So Confused

[ItalynPrncess]

Hey everyone, reading all your posts inspired me to ask for advice for myself. I've been seeing this guy for 2 months, and in the beginning we spent every second together that we could. He's a fireman, and he'd blow off his fire meetings, and everything to be with me. Now, things are starting to change. We don't see each other everyday, and sometimes I think he lies to me about where he's going - so he can spend time with his friends without telling me. I know that he should be able to spend time with his friends and everything, but I feel like our relationship is changing. He swears to me that nothing is wrong, and that he loves me. Am I just being paranoid thinking that there is something wrong? HELP! I love this guy with all my heart, and I want to make sure I'm not setting myself up to get hurt.

 

[SweetGirl]

ok...this is just my opinion...you dont have to take it... but...


give him the space he needs...and you take your space also, im not saying seperate, its just give it time...tell him straight fwd that you dont mind him being with his friends, but you need him too. Remember keypoint to a relationship is "Communication"!
Ask questions, but never jump to a conclusion unless you see something strange and you confirm it. Tell him your likes and dislikes about what is happening, and ask him his.


If he is the one for you, go for yours and find out whats happening...tell him how you feel, let him know that you dont want to get hurt. Honesty and Communication will help you out...

GoodLuck

Hugglez
Luna aka
sweetgirl

 

[Martini]

i think it was too much too fast. you guys need some space. give him his and take yours mama!! if it was meant to be, it'll all fall into place on its own. 🙂

 

[ITALIAN BELLA]

hey hey

BELLA UR STORY IS LIKE MINE HAHA IVE KNOWN THIS GUY FOR A WHILE AND WE USE TO SPEND EVERY DAY ALL DAY TOGETHER ..THEN OUT OF NO WHERE HE SAYS WE NEED A "BREAK" SO WE DONT TALK EVERYDAY WE BARELY TALK MAYBE LIKE UMMM EVERY 2 OR 3 DAYS AND NOT FOR LONG....HE SWEARS THERES NO ONE ELSE BUT ME AND ALL THAT STUFF AND HE STILL LOVES ME ..I JUST THINK ITS CAUSE HE NEEDS TIME WITH HIS FRIENDS..AND THATS PROBALBY WHAT IT IS WITH UR GUY TOO...JUST GIVE IT TIME TO SEE HOW THINGS PLAY OUT AND DONT BE PUSHY...
I AGREE WITH SWEETGIRL....MAYBE U SHOULD TALK TO HIM AND TELL HIM HOW U FEEL ABOUT THINGS AND ASK HIM HOW HE FEELS..ONCE U GUYS GET EVERYTHING OUT IN THE OPEN THINGS SHOULD CLEAR UP AND U'LL FEEL MUCH BETTER TOO😉

 

[Sexyangel329]

I GOTTA GO WITH MARTINI ON THIS ONE WHAT IS MEANT TO BE WILL BE. I WAS IN A SITUATION SIMULAR TO YOURS. THINGS IN THE BEGINNING WERE MORE THEN GOOD ON THE PHONE 24/7 CALLS ALL HOURS OF THE NIGHT ETC. IT IS ALWAYS LIKE THAT YOU CANT GET ENOUGH OF EACH OTHER. IF THE SITUATION HAS GOTTEN TO THE POINT WHERE YOU ARE STARTING TO DOUBT HIM IT IS BEST YOU LET HIM KNOW OR GIVE HIM THAT SPACE MAMA. I SAY LET HIM KNOW WHAT IS EXACTLY ON YOUR MIND DONT TORTURE YOURSELF WONDERING. DO YOU TRUST HIM IF SO THEN YOU HAVE NOTHING TO WORRY ABOUT. WHEN I AM IN A RELATIONSHIP THE TIME I SPEND WITH MY FRIENDS IS VERY IMPORTANT TO ME I NEED THAT SPACE JUST AS I KNOW WHOMEVER I AM WITH NEEDS THERES. WE ALL NEED A BREATHER. GOOD LUCK MAMA 🙂

 

[Heavenly]

I agree WITH EVERYONE......What they said MAKES SENSE!!! Both of you guys need space and time with your friends. Don't be pushy, but tell him how you feel. Like everyone said TRUST, COMMUNICATION, and HONESTY is the key to a solid relationship. Trust him and all will work out.

 

[Rayvo]

Italynprinces

You have been seeing this guy for 2 months you said ? and hes already telling you he loves you ? Thats too soon for love in my opinion. Getting back to your question. Give him his space let him see his boys and you see your girls, but why would he have to lie to you about seeing his boys ? can't he just tell you the truth ? That wouldnt make you wonder as much I dont think if he told you the truth.

 

[Dayer]

I gotta agree with Martini here.

You gotta slow down a lil bit ma! Everything works out on its own

 

[mystic]

LOve is Sometimes Missunderstood

To quote the immortal Tony Moran Dont let me be Missunderstood. Its simple I dont know how old u are but girl expierence is a factor. You need to take a deep breathe and let be what is, and what aint dont fantazize. WE all want that perfection but allways fall short. Learn from one and be content from the next. For duplication in love, is non existent. We are all unique. It sounds like you are useto someone else and this person is falling short of Previous expectations. Take your time girl. Your allready saying you love him in only two mnths. (Impossible) . Time is the bandage that heals all wounds and you seem to not have given time the oppourtunity heal the old ones. If it aint broke dont try to fix it. Get it. any ??????????'s. 😕