y should i bother or care (advice needed)

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gonna try to make a long story not so long.:yoplease
as most of you know, i've been dating a dominican guy since oct. i've known him since i started college in 2002. anyway things were good til the holidays came about. thats when
he started having to cancel our dates. i didnt see him for the holiday due to family circumstances but we exchanged gifts. anyway 2 weeks ago he told me he was sick and needs a operation again. so he was feeling better and said we were gonna get together this past wed. well he didnt show up nor did he call. he's never done that b4. if he had to cancel he always gives me advance notice. still havent heard form him. now the funny and or sad thing is that he signed up to take a college class with me on tues. it's gonna be akward seeing him there next week, especially if he hasnt called me b4 then.

i have been sick myself. wonder why he is doing this to me and acting that way??
no i am not in love with him but i do enjoy his company. we have never fought either, i am really pissed. any advice. :huh
 
also he had offered to give me all the books i neded for thsi semester since he has already taken those classes. so today i had to go buy them since he is MIA. that really pissed me off beyond belief.
 
Have you tried calling him and seeing what the story is?? and if he is playing games then yeah i agree with joe cut him off girl you dont deserve that kind of treatment.
 
So can you find some way to communicate with him and see what's up with him?
 
Make sure that is the case mama before you get Loca on him... he may have a medical condition that is graver than you thought and either could be staying away to save you from the suffering of watching him in his condition or has been too ill to want to reach out to ANYONE.
But of course you should try to find a way to get in touch with him to give him a chance to explain. And if the explaination is not to your satisfaction...
THEN YOU CAN PUT HIM IN THE HOSPITAL FOR REAL!!
 
sorry to say this amy but it sounds like he is married, or involved with someone, i could be wrong, but going from experience with some of my friends...i'm sorry u are going through this
 
that crosses my mind so i ask him time and time again. he says he's seperated. i have no proof. so i sit back. that isnt what bothers me its that he just like dissapeared. makes me go hmm.
 
Aim you still haven't talked to him? Wow ma that's a long time...or it seems like a long time. I say Aim that you just drop it...if you see him in class talk to him but don't make yourself seem desperate. Don't even ask him why he hasn't talk to you. Let him be the one to approach the situation and hear him out.
 
tita i spoke with him mon. he said he'd call tues. and then no contact since.
 
I'm sorry to say, but when a man or woman says they have no home or cell phone, they are married or involved and living with that person. There is no way anyone does not have money to afford a phone.
 
Has he ever been to the Dominican Republic???
I ask, because I'm married to one. And I know a lot of Dominican people.

Could be that he went to visit his family to the island on short notice and didn't get to tell you.

Now, he's never given you a phone so you can get in touch with him. Sounds a little devious, he could be hidding a wife.

My advise to you, don't do any Drama when you see him (he'll be expecting that if he's a playa) act really happy to see him and that you were worried for his health (you'll catch him off guard) and that way, you could very innocently ask him for a way to contact him.

Be very careful how you do it, so he wont suspect, and take notice of how he reacts, look staright at his eyes, if he's lying you'll know immediately you're a woman and we have that 6th sense that never fails.

If you notice any fault--dump him:forkyou--but do it nicely with style, that really hurts, 'cause he'll never know what him and will always wonder what the F%^&
happened :lol

Hope it turns good though.
 
i know that. so i decided if he evers wants to speak again he will have to give me a number where i can get a hold of him. if he doesnt speak to me then its his loss. i go on.
 
aim4night said:
tita i spoke with him mon. he said he'd call tues. and then no contact since.
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Well I hate to excuse myself for him but if you say he doesn't have a cell or a phone (which ma come on' its really hard to belive) it may be kind of difficult for him to call you...specially if he is still sick. How did the surgery go?
 
i know that. so i decided if he evers wants to speak again he will have to give me a number where i can get a hold of him. if he doesnt speak to me then its his loss. i go on.
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thanks peeps for your advice. i am gonna act normal in class. i will not speak to him. if he says something to me then i'll talk. but i have already made up my mind that unless he gets a phone then i am getting a new man. i dont play games.
 
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