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OK everyone..I need some help here. There is this guy that I have been in love with for years. Without going into detail, I know that we will never be together. However, I still think about him all the time and when I see him, the feelings come rushing back. I dont think he even knows how Ive felt about him and I was never able to find out how he really felt about me...he used to tell me he loves me but I dont know if he really meant it. I went to where he works Sat night (it's a restaurant)...he didnt even see me sitting there and I saw him flirting with someone else...and needless to say, I was really hurt. My question is...what do u do when u have all these feelings for someone but u cant do anything about it? And even when u try to move on, do u ever really get past that person when u loved them for so long?? Things have been so different between us lately and I miss the way it used to be.

Randi (FreestyleGal)
 
You know what I think makes it hard to move on...you don't want to forget...that's what it comes down to in my opinion...but what is that you don't want to forget maybe another hard question to answer...sometimes the best thing is to really avoid seeing the person and anything to do with them...and if by some chance you couldn't control you do encounter this person well you have to sort out your feelings...I know it's hard I've lived and am living thru basically the same thing...and this is what I've been told and it sorta helps but sometimes it doesn't it's hard when you feel very differently than the other person cuz if you both felt the same it would be so much easier lol...that's all I can really say about this...good luck 🙂
 
Maybe You Should Tell Him How You Feel Mamas, Then Decide Together What To Do....
 
Your torturing yourself by never having told him that you have these feelings for him regardless of things beig able to be or not between the two of you, its hard feeling one way for someone while they feel another way but it is even harder not having said how you feel. The only way you find any kind of closure or at least be able to deal with your emotions better is by letting him know how you feel even if the feelings are returned at leaast you will have peace of mind because you will have told him everything that lays in your heart. When you try and stay away or avoid a person it may seem easy but you still plant in your head Hey I will see him again) and in the end it really doesnt help. I have tried that, everyones situation is different our levels of dealings with the heart are never the same, but I can tell you the times that I have sat here torturing myself over the way I felt or the things I wanted to say once I said the I felt peace of mind regardless of what the outcome turned out to be. In the end only you can decide. Best of luck.
 
Hey Ran, I think you need to go out with me to forget him!!!! On the serious tip, I've been through that and it hurts like Hell. The only way to get over it is with time....Good luck sweetie!
 
Thank you all for your advice...I really appreciate it. I still kinda hope to have the opportunity to tell him my feelings someday...even if it doesnt change the outcome, I still would like him to know. I would also like to know what his true feelings have been, but yet a part of me doesnt want to know for fear that I will be even more hurt.

Sonya...you are so right when you said I dont want to forget...I think that's a big part of it.

ATX...thnaks for the PM and Im gonna go check out your poem right now!!

Sexy...girl, thanks so much for your advice...you said so many true things.

And Scott...you are too funny lol But you are right..time does heal all wounds...unfortunately, it does take a lot of time!!

Randi (FreestyleGal)
 
Freestygal said:
OK everyone..I need some help here. There is this guy that I have been in love with for years. Without going into detail, I know that we will never be together. However, I still think about him all the time and when I see him, the feelings come rushing back. I dont think he even knows how Ive felt about him and I was never able to find out how he really felt about me...he used to tell me he loves me but I dont know if he really meant it. I went to where he works Sat night (it's a restaurant)...he didnt even see me sitting there and I saw him flirting with someone else...and needless to say, I was really hurt. My question is...what do u do when u have all these feelings for someone but u cant do anything about it? And even when u try to move on, do u ever really get past that person when u loved them for so long?? Things have been so different between us lately and I miss the way it used to be.

Randi (FreestyleGal)
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HEY MAMA. I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL I AM KIND OF IN THE SAME SITUATION. WELL I THINK THE NEXT TIME YOU COME IN CONTACT WITH THIS GUY YOU SHOULD TELL HIM EXACTLY HOW YOU FEEL BECAUSE IF YOU DON'T LATER ON YOU WILL MOST LIKELY REGRET IT AND YOU DON'T WANT TO DO THAT. JUST TELL HIM EVERYTHING AND SEE WHAT HE SAYS OR DOES ABOUT IT MEANWHILE DON'T SIT AROUND WAITING FOR HIM OR THINKING ABOUT HIM. KEEP YOURSELF BUSY. I KNOW ITS HARD BELIEVE ME BUT DON'T GO TO PLACES THAT YOU KNOW HE WILL BE. TRY YOUR BEST TO GET OVER HIM YOU SHOULD NOT BE DOING THIS TO YOURESELF. MAYBE IT ISN'T MEANT TO BE, MAYBE YOU WILL FIND SOMEONE WHO WILL LOVE AND APPRECIATE YOU WITHOUT YOU HAVING TO DO A THING. IN FACT I KNOW YOU WILL. GO OUT AND HAVE FUN. YOU DESERVE TO BE HAPPY. YOU KNOW WHAT THEY SAY IF YOU LOVE SOMEONE LET THEM GO IF THEY COME BACK TO YOU THEY ARE YOURS IF THEY DON'T THEY NEVER WERE. LET EVERYTHING FALL INTO PLACE AND IF IT TURNS OUT THAT YOU GUYS CAN'T BE TOGETHER OK FINE BETTER FOR YOU BECAUSE YOU WILL FIND SOMEONE WHO WILL CHERISH YOU. TAKE CARE MAMA. GOOD LUCK.
 
Thank you so much labella....you are so right. And I do want to tell him how I feel...hopefully that will happen soon. Ive been trying really hard to be strong about the whole thing...sometimes I have an easier time doing that than other times. But u are right..some things are meant to be and some arent. Hopefully Mr Right is out there for me 🙂

Randi (FreestyleGal)
 
Freestygal said:
Thank you so much labella....you are so right. And I do want to tell him how I feel...hopefully that will happen soon. Ive been trying really hard to be strong about the whole thing...sometimes I have an easier time doing that than other times. But u are right..some things are meant to be and some arent. Hopefully Mr Right is out there for me 🙂

Randi (FreestyleGal)
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YOUR WELCOME MAMA ANYTIME
 
unless you tell him your feelings and or you do and it's not mutual, you need to move on. find someone else that you can be invovled with. dont think or see this guy. forget him.
 
You're welcome I am just comparing what you said to my own experience...I hope it all works out for you bella 🙂
 
You are all great friends and I want to thank each and every one of you for your help and advice. This has been a really tough situation for me and not too many people understand what Im going through. It's nice to know that I have friends on CF who do understand! 🙂

Randi (FreestyleGal)
 
Basically everyone has said something to you that's really worthy. So I wont say much, and it's only my advice.

You need closure, to set your heart free (because it's tied to him). Regardsless of the outcome, let him know how you feel. Sometimes it's hard to take that leap and give your :hpound to someone, but then your :hpound will be hurting so much more that you wont be happy.

Be courageous and tell him what your feelings are no matter if he doesn't feel the same way. Either way it'll workout for you because your heart will be free to love him or to love someone else.

I did it once and I know it's really really hard to take the first step because of fear of rejection, but then it all falls into place. Remeber Time heals the wounds.

Wish you the best of luck
 
Thanks GI...and you are right, closure is extremely important. Sometimes the not knowing is the hardest part. I dont always have the opportunity to talk to him but I hope to have that chance very soon. Maybe I just need to tell him my feelings once and for all!!

Thanks again 🙂

Randi (FreestyleGal)
 
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