I QOUTE "Do you think it is right to hit a woman? Just because I am stronger than you verbally and you can not challenge me in a verbal argument you have to get a me physically because you know that is the only way you can win.

Well here are my Questions
1) Has any woman ever gotten hit? What was it for?
Men: Have you ever done the hitting? Why?
2) Does any one think that it is okay once some one has their child does that give them the right to put their hands on you?
3) Woman: Have you ever done the hitting? Why?

I do not mean to offend anyone. I am sorry if I did. I know to many this is something that gets them mad. I do not mean to make this a big controversal thing. Please no one judge anyone. This is a very sentimental issue to many so please respect what others say
Thankyou
 
It's wrong to hit anyone!! Period!!! It dont matter if it's the man or the woman hitting. It's not healthy and it also a sign of other problems with both people in the relationship. Remember, if they hit you once, they'll do it again.
Domestic Violence
The actual or threatened physical, sexual, and psychological or economic abuse of an individual by someone with whom they have or have had an intimate relationship.
Prevalence
The following prevalence statistics have been collected from numerous individual studies; they provide an indication of the range of estimates of domestic violence or battering instances. However, it is generally believed that domestic violence is seriously under reported and undiagnosed. The insufficiency of accurate incident information underscores the problem.

Within the last year, 7% of American women (3.9 million) who are married or living with someone as a couple were physically abused, and 37% (20.7 million) were verbally or emotionally abused by their spouse or partner.

In the U.S. every 7.4 seconds a woman is beaten by her husband.

**The U.S. Department of Justice estimates that 95% of assaults on spouses or ex-spouses are committed by men against women.

Domestic violence is repetitive in nature: about 1 in 5 women victimized by their spouse or ex-spouse reported that they had been a victim of a series of at least 3 assaults in the last 6 months.

A 1993 national poll found that more people (34% of men and women) have directly witnessed an incidence of domestic violence, than muggings and robberiers combined(19%). And 14% of American women acknowledge having been violently abused by a husband or boyfriend.
Injuries and Fatalities
One study showed that 30% of women presenting with injuries in an Emergency Department were identified as having injuries caused by battering.

Pregnancy is a risk factor for battering. Several studies indicate a range of incidence from 8% t 15% of pregnant women in public and private clinics to 17% to as much as 24% to 26%.

The level of injury resulting from domestic violence is severe: of 218 women presenting at a metropolitan emergency department with injuries due to domestic violence, 28% required admission to hospital for injuries, and 13% required major medical treatment. Also 40% had previously required medical care for abuse. 30% of women murdered in the U.S. in 1992 were murdered by a husband or boyfriend.

Cost: A study conducted at Rush Medical Center in Chicago found that the average charge for medical services provided to abused women, children and older people was $1,633 per person per year. This would amount to a national annual cost of $857.3 million.

Identification: Close to half of all incidents of domestic violence against women discovered in the National Crime Survey (48%) were not reported to police.

92% of women who were physically abused by their partners did not discuss these incidents with their physicians; 57% did not discuss the incidents with anyone.

In 40% of cases in one study in which physicians treated battered women in an emergency department setting, staff did not discuss the abuse with the patients.

In one study of 476 consecutive women seen by a family practice clinic in the midwest, 394 (82.7%) agreed to be surveyed. Of these patients, 22.7% had been physically assaulted by their partners within the last year, and the lifetime rate of physical abuse was 38.8%. However, only six women said they had ever been asked about domestic violence by their physician.

In a study of a major metropolitan emergency department that had a protocol for domestic violence, the emergency department physician failed to obtain a psychosocial history, ask about abuse or address the woman's safety in 92% of the domestic violence cases.

A recent national study of the 143 accredited U.S. and Canadian medical schools revealed that 53% of the schools do not require medical students to receive instruction about domestic violence.

Policy Recommendations: A national public health objective for the year 2000 is for at least 90% of hospital emergency departments to have protocols for routinely identifying, treating, and referring victims of sexual assault and spouse abuse.

The Joint Commission for the Accreditation of Hospitals and Healthcare Organizations (JCAHO) requires that accredited emergency departments have policies and procedures, and a plan for educating staff on the treatment of battered adults.

 
Wow Tank that's alot. Damn. But it's true.

Myself I had hit a woman once in the face. Now before you all get on me I have a reason. Yeah, yeah I know there's never a good reason. But just hear me out. I have no problem on taking it.

No man or woman should hit eachother. Unless you're playing around etc. And even then not the face.

If I had ever disrespect a woman, then I deserve the slap. And what I mean disrespect is by trying to get some, touch her on her privates, etc. I would take that slap. But I wouldn't disrespect. I've been told I'm too nice.

The reason why my ex was slapped. My mother never slapped me in the face. The face to me is something that should be respected. Once the face is touched respect is lost. Especially when it is done because of an argument. Many women love to slap the face out of anger during an argument. There's no reason what so ever to touch the face. Even if you cheated. (that wasn't the reason for me). She knew this. I told her about it. No matter what there shouldn't be any hitting during an argument. Especially the face. My mother never did it, and I'm surely not going to let any woman do it. Except of my reason I said prior. And in the middle of a crowded train she slapped my face. Just as fast she did she was slapped right back. This was the only time I hit a woman. And that was a long time ago.

Ok, now I'm ready for the barbardment of booos, curses etc.
 
Wow thats alot of people there. Its horrible that so many men go and Kill their woman the ones they so called "love".
I will answer these questions
1) I have been hit before. (and Im only 19) by my brother because he said I had a smart mouth. (It was not no brother sister fight) 🙁
2) No. I do not think it is okay for anyone to hit anyone no one has the right to hit anyone. No matter what she is to you!!! Who are you to hit them?
3) I have dont the hitting why, there is no real good answer. I grew up around this and unfortunatly I have a hand problem. The First step to recovery is admitting your problem and I am not afriad to say I need help.

I would like to ask another question.
4)Has anyone ever been subjected to any form of abuse when they were younger?
5) Have you ever seen some one getting beat on the street by their man/woman? what did you do?

my answers,
4) As I was growing up unfortunatly I saw it going on in my house physical, verbal and emotional abuse towards my mother. Until one day we all faught back. He never hit her again.
5)Ive seen Verbal abuse but kept on going. I saw my brother hit his wife and I stopped it unfortunatly I was next.
 

No man or woman should hit eachother. Unless you're playing around etc. And even then not the face.

If I had ever disrespect a woman, then I deserve the slap. And what I mean disrespect is by trying to get some, touch her on her privates, etc. I would take that slap. But I wouldn't disrespect. I've been told I'm too nice.

The reason why my ex was slapped. My mother never slapped me in the face. The face to me is something that should be respected. Once the face is touched respect is lost. Especially when it is done because of an argument. Many women love to slap the face out of anger during an argument. There's no reason what so ever to touch the face. Even if you cheated. (that wasn't the reason for me). She knew this. I told her about it. No matter what there shouldn't be any hitting during an argument. Especially the face. My mother never did it, and I'm surely not going to let any woman do it. Except of my reason I said prior. And in the middle of a crowded train she slapped my face. Just as fast she did she was slapped right back. This was the only time I hit a woman. And that was a long time ago.

Ok, now I'm ready for the barbardment of booos, curses etc.
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You would of hurt her more by walking away and not saying anything to her!!
The top that I put in bold is also another no no. That should also not be happening for the simple fact that once you start playing with the hands you start to lose respect for that person meaning you start to think that it is okay to hit so No I dont think a man and a woman should play like that. It is the start to problems
 
The reason I didn't walk away was for the simple fact she broke the respect, and she knew fron the get go not to touch my face. Hit me in the chest fine, not the face. The face is something that is respected. I still speak to her, and still good friends.

About the play fighting I know what you mean. I don't do it with anyone. And it's just something I did a long time ago. And actually with one girl. Wow I remember those days.
 
LATINOCOP did u guys break up after that or did u stay with her???


i was with this guy who hit me once...we were arguing over some dumb shit...like i had a hooded sweatshirt on and he told me it was a coat so i should take it off...that turned into the biggest fight i ever had with a man

so eventually we are standing up arguing and he smacks me CLEAR ACROSS THE ROOM!!!!! that shit hurt like hell!!! before then i thought i was tough and could handle myself...but that made me see reality
so now i am very careful about who i date and who i piss off

we ofcourse stopped seeing eachother

he still calls me, trying to have me see him, but hell no

we talked about it and it turns out he use to beat his sons mother all the time and he grew up with that in his childhood...he thought it was passed him and when he hit me he realized it wasnt...i dont know if he ever got help for it, but i hope he has so he doesnt do that to anyone else again
 
i hear you joe!!!

its not cool...i mean if he would have kept hitting me, i would have been done for
i dont know how some women live in fear of that EVERYDAY!!! that is no kind of life at all
 
i have no clue guess they like badboys with a record like 50 cent while the nice guy gets treated with no love at all . oh well i will be forever lost on this askin why they stick with someone who hurts them bad .
 
well I can say I've been hit (fuked up) once only. I've gotten into fist fight w/ men but that's b/c they try to feel me up and I ain't one to have that. of course these men thinking they "MEN" hit me back. but my ex lied to me and cheated (STILL W/ HER) and when I found out, I slapped him. I know I shouldn't have (I should've kicked his ass) but when I did it, he kicked mine. He's like u latino, never hit anyone in the face. it's total disrespect. but he had tried to lay a hand on me b4. no it ain't right for anyone to hit each other. i won't condone the mistakes I made, but I won't condone his either. I guess he got what he deserved and I got what I deserved.
 
IVE BEEN HIT AND SHOVED BEFORE BY MY EX BOYFRIEND. THEN I CAME TO MY SENSES AND LEFT. ALSO IVE BEEN IN A FIGHT WITH A DUDE. AND BEILEVE ME I PHUCKED UP HIS SHIT! :bangbang
 
Joe alot of woman live in fear and feel that they love him, many woman feel (I do not know why)that him hitting her shows that he loves her for some odd reason. Alot are just scared that if they do leave he would kill them. Many woman who were hit for the first time believe that he is sorry and would never do it again. Truth is once a man hits you and you take him back he'll do it again and again. But woman really think no he only did it once and belive that is the way he shows his affection. thats there excuse anyway.
Woman believe me do not want a bad man sometimes its just what there used to, Sometimes they get beaten up so emotionally and verbally that they dont think that they are good enough for anyone else.
 
First of all...let ANY man try to lay a hand on me and it's ON!

People that stay with abusers usually have a self confidence problem caused by the abuser. They convince the abusee that the problems are really their fault and that if they ever tried to leave that they wouldn't make it on their own.


Second of all...you guys need to lose the HUGE letters! Takes up way too much space and that ish is hard to read believe it or not! Please! For the sake of these OLD eyes of mine! I'm beggin you! :sosad
 
Krystal said:
Second of all...you guys need to lose the HUGE letters! Takes up way too much space and that ish is hard to read believe it or not! Please! For the sake of these OLD eyes of mine! I'm beggin you! :sosad
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You are not old Krys! :lol PAAAAA LEEEEAAAAASSSSEEEE!!!! 😀
 
well... me personally have never been in that type of relationship... but someone very close to me was in a 4 year relationship w/ a guy that beat her ass all the time... eventually she was able to get away from him (he was obsessed with her) & thank god she got away cause a year later he ended up w/ some other girl, and of course he beat her ass too.. but the difference is He killed her... Now hes in Jail for life thank god... When i think of how it couldve easily been someone i love with all my heart.. I pray everyday for the poor girl who lost her life to this maniac!!!
 
toni said:
LATINOCOP did u guys break up after that or did u stay with her???


i was with this guy who hit me once...we were arguing over some dumb shit...like i had a hooded sweatshirt on and he told me it was a coat so i should take it off...that turned into the biggest fight i ever had with a man

so eventually we are standing up arguing and he smacks me CLEAR ACROSS THE ROOM!!!!! that shit hurt like hell!!! before then i thought i was tough and could handle myself...but that made me see reality
so now i am very careful about who i date and who i piss off

we ofcourse stopped seeing eachother

he still calls me, trying to have me see him, but hell no

we talked about it and it turns out he use to beat his sons mother all the time and he grew up with that in his childhood...he thought it was passed him and when he hit me he realized it wasnt...i dont know if he ever got help for it, but i hope he has so he doesnt do that to anyone else again
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Yes we stood togeher after that. But she was th eone that hit my face first. And that was something I always said I would not condone. The face is something that is respected. Yeah, I am a man. But it had nothing to do with being a man or not. It had to do with respected. And no when I hit her I didn't knock her out. I just slapped her. So she would know to mess around with the face. It didn't even leave a mark.
 
nessa's302 said:
well I can say I've been hit (fuked up) once only. I've gotten into fist fight w/ men but that's b/c they try to feel me up and I ain't one to have that. of course these men thinking they "MEN" hit me back. but my ex lied to me and cheated (STILL W/ HER) and when I found out, I slapped him. I know I shouldn't have (I should've kicked his ass) but when I did it, he kicked mine. He's like u latino, never hit anyone in the face. it's total disrespect. but he had tried to lay a hand on me b4. no it ain't right for anyone to hit each other. i won't condone the mistakes I made, but I won't condone his either. I guess he got what he deserved and I got what I deserved.
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This situation I wouldn't hit a woman cause I am in the wrong. I was the one that disrespected her.
 
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