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Hey you guys wassup!!! Anyways, just wanted to clue you in on what has been happening with my Rich situation. Well I told him that i would give him time to decide if he wanted to be with me or this other girl. I told him that during this time that i would stay faithful to him to prove to him that he is my one and only. And i have. He told me not to give up on us and him,which i haven't. So then it was all ok. My heart has been aching ever since. He passes me by and i just want to grab him and kiss him like before. We recently started talking like before. Been playing around with each other a lot lately too. Good signs!?
Well he told my friend that he still liked me and that he only goes to work when he doesn't have to just to see me. 😉 And that he doesn't even like this girl that he is with and that he only did this so i could feel what he felt when i did him wrong. And i do!! It hurts deeply.
We decided to move in with each other, but then I decided that it wasn't going to be a good idea.
Well my friend said that i should go to him and ask him what was going to happen between us. That I gave him too much time and just to go to him and ask him. It has only been two weeks and yet it feels like it's been two years. I'm miserable with out him. Well I did go to him and told him everything that i was feeling. That i missed him, couldn't get him off my mind, that i needed to know where we stand. He said he couldn't answer me yes or no right then and there. And then he told me that cheese is good. I was so mad. Here i was pouring my heart to him and he tells me that cheese is good.
Well then i went and sat next to him and told him that the only reason i went up to him was that i was tired of writing these bullshit letters that he writes one thing and means another and that i thought that i was an adult now and that i could do this in person. And that it pissed me off more that he told me that he hasn't even been thinking of it. That it's either you thought of it or you didn't?! You either like me, think of me, want to be with me or you dont? He said he does. So what's the deal?
Does he actually want to be with me or does he just want to make me wait for no reason? And how much more time should i give him before i ask him again? Or should i not ask him again and wait till he comes to me? And do you guys think that i should of went up to him in the first place? Help!!
 
I as a guy don't kiss @$$. Not to brag, but people that know me know I've had my share of women. And for that matter their share also. I was in love once in my life before I got married to my second love. In between those 2 loves I had girls that I would treat like the way he is treating you. I did it because I didn't care or want to be with them. Also if the girl was dumb enough to keep "giving it up" it was a bonus. I'm not saying that you are dumb for really caring for the guy, it's only natural if you do. But when that other someone doesn't return the affection or makes you wait, I would say cancel him. Believe That. Trust me, you will find somebody that will treat you like the queen (or godess) that you are. Another thing is never give 100% of your heart to that person. Even if you are married. You give them 99.9% of it & let them give you 100% of theirs. This way you always have the upperhand. "The Person That Loves The Least In The Relationship Is The One In Control".
 
OMG Honey noooooo!!!!!!!! What are you doing to yourself????!!!!!!!!! Forget about this guy, please!!!! I wish you could see how bad he's treating you! This gets me so angry. I hate to see women let themselves be walked all over. Babygirl, you don't need him! He is treating you like you don't have any feelings. He doesn't care about you baby!!!!! He does not want to be with you because if he did, you two would be inseparable.

You know, I recently went to "Stop the Violence Against Women Day" at the Garden, a benefit concert. They had a slew of celebrities and did skits from the Vagina Monologues. Queen Latifah sang U.N.I.T.Y in the end and it brang me to tears. If I tell you how empowered I felt when I left there, you would be a changed woman. I took my best friend, who was in the same situation as you are right now. And she cried afterwards and said she felt like a woman for the first time in her life, after seeing that concert. We both learned so much about ourselves. We realized how much more we deserved out of life, and especially from men. I recommend every woman see that play. I guarantee it will give you a whole new outlook on your life.

But more about you, please don't let this man control your life anymore honey. Know that you are a strong, intelligent, beautiful woman who will not allow any man to treat her so coldly, as if she is nothing in this world. You are better than that!!
 
Well you guys thank you for making me cry. I really needed that. It hurt to realize that what you two were saying is true, but i still feel that it isn't. I told him though that i ain't waiting no more. That if he honestly wanted to be with me like he supposedly says then he would stop playing these freaking mind games with me. That even though i love him that i am tired of waiting. I want to leave the bad stuff in the past and live for now and the future and if he plans on playing these damn games and not even thinking about an us again to let me know. Cause now i think it's time that i cut him off. He was being in control and i don't want that right now. I have done this once before and the guy came back to me 3 1/2 years later and by then i didn't even want him anymore. I'm not doing it again. 🙁

[Edited by FreestyleGoddes on 04-11-2001 at 09:08 AM]
 
Well, I'm glad that you ended it. Personally, I wouldn't of even gave him the opportunity to say that he wants to be together. I wouldn't of even called his ass ever again!! But that's ok.... you're learning mama. You'll see.... hopefully. You don't sound too convinced that you made the right decision though. I hope you realize that you did the best thing. Now, to get over a broken heart -- my friends and I always take each other to Outback Steakhouse for that!! I suggest you and your girlfriends go out and make fun of him all night. Make a list of all the corny things he does -- just unleash it girlie! Stand up straight like the princess you are, and let everyone know that you are a strong independent woman!!!!!!! 🙂
 
Thanks. I right now don't feel that i did make the right decision, but in the long run it will feel that i have. right now i'm just crying and crying cause i miss him soooooo much. And about going out with my girlfriends and stuff, that would be hard when i don't have any girlfriends. 🙁 It's so sad. I really hope that my heartache heals soon. I really hate this feeling inside and the way it makes me look outside.
 
I don't know mama......

I hope you see that there is more to life than Rich. I always see it like this: If a guy likes me, then he'll make the effort and show me that he really cares. Especially if I let him know how much I care for him. Now since you told Rich your feelings, and he hasn't reciprocated them..... What does that tell you???? I know it's hard, but you have to stop beating yourself up over someone like him. Aren't you angry that he makes you cry? Aren't you angry that he doesn't love you the way you love him? Aren't you angry that he responded, "cheese"? Aren't you angry that he treats you like dirt and doesn't care about your feelings? Well you should be... cuz I am!! Screw this loser. Get a backbone and find someone who will treasure you. Stop letting people walk all over you baby!!!! Get out of your house and look around you. Why are you gonna cry over this? Everything happens for a reason. Be glad that he doesn't want you. Cuz now you know the type of person he really is. He did you a favor and saved you from future heartache. Say goodbye to him and hello to the next studd.
 
You are so right. It does make me furious that he answered cheese. It makes me sad that he lied to me and claimed he loved me. If he really loved me, then he would forgive me for what i did and realize that i only love him. It makes me sad that he doesnt tell me how he feels. This will make me stronger even though at the moment i feel that it makes me weaker. My backbone is growing little by little and when it healed, i'm going to be the one that walks all over him. Just you wait and see.
 
That's right mama!!!!!!! YOU GO!!!!!!!! U.N.I.T.Y!!!!!
Release the bitch in you and let her walk all over that loser!!!!!!
 
sorry but...

i am sorry that i didnt read that till now... I fel for you babe, but they are all right... listen to the freestyle nation babe... we all know that we are the Gods of Love... Freestylers set the line for what love is... If anyone has a problem, love-wise, they should come directly to this forum for advice... ya know..? Much Luv Boo, and email me so we can chat again... missin you babez...
~Desejo
 
freestylegoddess

dont worry about it ma' yo you were the big person here and you did your best that kat dont deserve you your better than that just be real ma'
 
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