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I just want to see what ya think about this and tell me if am wrong or he is wrong ...

Like ya know I been with this guy off and on for about 3 yrs 1/2 and we was planing in moving out and all. I found apartment next to where my moms live at and I look at it and I loved the apartment .. I told him about it and that they give me to March 1 to pay for it so we could move in first he said that he dont like the block where my moms live at ok find .. Now I have a problem and I need to get a place A.S.A.P. and I told him that . That things change that I have to move out and that we need to move into that apartment when I told him that he said well I was going to tell you that am not doing to well in my job and kept saying like he cant move in with me and all that sh*t ok fine .. But I got hurt and mad cuz every time we plain to move out he always say something when we about to do things oh I cant I dont have money or I have to take care of my mom first and when she taken care off then I move out ... Anyways the whole point is that every time we plain on something he always back off so . Today I got mad and told him am sorry but it seem like am to much of a women for you . You need a lil girl that dunno what she wants just like you ... I told him all am going to tell you if you say you love me you move out with me and if you dont then I take that as you dont love me and am not going to sit around until you ready .. .. Am ready and am going to move out by March 1 no matter what am doing it ...

He comes and tell me that I dont love him and all that you know like trying to turn it around so he wont look like a mama boy witch he is .. I was like am sorry I need a man not a kid ... I told him if I move out and do it all own my own am staying alone ...

So am wrong for telling him as it is or should I give him more time is like everything bullsh*t come on if you love someone you do what you have to. To be with that person you feel me .

Let me know what ya think ?
 
sounds like he is not ready to settle down . i would not wait if i were u if u have to go on the date they tell u to and he says no then just tell him i gotta do what i gotta do and like you said if he loves you he will go with you and if he keeps makin storys up then that sounds like he is not ready to move yet . good luck .
 
Thanx pa Yeah I know am tired of waiting around for him come on is been 3 yrs 1/2 ... I love him and all put just as I falled in love with him in time I will fall out of love cuz am to hurt am tired ... I need a men ..
 
Really think and be fair Shorty. Are you taking this action because you are insecure about him and his feelings towards you?....(then you're wrong) Or is it indeed because of the many time's he has let you down in the past that makes you hurt that you just can't take it anymore?....(then you're right)
 
cuz he showing me that is going to end up like all the other times ...Am tired am told him come March 1 am moving out and if you love me you will move out with me and if you dont then you dont love me ... I have a daughter to think of also I cant be waiting around all my life for him drop my things for him he never done it for me so why should I keep doing it for him ..
 
From what I gathered is that everytime you guys make plans to move in together it's fine and he's all for it. But when it comes down to it he has an excuse not to move in together.
If this is the case then he has some issues, what ever it is. I would just do what you want and move on. But if you are sure you will move on without him make sure you go through it. Not later on when he sees you doing good now wants to get back into your life and move in. And you let him in. Don't do things half ass.
 
i agree with joe & latinocop on this one.
seems like he makes excuses whenever it comes time for you 2 to live together. if this is not the first time, i would really think about ending things with him. you deserve some one who wants you completely. now if you are ok with living alone and dating him then do that. seems as if you are tired of the bs. my recent ex bf, that i broke up with in june, was like that. he didnt want to move away from the "nest."
i say start dating other guys and then when you find someone you think you can have a good relationship with, drop this mama's boy.:flowery
 
Now guys......just cuz he doesn't want to move in with her at the moment....doesnt mean that he doesnt love her. People have issues, circumstances. I would have a long serious talk with your b/f shorty. Find out things better. Ask questions you've never asked before that you've always wanted to know and go from there. Also let him know where your coming from as well. Tell him what you feel and how you feel. Tell him what you told us. Then get his feedback and work out something.


Also, and very important.....hear him out. Dont just hear. Be fair. Put yourself in his shoes.....it's a totally different world when you do that.

The whole thing is this......Be fair.
 
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shorty, what is up with your man girl? :confused sounds like he does not want to move in with you. Its funny because that sounds like the same lines I used with my baby's daddy before I moved in with him. I came up with every excuse I could, because I was not ready to move in and not to mention it was the first time that I lived with a guy. And why have you guys been off an on for the past 3 1/2 yrs?
 
Shorty,
he is not ready to settle down. When you talk about making something is one thing, but when its time to follow through with the plan and someone makes excuses, then he is not ready. You are never wrong when say what you feel.
 
He could be really scared to leave what he knows behind. That's a big red flag that you are not in the same place intellectually. I say you go with what your gut is telling you. He definitely doesn't sound like he's even ready to settle down with you. It's probably for the best that you give yourselves some space for the time being to heal yourself and move on if possible. But I'm certain, when you eventually make that move and he sees that you ain't playing things will be different. Weather for good or bad, I can't really say 😕
 
yeah I listen to him and everything but this is not the first time he does this come on after a few you get tired . I told him how I feel also he knows I have a daughter I cant be playing these games ...
 
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